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Summary: every parent needs to read and USE this book
Review: Every kid, and, for that matter, every one, needs the 7 significant factors outlined in this book. If you are serious about helping to prevent more school violence tragedies, read and then USE this book. It's on the recommended reading page on my website.
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Summary: The best guide to raising healthy happy people.
Review: I can't say enough about this book. I've been recommending it to every parent and parent-to-be I meet. We began using several techniques right away with amazing results. The book was recommended to us by our daughter's Montessori teacher. I now know why Montessori children are capable cooperative young people. Don't miss this opportunity to develope a wonderful and respectful relationship with your child. I only wish we read it many years earlier.
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Summary: Time-tested, workable ideas!
Review: My daughter is currently 16 and my son is 13. I first discovered Stephen Glenn and Jane Nelson just before my son was born in 1988. I was very impressed with their ideas and have consistently used them ever since, with excellent results.Glenn & Nelson state that self-reliance and self-responsibility will never stop being crucial, in any society, at any time in history. But, unfortunately for parents today, we receive very little help from the society at large (especially the public schools) in teaching these values to our children. This means that modern parenting is far more complicated than simply enjoying and loving our children. There are essential attitudes and skills they need to know in order to grow into decent, self-reliant adults which no one is likely to teach them if we don't. But in order to do this, we first need to know what these attitudes and skills are and what techniques work for teaching them, and then apply those techniques regularly by spending frequent one-on-one time with our children. I believe that though many parents will find the ideas in this book inspiring, a big barrier stands in the way of them actually following its advice--they are already strongly established in the convenient, no-thinking-required, typical tradition of parenting in the U.S.: (1) eating dinner together as a family group as many nights a week as possible; (2) nagging the kids daily to clean their rooms, do their homework and chores; (3) going on family outings, such as a fast food place or a movie, several times a month; (4) telling the kids if they complain about bullying from siblings or schoolmates to "stop tattling and work it out yourselves;" (5) ignoring each other the rest of the time as much as possible. When parents are used to an uncomplicated pattern like this, implementing Glenn & Nelson's time-consuming and thought-involving ideas will require a huge lifestyle change, which may be very uncomfortable. Here are some examples of these ideas, which I have found extremely helpful, but are anything but simple or easy to apply: (1) Stay calm. When you get upset at the kids, Glenn & Nelsen suggest getting out your anger and frustration by yelling, privately, at the mirror in the bathroom, and after the worst is over and you are not so upset, only then go talk with your child and discuss what went wrong and what can be done differently next time. (2) Treating children with dignity and respect. Philosophically, many people these days believe it's a good idea to treat all human beings with dignity and respect, but in practice, even people to whom these beliefs are sacred frequently instinctively speak disrespectfully to family members, especially their children. When people hold no such belief, then the odds are it is only an accident of a fleeting good mood that will cause them to speak with respect to their children. (3) Planning ahead. Glenn & Nelson suggest discussing important situations in the child's life ahead of time and coming up with an agreement that spells out meaningful consequences if the child does not live up to the agreement. Glenn & Nelsen openly admit in this book that positive, assertive (vs. oppressive or permissive) parenting is top-heavy on the work involved when you are first starting it, because it is never easy to learn new habits. However, without this effort, early on and consistently, our children all too often drift away from us over the years, some to the point of becoming almost totally emotionally disconnected during the dangerous teen years. At that point, to start the work of positive, assertive parenting can be a nightmare of endless, painfully frustrating work, with no guaranteed outcome, no matter how hard we try. For this reason, I recommend this book most strongly to people who are expecting their first child, or to parents with small children. These ideas will still work for parents of teenagers, but it is far better to head off future bad outcomes by preventing them.
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Summary: Maybe Not Such a Godsend
Review: The bottom line on this book is that you should stop doing everything for your children. Coddling can cripple a child for life. That's a pretty easy premise to accept. However, some of the promises made by this book are not so easy to accept. The authors seem to imply that parents who follow their time-tested strategies can bring all children around. They act as if all children are cut from the same mold and will behave reasonably when treated reasonably. Unfortunately, this isn't necessarily so. On the other hand, regular family dinners and meetings probably won't hurt, either.
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Summary: Maybe Not Such a Godsend
Review: The bottom line on this book is that you should stop doing everything for your children. Coddling can cripple a child for life. That's a pretty easy premise to accept. However, some of the promises made by this book are not so easy to accept. The authors seem to imply that parents who follow their time-tested strategies can bring all children around. They act as if all children are cut from the same mold and will behave reasonably when treated reasonably. Unfortunately, this isn't necessarily so. On the other hand, regular family dinners and meetings probably won't hurt, either.
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Summary: Tough love with a tender heart: A must read!
Review: The goal of all parents is ultimately to prepare their offspring to eventually step out into the world as independent and responsible adults themselves. As we all know, reaching that goal is a painful yet exhilarating process. Learning how and when to cut the apron strings is a lesson all parents must learn. This excellent parenting help book is a must read for all brave souls daring to raise children into adulthood. Glenn and Nelson's book is an easy to read, jargon-free, practical, life affirming, and strengthening guide on how to raise children in a world that is drastically shifting from Production based to Consumer driven. It is becoming far too easy to raise children to be passive souls who fail to gain spiritual and ethical maturity who can make eductated decisions and accept the consequences of their actions. Glenn (a hyperactive child and adult himself!) lays out simple strategies and philosophies that do meld tough love with a tender and loving heart. Of all the parenting books we (my wife and I) have read, this has proven the most important and helpful to date as we have constantly returned to re-read many passages to gain reflective insight and know we are not alone in our convictions. A definate 5 out of 5 in a market flooded with too many pale and weak products.
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Summary: I wish I could buy one copy for every family in the world!
Review: This is an absolutely wonderful book! Don't waste your time if you are stuck on the issue of strictness or leniency in discipline. This book teaches us as parents how to teach accountability and responsibility. It helps you to recognize what discipline gives the child. More than anything it allows you to make your child feel self-worth...after all if something is worth something, you take care of it. Many children today don't have a good feeling about self-worth!
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Summary: Don't raise a family without it!
Review: Throw out all of your other parenting books. This is the one to read, and re-read. It has been invaluable for me personally, and I have bought several copies to pass along to my friends.
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Summary: Don't raise a family without it!
Review: Throw out all of your other parenting books. This is the one to read, and re-read. It has been invaluable for me personally, and I have bought several copies to pass along to my friends.
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Summary: The master guide to living
Review: You never realize just how wrong you've been raised up until you read this book. Glenn and Nelsen touch on some of the simplest, yet biggest aspects plaguing our society today. This book covers everything on how to fix social barriers and generally become a better person while allowing others the same opportunity. I honestly believe that everyone should read this book. Even if you don't have children of your own, the principals it teaches can be applied universally. You'll realize now the right and wrong ways to associate with people. Must... read... book...
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