No Visible Wounds : Identifying Non-Physical Abuse of Women by Their Men

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Summary: Abused male
Review: 55% of all domestic violence is caused by women Not men. My ex-wife hit me 38 times and she has still not been arrested. This book only seperateS and promoteS a discrimination against men. Both men and women are abused and should be treated the same. This problem will only start to be solved when all Shelters are open to MEN and women, not just "the weaker sex." Everyone should care about this problem because, ALL VICTIMS IN UP IN THE EMERGENCY ROOM USUALLY WITHOUT HEALTH INSURANCE- which means YOU PAY FOR THEIR CARE!

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Summary: This book is essential for peopleraised in the United States
Review: As a counselor in the field of domestic violence, specifically working with women's groups, I feel I've finally found a thorough explanation of men's non-physical abuse of women in our society. Dr. Miller does a phenomenal job of peeling the onion, i.e. defining and explaining all the convoluted reasoning behind men who control women by any means necessary. Dr. Miller calls this behavior what it is ABUSE. She points out that we are socialized to deny and accept and cover up domestic abuse. My favorite line is her description of our society's response to domestic violence, including non-physical abuse, as one of "learned helplessness". This book is enlightening for those who work with women in abusive relationships, for the women themselves and for all of us living in a culture that creates, reinforces and perpetuates abuse against women.

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Summary: Great Book For Any Woman
Review: I bought this book to help a friend of mine in an abusive situation, but it also taught me a few things about my own life. I highly recommend this book for any woman.

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Summary: Excellent Book
Review: I bought this book to help a friend out, and it made me learn a few things about my own marriage. I highly recommend this book to any woman, whether you are having problems or not.

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Summary: This book accurately describes and validates what I lived.
Review: I found this book just by chance. What a fortunate accident! Miller's description of men just like my now-ex-husband amazed me. Even so, at first I considered the book kind of simple. Then the memories started coming back, from two decades of marriage. His cutting remarks and actions that left me emotionally lost suddenly made sense. My always-failing attempts to make myself better for him, to make our marriage and family better, suddenly looked preposterous. A year after reading this book, old memories still surface with a profound new perspective. No Visible Wounds is not at all simple. It is enormously enlightening and liberating. I highly recommend this book. I am giving it to my own parents, who still don't understand why I divorced him, who this cruel man (they think he's delightful and sincere) still has wrapped around his little finger.

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Summary: This book change my life
Review: I knew there was something wrong with my marriage, but couldn't put my finger on it. This book opened my eyes and woke me up! I have to be honest, I cannot tell you much about the quality of Mary Susan Miller's writing style, I was too busy trying to absorb all the information.
Please don't hesitate to buy it; the price is small compared to the knowledge you will gain. I read this book cover to cover, then read it one more time and passed it on to my daughter. I'm going to buy a copy for my Mom, and one for each of my sisters. I feel this information is of value to every woman, no matter what kind of relationship she is in.



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Summary: The Stark Reality
Review: In our historic quest of honor and patriotic bravery, America has often forgotten the honor and bravery of protection and preservation in its human relationships as this spectacular book clearly shows. It applies equally well to men and to women since both are subject to the verbal and emotional abuses of each other when we allow ourselves to ignore the needs and sensitivities of others, especially our spouses. It is an excellent anthology on the behaviors which we sometimes ignore as abusive, or justify as legitimate, despite the damage they cause to the intimacies we are pledged to uphold in the vows we take when we are first married. It also does an excellent job of showing how such treatment is neglected in the courts and before judges who are rooted in the old fashioned leverage of justice where equality and equal treatment are not a part of civility, and the grandeur of chivalry (by males or females) is long forgotten as a part of our expectations. It shows why communications fail, why they are unlikely to be fixed, and why persons tend to stay with spouses who are abusive either to provide a stable environment for their children, or because much needed public services and support are not available to address their needs. It should be a required reading for all human relations training.

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Summary: No Visible Wounds
Review: It is another books that tells you how to get out, but not how you got there (with an emotional abuser) in the first place. What is it about us that causes us to end up with emotional abusers? Lack of options? Low self-esteem? Must be something deeper.

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Summary: No Visible Wounds
Review: My copy of this book is dog-eared. It was the most helpful printed material I read as I fled from my abusive marriage the final time.
Mary Susan Miller writes with incredible insight and sensitivity, and effectively identifies the complexities of nonphysical battering. If you are in an abusive relationship, get this book. If you have a friend in an abusive relationship, get it for her. If neither of the above apply, donate a copy to your local Domestic Violence Shelter. Every abused woman should have a copy.

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Summary: No Visible Wounds
Review: This book is the ONLY book that describes the verbal/emotional
abuse of "Gaslighting", psychological abuse that subtly debilitates and destroys a person's mind. The worst abuse is a man stealing his wife's personal items and telling his wife that "something is wrong" with their child,then asking the wife to question the and spank the child for stealing--- and then telling the child to "not upset Mommy because she is crazy and can't help it". This torture has been used to steal family money, to destroy a mother/child relationship and to ensure that the wife come under complete control of the husband. Read this book if you have been abused severely. It is of help to know that others exist.