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Summary: Fabulous techniques
Review: This book teaches adults how to teach children in their lives not to speak rudely to others. It is amazing to realize how early some children learn to backtalk, and how quickly you can break them of that habit (the sooner the better!) The book tells you how to recognize the difference between rude backtalk and requests for topics of conversation (sometimes the difference can be hazy.) It also shows you how to immediately enact a consequence so that the child is told unequivocally that their behavior is unacceptable and will not be tolerated. This book has no room for "IF you do this again, I will do this..." It jumps right in with both feet - "BECAUSE you were rude and that makes me feel bad/sad/angry, I don't feel like doing this nice thing that I had said I would do for you." When the child sees immediate consequences, he learns very quickly and the behavior can be eliminated within a few weeks. This book is straightforward and exceedingly helpful for adults who interact with children of all ages.
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Summary: This book made so much sense!
Review: This book was quite a quick read. It was direct and thorough and gave so many scenarious that I deal with on a day to day basis. I am implementing the program and already after the third day I have seen improvements in my childrens' behavior. I have a two year old boy and a five year old girl and both of them have become quite the backtalkers! I really needed this book as I was at my wits end on how to deal with this behavior. It gave me other options rather than just a time out which really never corrected the behavior. I highly recommend this book to every parent. Most importantly, carefully select appropriate programming for your children as they learn lots of rude behavior from their daily television shows they watch on tv.
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Summary: Great Help for an Out-of-Control Backtalking Generation
Review: This book was very informative and easy to read. The 4 step program is easy to follow and impliment into our daily life. My 6 year old stepson has really started to use backtalk since having to have longer residentail visits with his mother and starting school. I plan on having his mother read this and try to impliment the 4 steps in their routine too. It is a very fair way to deal with him and his "generation". With all of the outside forces guiding him and his peers towards rude bahavior, parents need to take a more firm stand to take control of their own homes and lives. We were made parents for a reason... to guide and mold our children, not the other way around. It is hard to keep up with the enforcing of the epunishment but it only took a few times for my son to realize I ment what I said and would follow through. I look forward to having this book on hand for when my toddler daughter takes her first step towards backtalking. I feel more confident as a parent and better equiped to handle any backtalking situation that arrises. My thanks go out to Mrs. Ricker & Crowder for an informative and helpful book.
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Summary: WORKS ON ADULTS, TOO!
Review: This is an effective programme which, I have discovered, works on adults too. If you've a disrespectful spouse, parent or sibling, try it out
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Summary: A simple way of gaining control of your home
Review: We never had a back talk problem with our kids. No, they were not perfect kids; they could roll their eyes, ignore their parents and be sassy like other children. The only difference is that we never tolerated that kind of behavior in our home. Our children are now young adults and  all of them are doing well. Even as adult children they would never dream of dishonoring their parents. You would think that as a pastor, I could effective teach others to do what we have done, but I had difficulty in communicated how we did this to other parents who needed help. To me, it was intuitive behavior and I could not understand why other parents did not do what my wife and I did. Frustrated, I ordered five copies of Backtalk after seeing the authors interviewed on the Today Show. Ricker and Crowder, parents who have conquered the Backtalk road, give common sense advice on how to reclaim parental authority, bring peace to your home, and help you raise up kids whom you will actually like.Â
The principles set forth in Backtalk are based on the philosophical assumptions of Alfred Adler who believed that the most important point to make to parents was that their reaction to a child's misbehavior would either encourage the behavior, resulting in recurrence, or discourage the behavior. From this the authors have set forth a four-step system of logical consequences to discourage negative behavior and encourage positive behavior. The process is simple, but not easy. But take it from a dad and who raised up three respectful children, who and not only a joy to us but also to our friends, neighbors and congregation as well, it is worth the effort. For those of you who are unaware of the work of Adler, Dr. Laura of radio fame employs Adlerian methodology in her advice. But beware! The authors rightly point out that if you employ their method, you may be seen and being self-righteous and cruel by psychologist, school teachers, friends and even your own family. But this stuff works. Just look at my three kids.
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Summary: A simple way of gaining control of your home
Review: We never had a back talk problem with our kids. No, they were not perfect kids; they could roll their eyes, ignore their parents and be sassy like other children. The only difference is that we never tolerated that kind of behavior in our home. Our children are now young adults and all of them are doing well. Even as adult children they would never dream of dishonoring their parents. You would think that as a pastor, I could effective teach others to do what we have done, but I had difficulty in communicated how we did this to other parents who needed help. To me, it was intuitive behavior and I could not understand why other parents did not do what my wife and I did. Frustrated, I ordered five copies of Backtalk after seeing the authors interviewed on the Today Show. Ricker and Crowder, parents who have conquered the Backtalk road, give common sense advice on how to reclaim parental authority, bring peace to your home, and help you raise up kids whom you will actually like.
The principles set forth in Backtalk are based on the philosophical assumptions of Alfred Adler who believed that the most important point to make to parents was that their reaction to a child's misbehavior would either encourage the behavior, resulting in recurrence, or discourage the behavior. From this the authors have set forth a four-step system of logical consequences to discourage negative behavior and encourage positive behavior. The process is simple, but not easy. But take it from a dad and who raised up three respectful children, who and not only a joy to us but also to our friends, neighbors and congregation as well, it is worth the effort. For those of you who are unaware of the work of Adler, Dr. Laura of radio fame employs Adlerian methodology in her advice. But beware! The authors rightly point out that if you employ their method, you may be seen and being self-righteous and cruel by psychologist, school teachers, friends and even your own family. But this stuff works. Just look at my three kids.
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