Getting to Commitment

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Summary: This is the roadmap to commitment our readers have asked for
Review: It has been eleven years (just after the publication of "Men Who Can't Love") since I was first asked to create a 'map' that would take a man, a woman, or a couple, down the road to commitment. But I had to go down that road first in my own life and know that it was possible, even for the most fearful individuals. Today, having finally brought love, commitment, and marriage into my own life, I know it is possible. And this is why it has been so important for me to create this book. Commitmentphobia does not have to be a life sentence. If you want a different life, you can create that life. You just need to understand and work through the obstacles that are going to get in your way. If you are tired of bumping into the same old walls, as I was, I think you will find extraordinary hope in this book. Everything you need to know is here. The book is my companion, and I hope it will be yours too.

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Summary: very good insights
Review: Mr. Carter has lots of great insights into relationship dynamics, presented here in easy-to-understand language, and without overdoing the psychological perspectives. A rather simple, yet very informative read. Lots of questions are answered: Why do some people rush into relationships? How do people find themselves in abusive relationships? Why do people who desperately seek commitment have trouble finding it? The answers are here, and Carter helps the reader work on themselves, so they can find the love they want. It empowers the reader, giving them choices, and noting that love is a process, not an answer. His main points emphasize that the reader stand up for what they believe in and want in relationships, and not settle for less, and always to take it slow. Lots of info here, looking forward to the next Carter report.

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Summary: Identifies relationship sticking points & cuts through them
Review: My first introduction to Steven Carter was his book "He's Scared, She's Scared" which a friend recommended to me upon the dissolution of a relationship. While that book was a great help, it wasn't strong on what to do about it. That is where this book excels. Like many psychological issues, it is not a matter of whether or not we have the condition, it is only a matter of degree. This book has helped me identify my trigger points for commitmentphobia (fear of commitment) and how to manage them. By taking self-responsibility I am able to deepen intimacy in my life. This book would be helpful to anyone seeking to improve or work on relationships.

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Summary: Identifies relationship sticking points & cuts through them
Review: My first introduction to Steven Carter was his book "He's Scared, She's Scared" which a friend recommended to me upon the dissolution of a relationship. While that book was a great help, it wasn't strong on what to do about it. That is where this book excels. Like many psychological issues, it is not a matter of whether or not we have the condition, it is only a matter of degree. This book has helped me identify my trigger points for commitmentphobia (fear of commitment) and how to manage them. By taking self-responsibility I am able to deepen intimacy in my life. This book would be helpful to anyone seeking to improve or work on relationships.

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Summary: Getting to Commitment hits the nail on the head.
Review: Steven Carter definitely knows this subject first hand and it shows. As a woman who has dated more than one commitmentphobic, it's helpful to understand why many men can't commit.I particularly liked the examples of the conflicts between the couples throughout the book. I would recommend this book to anyone who wants to make a commitment but can't figure themselves out or to anyone frustrated by a noncommital mate. Learning to deal with reality versus fantasy and fear is really highlighted.

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Summary: VERY ENLIGHTING
Review: This book was given me by a co-worker and it really helped me to understand so much of what I had been doing in previous relationships...and what not to do in the one that I am currently in. I have been seeing this wonderful guy for about 5 months and he wants to build a life together...I refuse to even call him my boyfriend just yet, all because I think that somehow I will ultimately end up hurt or running for fear of committment...this book is an eye-opener for anyone who has had a pattern of loves lost or never found due to our pasts, our parents or those that we call ourselves "in love" with....I highly recommend it....It makes me feel like I am finally looking in the mirror at myself, my soul and my ability to be in a healthy and committed relationship...I know now that I am able and I deserve it...