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Summary: This book saved my life!
Review: As the mother of an only child, I sought a lot of advice from parenting books. Many gave a list of do's and don'ts and had some good ideas,but this book has easy, practical advice. Dr. Wolf's recommended approaches are in line with my personal values, which don't include harsh punishment and spanking.
I was able to decrease my stress in dealing with my child on a day to day basis and now spending time together is more enjoyable because there is practically no fussing. It's funny to see him try his temper tantrums now, because I can see his frustration when they have no effect on me. As a result, he rarely has one. I plan to give copies of this book to my friends for Christmas.
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Summary: Sound advice - recommended
Review: I usually don't go for parenting books but this lucky discovery is full of great tips. (Just ignore possible the book's silly title and the annoying repeated use of the term "baby-self.") Dr. Wolf's fundamental advice to _disengage_ from kids' sometimes problematic behavior is wonderful in its simplicity. We've tried his simple methods of kid management over the past few weeks and can say - they work, almost miraculously! A good use of thirteen bucks!
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Summary: Sound advice - recommended
Review: I usually don't go for parenting books but this lucky discovery is full of great tips. (Just ignore possible the book's silly title and the annoying repeated use of the term "baby-self.") Dr. Wolf's fundamental advice to _disengage_ from kids' sometimes problematic behavior is wonderful in its simplicity. We've tried his simple methods of kid management over the past few weeks and can say - they work, almost miraculously! A good use of thirteen bucks!
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Summary: Excellent advice, but borrows heavily from Jeremy
Review: If you have not read any of Anthony Wolf's books, and you are looking for a great book on parenting, you've found it. Wolf's advice is straightforward, logical, and reasonably easy to implement. But if you bought _It's No Fair, Jeremy Spencer Gets to Stay Up All Night_, this one won't teach you much more. _Secrets of Parenting_ borrows heavily from _It's No Fair_, to the point that there's no need for both of them. The kernel of Wolf's approach toward dealing with children is in handling the I Want You Now personality. His descriptions of typical childhood behavior ring true to anyone who has children. Ever have your child playing quietly in the same room until you pick up the phone, and then s/he needs you to help RIGHT AWAY? Wolf will explain why this happens. Better yet, he'll tell you how to handle this so it won't keep happening. His advice on handling bad behavior is for you to become a Robo-parent. It completely disconnects the I Want You Now behavior, because it doesn't engage. Robo-parent deals with the child, no muss, ignore the fuss, and very soon your child learns that tantrums and stickiness don't succeed. While I can't always tamp down my emotions to turn into Robo-parent, it's good to have a strategy that WILL WORK.
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Summary: Excellent advice, but borrows heavily from Jeremy
Review: If you have not read any of Anthony Wolf's books, and you are looking for a great book on parenting, you've found it. Wolf's advice is straightforward, logical, and reasonably easy to implement. But if you bought _It's No Fair, Jeremy Spencer Gets to Stay Up All Night_, this one won't teach you much more. _Secrets of Parenting_ borrows heavily from _It's No Fair_, to the point that there's no need for both of them. The kernel of Wolf's approach toward dealing with children is in handling the I Want You Now personality. His descriptions of typical childhood behavior ring true to anyone who has children. Ever have your child playing quietly in the same room until you pick up the phone, and then s/he needs you to help RIGHT AWAY? Wolf will explain why this happens. Better yet, he'll tell you how to handle this so it won't keep happening. His advice on handling bad behavior is for you to become a Robo-parent. It completely disconnects the I Want You Now behavior, because it doesn't engage. Robo-parent deals with the child, no muss, ignore the fuss, and very soon your child learns that tantrums and stickiness don't succeed. While I can't always tamp down my emotions to turn into Robo-parent, it's good to have a strategy that WILL WORK.
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Summary: The best parenting book ever
Review: This book has changed my life as a parent. When I tell people I don't punish my kids, people think I'm a "softie" However, people who see me with my kids understand that I'm really quite strict and that my children are unusually well behved as a result of Dr. Wolf's advice. Dr. Wolf makes you understand that you HAVE to be in charge and that you and your kids will be happier as a result. His methods allow the joy to be brought back into parenting.
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Summary: I can't say enough good things about this book!
Review: This book saved my life. Absolutely, hands-down, the best advice ever given. Dr. Wolfe dishes out logical and practical solutions to everyday problems and manages to keep the book funny. It's a quick read and very enlightening.
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Summary: The best parenting book ever
Review: This is the first parenting book I have ever read from cover to cover.
I was unable to pull away! In the past I have skimmed through scores
of parenting books and magazines, gathering bits and pieces of helpful
information, leaving me with a plethora of conflicting ideas that
eventually cancelled each other out until I was left with nothing but
self-doubt on how I was raising my own children. But this book is a
goldmine. Reading it has been an absolute pleasure, and has given me
great insight into what drives the behavior of children of all ages
(toddlers to teens). In his book, Wolf provides not only the
psychology behind the behavior of children, but also a very
straightforward and consistent manner in which to respond to children
in the most difficult situations. These situations include tantrums,
sibling rivalry, back-talk, guilt-trips, lying, whining, interrupting,
and more. Wolf's recommended approach to handling most of these
situations is centered around a basic theme which he explains very
early on in the book. He also provides many examples of very
true-to-life conversations between parents and kids, making it pretty
clear which ones will lead to nowhere. Wolf's book is very readable
and flows smoothly. The author's sense of humor can be felt
throughout the book, with an occassional touch of sarcasm, sometimes
even a corny joke. But this makes the book fun to read, almost giving
the feeling of conversing with the author in person. As a mother of
a two-year-old and a three-year-old, I wish Wolf would have included
more conversations with small children and written more about how to
handle potty training. However, I was still able to put these methods
into practice for tantrums, sibling fights, and whining (which covers
the majority of our problems), and they have proven to be 150% more
effective than reasoning, arguing, time-outs, bribing, yelling,
spanking or threatening. It has actually brought back a lot of joy to
being a parent, and I no longer walk on eggshells dreading the next
tantrum. I don't want to give away Wolf's "secret" in this
review, as that would take away from the pleasure of reading the book.
I strongly recommend this book to all parents and anyone wanting to
learn more about children!
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Summary: This book has become my official parenting bible.
Review: This is the first parenting book I have ever read from cover to cover.I was unable to pull away! In the past I have skimmed through scoresof parenting books and magazines, gathering bits and pieces of helpfulinformation, leaving me with a plethora of conflicting ideas thateventually cancelled each other out until I was left with nothing butself-doubt on how I was raising my own children. But this book is agoldmine. Reading it has been an absolute pleasure, and has given megreat insight into what drives the behavior of children of all ages(toddlers to teens). In his book, Wolf provides not only thepsychology behind the behavior of children, but also a verystraightforward and consistent manner in which to respond to childrenin the most difficult situations. These situations include tantrums,sibling rivalry, back-talk, guilt-trips, lying, whining, interrupting,and more. Wolf's recommended approach to handling most of thesesituations is centered around a basic theme which he explains veryearly on in the book. He also provides many examples of verytrue-to-life conversations between parents and kids, making it prettyclear which ones will lead to nowhere. Wolf's book is very readableand flows smoothly. The author's sense of humor can be feltthroughout the book, with an occassional touch of sarcasm, sometimeseven a corny joke. But this makes the book fun to read, almost givingthe feeling of conversing with the author in person.As a mother ofa two-year-old and a three-year-old, I wish Wolf would have includedmore conversations with small children and written more about how tohandle potty training. However, I was still able to put these methodsinto practice for tantrums, sibling fights, and whining (which coversthe majority of our problems), and they have proven to be 150% moreeffective than reasoning, arguing, time-outs, bribing, yelling,spanking or threatening. It has actually brought back a lot of joy tobeing a parent, and I no longer walk on eggshells dreading the nexttantrum. I don't want to give away Wolf's "secret" in thisreview, as that would take away from the pleasure of reading the book.I strongly recommend this book to all parents and anyone wanting tolearn more about children!
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