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Summary: I wish I'd known about Holding Time
Review: When I first read about Holding Time, I felt a great sense of loss because I didn't know about it when I was raising my own daughter. That's why I would like to pass the information along to parents who still have the chance to use this most wonderfull method of deeply connecting and communicating with their children. Holding Time is a special experience between mother and child where a space in time is created with no distractions. The results of the deep connection that is created have brought autistic children from a world of no communication back to one of close union with the parents. With normal children, Holding Time produces many kinds of success. This amazing technique helps many problems that arise with children, such as bed wetting, clinging, tantrums, lack of motivation, and sibling rivalry, because it gets to what is really being asked for under the acting out symptoms. It creates a very intimate and safe space for mother and child to communicate what is truly needed by the child. When I read about Holding Time, I wished that I had known about it when I was raising my daughter. I think it would have given both of us the security we needed to experience each other in a physical and emotional way.
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Summary: SAVING OUR SPECIES
Review: When my oldest daughter, Anicca, was three years and her sister, Anna May, just a few months old, I went to the library to find anything I could on parenting 3-5 year-olds. At this time I had become afraid that I might hurt Anicca physically, because her temper tantrums and general uncooperative behaviour was triggering the most intense rage inside of me. I brought home from the library "HOLDING TIME" by Martha Welch. What I read gave me goose bumps, the good kind, because I immediately felt that there was a way to reconnect with my daughter in a profound way. When I shared my discovery with my husband, he was extremely sceptical and so during my first holding session with Anicca, after about 45 min. of her crying and screaming and raging at me, when she began calling for her daddy, he came and simply took her out of my arms and walked out of the room. Even though this process had been interrupted, I could already see the results. What I processed internally was my own rage at my own mother for abandoning me at a very young age. I came to accept my own feelings about that during holding and accepting my daughter's rage towards me. I felt closer to Anicca, more motivated to spend quality time playing with her and I noticed a remarkable improvement in her behaviour, after just one incomplete holding session. To make a long story short, ever since that first holding session with Anicca, I have never again been triggerd to the same degree of rage by her or any of my children. I highly recommend this approach to anyone, parents, couples, etc. I not only see it as a way of expressing emotions in an uplifting way and managing behaviours, I also see it as a way of connecting on a spiritual level. If the mother (for example) stays with the process long enough to reach a complete resolution as described in the book, she connects with her child on a level so deep that I would call it a spiritual connection, transcending ego boundaries and in fact re-establishing the one-ness of the pair. At this level of connection mother and child become equals in the highest sense of the word. Martha Welch describes people breathing in unison after holding. I believe that at the root of all "evil" in this world lies the illusion of separateness between human beings. Holding Time cuts through this illusion and therefore I see it as a way to heal and save our species and indeed the planet.
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Summary: Thank You!
Review: Words cannot express my gratitude to Dr. Welch for Holding Time. Since using it, my adopted 8 year old's spirit is buoyant and her eyes twinkle again. Her laughter and songs have begun to fill the house. She still gets upset with characteristic passion, but we move through it together and much more quickly now. I recognize the work I have to do in connecting with my feelings so that I can meet her at a heart level. It's also become very clear to me that this work is not only crucial for mothering a child with attachment problems, but also for a mother to fulfill her true commission here on earth. The Lord gave Dr. Welch a special gift, that she now shares with so many. She has developed the art of shepherding lost mothers and children back to a place of heart connection in a world dominated by the mind. Blessings to you, Martha, and to your life's work.
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Summary: not good
Review: Working in an elementary school, I have come across many children with problems, a few of the mothers tried "Holding Time". It was a disaster as they did not know how to cope with their children's tantrums. The children became harder to deal with resisted holding, saw it as punishment. This is not a technique to use without professional guidance.
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