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Summary: A Gift!!
Review: In our family, all trauma/PTSD was and is stored within us...and Holding Time 'pops' it out...It is a quick and safe method towards healing...A miracle!! My two girls and I do holding every chance we get...My oldest just spent 3 weeks with me and we lolled around doing quality holding time, making up for lost years. She put her head on my lap, etc...at 21..amazing? We are making up for lost time...Holding Time is truly a gift..
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Summary: A Rather Strange And Un-Scientific Approach!
Review: Licking Therapy? Holding therapy to cure Autism? Where is the scientific research and theory? This was a very bizarre book and, after listening to her talk at a conference, even more controversial and strange. Unaccepted in the medical community and too "new wave" or "old wave ". No logical method. I think this book is only for the desparate. Some good insights but not a recommended treatment as it is just too off the wall.
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Summary: What the he!!?????
Review: Maybe parents should start holding their kids before they become "autistic." Maybe parents should start holding their kids before they have to do it by force. Maybe parents should spend their time having fun with their kids instead of reading this book. Maybe parents should spend their money on buying a nice children's book and reading it with their kid, instead of falling for this kind of stuff.
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Summary: You Gotta Read It!
Review: My sister introduced me to this book. She found it at the local library. It was an answer to our prayers! PLEASE read this book, and try it on your children! It has made an incredible difference in my life and the lives of my four children. This idea of "Holding Time" is so incredibly much better than the other forms of discipline out there--time out, spanking, etc. It is a great way to get "angries" out in a safe way. It not only helps the child learn to communicate their feelings, it helps moms learn patience and self discipline too. I love it and would VERY HIGHLY recommend it to you. I plan to buy a copy for myself for future reference, one for our church, and for several of my close friends. My little girl (age 3) is a totally different child after starting holding. She expresses her feelings much better (instead of screaming or throwing a tantrum) and has fantastic eye contact. She actually ASKS for Holding Time! My 7 year old son has also opened up verbally, and doesn't demand attention through bad behavior (stealing, lying, etc.)"Holding Time" is very much worth the $. I thank God for it, and also Martha G. Welch, M.D.!
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Summary: "Holding Time Is Absolutely *Not* Abusive.
Review: Occasionally I have heard or read comments about Holding Time that include false information, and would like to correct some of them and encourage everyone to read the book. It was *not* designed for autistic adults. I know this, because my family has worked with Dr. Welch in her offices in New York City and she told us how it developed, as she also does in the book itself. Holding Time was developed by Dr. Welch for autistic children, and has since been shown to be remarkably successful in helping all children, including those described as "normal". I believe anyone who finds Holding Time to be abusive either has not read the book, or is simply not applying the technique correctly. In this case, they should contact a therapist who is specially trained in attachment issues. Having worked with Dr. Welch and seen the truly remarkable results she's brought about with our two girls, I find myself telling all my friends about the technique and encouraging them to try it with their own children. So many of the problems associated with child rearing can be eliminated with Holding Time. Whereas "Time Out's" teach children that their emotions are not acceptable and that they must get out of the parent's sight, Holding teaches that *no* emotions, including anger, are unacceptable and that anger does not negate love. Through Holding, you can experience a degree of joy and love you would not have thought possible. I honestly believe that many of the problem kids in our society who are now problem adults would not be committing crimes or hurting anyone if they had been "held" as children. I'm reminded of the words of the great anthropologist Margaret Mead who said (and I paraphrase), "Is it possible for one person to change the world? Indeed, that's all that ever has." Please don't be afraid of Holding Time. Read the book, get help from an attachment specialist or call Dr. Welch if you need to, but try it. Best wishes to everyone.
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Summary: A wonderful method, but not for everyone
Review: Personally knowing several parents who have successfully used this method, I want to report that it can accomplish all the subtitle claims. Both mothers and children are pleased with the results and want to continue. This is not an abusive method, but a deeply loving one, staying with your child through their "ugliest" feelings and then sharing a closeness never before achieved because of the parent's acceptance of those feelings. However, if a parent is frightened by the thought of doing Holding Time, they should probably have help from a therapist or someone who has done it successfully with their own children. And if a parent believes it is abusive, they don't understand what it's all about and had better find other ways to parent their children. Too bad, because this one can truly work "miracles."
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Summary: Welch's "Holding therapy" is an excellent book.
Review: See my book review of her book at:http://home.att.net/~jspeyrer/holding.htm John A. Speyrer, The Primal Psychotherapy Page
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Summary: Sounds good BUT ....
Review: The author continually makes unsubstantiated claims. Shequotes studies but gives absolutely no information about who did thestudy. For instance, she states "Recent studies show that infants show signs of withdrawal after only one hour of separation from their mothers." But there is NO mention of 1) who did the studies or 2)what institution did the study(s)? Harvard medical school? Yo-yo U? Where? There isn't a single footnote in the entire book. The author goes on to state "Think of how many hours the baby was away from you in the hospital nursery or even in the early months of life at home. When constantly stressed by separations, a child eventually learns not to rely on his parents but to take comfort in whatever way he can. As an infant he may withdraw into himself." So basically every child in the western world has been damaged by frequent separations and has learned his parents can't be trusted. I thought that was just a little bit dire. And this is just one example of the author's sweeping generalizations. She suggests that I hold my child against his will and "physically force" him to look me in the eye yet she offers no evidence to convince me that this is a good thing to do except for anecdotes and anonymous studies. The other problem with Holding Time is that it is held out as a cure-all. Sibling rivalry, whining, low self esteem, you name it, Holding Time is a cure for it. I got this book off the bargain rack. I'm glad I didn't pay any more money for it.
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Summary: We don't scream at each other any more.
Review: The best way to describe the overall impact of Holding Time on our family life is that after staying with us for a few days a friend remarked that my husband and I didn't scream at each other or at the children any more and our life seemed much happier. Before doing Holding Time I thought my growing lack of communication with my daughter (7) was due to her growing up and away from me. Holding her and becoming aware of her needs has changed that. We have a mutual loving relationship again. I was finding it difficult to even be with my 4 year old and at times didn't even like him, and I was having a miserable time controlling him. After the time I spent doing Holding Time with him, his nursing school teachers have noticed a tremendous difference in him and he is now so sweet and affectionate that I love being with him. We had a nanny come live with us when our 3rd child was born. When she left, the baby was 6 months old and I felt as though I had a child who never smiled for me and whom I did'nt know. Now, he is 14 months old and after 8 months of regular daily Holding Time he is warm and loving and smiles alot and I know who he is and he knows I am his mother. He trusts me. Holding Time helped me to be a more nurturing mother and helped our family become functional.
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Summary: Nothing but Holding Time worked.
Review: The book helps me know how to meet the needs of my adoptive children. We increased the effectiveness of the techniques by going to a Martha Welch, M.D. multifamily treatment intensive. The therapists were very sensitive to my children's needs and our efforts to hep them feel safe and loved. Family members hold each other, but absolutely no sheets or other mechanical restraint is used. Holding Time kept my family together and continues to be an indispensable guide. I do have distress that some individuals make wildly false accusations about it. I assume that most opponents are uninformed, have attachment issues they do not want to deal with, or are therapists using relatively ineffective or obsolete treatments and do not want competition. I am eager for another book by Dr. Welch.
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