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Summary: If you would like to drive youself absolutely nuts..........
Review: I was having great diffuculty with my teenage daughter and bought this on DR. Lauras recommendation. Although I read this book and tried the "I can control my kids with contracts" approach...it will not work w/ a hell bent teen. Scots approach seemed to have escalated my teens bad behavior. You may have to be separated from your teen, boarding school seems to be working just fine for us,(but thay do eventually come home) plus counseling and A LOT of reading. If you have a real problem child....dont waste you money on this book.
I would like to recommend a much better approach, a book by 2 doctors (with 5 kids of their own)which makes much more sense..."How to deal with your acting up teenager" by Robert and Jean Bayard (P.H.D's).
Rating:
Summary: If you would like to drive youself absolutely nuts..........
Review: I was having great diffuculty with my teenage daughter and bought this on DR. Lauras recommendation. Although I read this book and tried the "I can control my kids with contracts" approach...it will not work w/ a hell bent teen. Scots approach seemed to have escalated my teens bad behavior. You may have to be separated from your teen, boarding school seems to be working just fine for us,(but thay do eventually come home) plus counseling and A LOT of reading. If you have a real problem child....dont waste you money on this book.
I would like to recommend a much better approach, a book by 2 doctors (with 5 kids of their own)which makes much more sense..."How to deal with your acting up teenager" by Robert and Jean Bayard (P.H.D's).
Rating:
Summary: If you would like to drive youself absolutely nuts..........
Review: I was having great diffuculty with my teenage daughter and bought this on DR. Lauras recommendation. Although I read this book and tried the "I can control my kids with contracts" approach...it will not work w/ a hell bent teen. Scots approach seemed to have escalated my teens bad behavior. You may have to be separated from your teen, boarding school seems to be working just fine for us,(but thay do eventually come home) plus counseling and A LOT of reading. If you have a real problem child....dont waste you money on this book.
I would like to recommend a much better approach, a book by 2 doctors (with 5 kids of their own)which makes much more sense..."How to deal with your acting up teenager" by Robert and Jean Bayard (P.H.D's).
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Summary: Not sure how I feel about this book.
Review: I'm not sure how I feel about "Parenting Your Out-of-Control Teenager." I'm not doubting that the steps presented by Sells are not effective. It just seems that in my case the parent-adolescent relationship is a bit more complicated than what is portrayed in this book. I'm not sure there is any 7 step plan that is truly effective. This book is definitely useful for understanding the scope of many problems, I just would questions the long term effectiveness. I particularly liked a book titled "Systemic Parenting: An Exploration of the Parenting Big Picture" (Gaskill) Systemic Parenting does not give you a concise plan like "parenting Your Out of Control Teenager" but it goes into much greater depth about issues surrounding intimacy, empathy, emotional process, emotional safety. These are issues that most teens are struggling to figure out and incorporate into their emerging adult like relationships. These are topics that teens learn directly from their parents.
I think these books compliment each other. One give you a concise plan, the other provides the depth needed to implement it well. These authors should get together for their next book.
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Summary: The Best Book Money Can Buy
Review: If you want a tool belt that works this is the book for you. Dr. Sells provides a step-by-step approach to every possible problem you might encounter and what to do if Plan A doesn't work. He gives you a recipe menu of creative consequences to stop behaviors such as disrespect, running away, violence, drug and alcohol abuse, threats of suicide, and ditching school. The one reviewer who didn't like the book (dirtyh20sam) must have ignored Dr. Sells' warning that if you try to use contracts and it escalates your teen it means that you must seek and outside therapist for help because you either did not follow all the steps correctly or you have underlying family problems like marital conflict or depression that must be addressed. The book works but you have to follow the recommendations correctly.
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Summary: LOVE YOUR TEENAGER - THERE IS GOODNESS INSIDE.
Review: Parents may not agree with everything written in this book, although when it comes to building a stronger family bond, the author has made a valid point. As a parent, and as a counsellor, there were statements made here that I could not totally agree with. However, the author has made an obvious attempt to bridge the gap between teens and parents and any constructive advice that will help bring that relationship closer together and become more harmonious is worth reading.I did not like the fact the author referred to difficult teens as "out-of-control." Technically, that may well be the case, but labelling does not help the situation. In retrospect, I have also come across many parents who are "totally out of control" and lack effective parenting skills. That can be a major reason why some teens rebel so strongly. On the positive side, the author stresses the importance of listening to your teen and increasing the family bond. Teens need discipline, but we must also understand that this phase of life is just as trying for teens as it is for parents. Children often have a way of testing their limits and "jamming the buttons" until we actually believe we are losing our sanity. Parents should also bear in mind that while teens often rebel, those same limits and restrictions can make them feel loved and protected (although few teens would ever admit it.) Love, acceptance and understanding go a long way in building strong relationships. Strong communication is the key. The author offers some good advice, but also some questionable advice in dealing with teenagers. I am all for the "tough love approach" when needed; however, there were times when the author's approach came across as using authority and control to the extreme, and that, too, can have a serious psychological impact on the teen in years to come. Teens are in a phase when many lack self-esteem and confidence in the first place. An overbearing "Gestapo attitude" can make problems far worse and result in a different set of problems in adult years. Readers may want to read the book and decide for themselves "where to draw the line."
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Summary: LOVE YOUR TEENAGER - THERE IS GOODNESS INSIDE.
Review: Parents may not agree with everything written in this book, although when it comes to building a stronger family bond, the author has made a valid point. As a parent, and as a counsellor, there were statements made here that I could not totally agree with. However, the author has made an obvious attempt to bridge the gap between teens and parents and any constructive advice that will help bring that relationship closer together and become more harmonious is worth reading. I did not like the fact the author referred to difficult teens as "out-of-control." Technically, that may well be the case, but labelling does not help the situation. In retrospect, I have also come across many parents who are "totally out of control" and lack effective parenting skills. That can be a major reason why some teens rebel so strongly. On the positive side, the author stresses the importance of listening to your teen and increasing the family bond. Teens need discipline, but we must also understand that this phase of life is just as trying for teens as it is for parents. Children often have a way of testing their limits and "jamming the buttons" until we actually believe we are losing our sanity. Parents should also bear in mind that while teens often rebel, those same limits and restrictions can make them feel loved and protected (although few teens would ever admit it.) Love, acceptance and understanding go a long way in building strong relationships. Strong communication is the key. The author offers some good advice, but also some questionable advice in dealing with teenagers. I am all for the "tough love approach" when needed; however, there were times when the author's approach came across as using authority and control to the extreme, and that, too, can have a serious psychological impact on the teen in years to come. Teens are in a phase when many lack self-esteem and confidence in the first place. An overbearing "Gestapo attitude" can make problems far worse and result in a different set of problems in adult years. Readers may want to read the book and decide for themselves "where to draw the line."
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Summary: Worth the price!
Review: This book addresses all of the major problems that can happen with teens. I really liked the concrete examples of how to put these ideas into practice. Real-life examples also helped make the material more accessible.
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Summary: There is hope!
Review: This book is a life saver. My husband and I were seriously thinking of sending our teenager to a behavior camp because we thought there wasn't anything left that we could do for our son then I found this book. If you want to really make some changes in your household without sending your child away this is the book to read. It's hard work but desperate times call for desperate measures!
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Summary: There is hope!
Review: This book is a life saver. My husband and I were seriously thinking of sending our teenager to a behavior camp because we thought there wasn't anything left that we could do for our son then I found this book. If you want to really make some changes in your household without sending your child away this is the book to read. It's hard work but desperate times call for desperate measures!
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