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Summary: THANK YOU JOE!
Review: Thank you Joe, for the forthright book on relinquishment and adoption. Thank you for the explanation and validation of feelings so intrinsic to the triad. Thank you for the encouragement and pathway to heal. I am beginning to feel renewed. Thank you.
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Summary: A path to recovery and living again
Review: The author has brought the myths of adoption into the light.Exposing them so that we have a better understanding of adoption and why there is a need for healing. He has given memebers of the adoption triad understanding on all sides. The exercises are easy to understand and do work. The book is a path to recovery and to living again. Thank you from a Birthmother.
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Summary: Blame Adoption
Review: There was a song called Blame Canada. This book could be called Blame Adoption. Soll is clearly anti-adoption based on his own unresolved conflicts. He therefore has determined, seeks comfort from, and found enough evidence (anyone can find support for anything) that everyone feels as he does. It's easy to blame adoption for everything that goes wrong in life, but that is masking a lot of other realities. Soll fails to address the fact that many adult adoptees never feel a need to search, he fails to address the many well-adjusted children who were adopted into their families and grew up without ongoing "trauma" in their daily existance. He talks about being affected by adoption like one is affected by some illness. As we've painfully learned in recent times, people with the attiitude that everyone must feel or believe as they do, are harmful. I do not deny Soll his own pain, or agree that he will find supporters, but it's more than presumptuous to link all adoptees to his own feelings and go out there as a preacher. I am very involved in adoption from all angles and standpoints. I've done research, writing, articles and even a book on the subject. I know numerous adoptees of all ages. Sorry, many do not feel as Soll feels. In addition to all of that which is clearly anti-adoption, Soll uses a host of cliche methods in his books and on his website, such as inner child, 12-steps, hugs, higher power, etc. And finally, based on Soll's theory and ideas, International adoption does not exist, or certainly does not work. Talk to some adult adoptees from other countries and learn how wrong he really is.
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Summary: Essential For Everyone Involved With Adoption
Review: This a a magnificent book that will help everyone effected by adoption. It is particularly valuable for adoptive parents, to give them essential information about the children they love. The book exposes the myths about adoption and reveals the facts that everyone involved needs to know. This book offers the opportunity to help millions of people and I hope it is a great success. Buy ten copies, not one, and give them to those who they will help.
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Summary: HORRIBLE!!
Review: This book is best for those who perceive themselves to be tragic victims of adoption, inherently wounded and in need of coddling. Don't get me wrong - there are valid psychological issues that come with being an adoptee (I am one), but if you want a book that addresses these issues in a much less cloying and more informative way, read _The Primal Wound_ by Nancy Verrier. This book features a segment at the end of each chapter to help you get in touch with your "inner child." It features sentences along the lines of "by now, your inner child is probably feeling scared and alone. Talk to your child and tell him/her that it's OK....etc...blah blah blah." VERY short on useful data and LONG on feel-good but ultimately useless psychobabble. Save your money and your time and head for Verrier's more lucid book along the same lines.
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Summary: HORRIBLE!!
Review: This book is best for those who perceive themselves to be tragic victims of adoption, inherently wounded and in need of coddling. Don't get me wrong - there are valid psychological issues that come with being an adoptee (I am one), but if you want a book that addresses these issues in a much less cloying and more informative way, read _The Primal Wound_ by Nancy Verrier. This book features a segment at the end of each chapter to help you get in touch with your "inner child." It features sentences along the lines of "by now, your inner child is probably feeling scared and alone. Talk to your child and tell him/her that it's OK....etc...blah blah blah." VERY short on useful data and LONG on feel-good but ultimately useless psychobabble. Save your money and your time and head for Verrier's more lucid book along the same lines.
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Summary: Good for anyone in the adoption triad
Review: This book made me feel less alone as an adoptee. Highly recommended.
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Summary: A comprehensive guide towards healing.
Review: With expertise and compassion Joe Soll takes the reader on a journey through the trials and tribulations of adoption trauma. Using mental exercises and excerpts from both professionals and some of those touched by adoption, the wounds caused by separation are opened and encouraged to heal. The author walks hand in hand with all members of the triad on a healthy and positive "...path to recovery".
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