Rating:  Summary: Yay for Barbara Coloroso! Review: I do not give this book a "10" because I am still left with the knowledge that it is up to me to do the follow-through! No quick fixes here. I have a "strong-willed" child and have found very few sources of discipline advice aimed at this group that are not too harsh or so lenient (in my opinion) that they are bound to fail. I appreciate the way Barbara Coloroso emphasizes follow-through - that is what has been lacking in the "kinder, gentler" approaches I have read about. It is not the severity of the discipline that counts, but the certainty of the consequences that does. .. But I will let you read the book. I found it a very creative approach - something we could all do for our children - and indeed all of our relationships - if we were to pay more attention to how we are actually behaving.
Rating:  Summary: A Guide for Today's Parents Review: I found Coloro's approach to be both practical and wise. I especially appreciated the creative ways she suggests parents apply the golden rule to their everyday relations with their children. I found lots of great and effective advice for me, as a parent of young children, to digest and incorporate into to my daily dealings with my kids.
M. LaVora Perry, Author,
Taneesha's Treasures of the Heart
Wu-lung & I-lung
Rating:  Summary: One of the Best Parenting Discipline Books Ever! Review: I got this book recommended to me form the mothering.com discussion boards, actually it was reccomended to and by ALOT of people on that discussion board. I bought the book, and have been enjoying it ever since. IT JUST FEELS RIGHT! This book, combined with Dr. Sears' "The Discipline Book" and "Attachment Parenting" are really all you ever need to know. My kids are worth it, and so are yours - PLEASE,PLEASE READ THIS BOOK AND BEGIN TO INCORPORATE ITS PHILOSPHIY INTO YOUR OWN. There is enough violence in our world. We nedd sel-assured children growing up into self-assured adults to resolve our world conflicts. This book is how we begin
Rating:  Summary: This book is worth every cent Review: I just picked this book up in a grocery store and I can not believe how excellent it is. It has completely changed how I deal with my kids. I am not yelling anymore. I wish some of the parents I know were reading it. Everything she says makes perfect sense and that's why it's so easy to change. I recommend it to anyone who wants to quit being their child's conscience and instead give them the gift of developing and using their own.
Rating:  Summary: Something to build a better parent Review: I liked this book so well that I am actually replacing a copy I didn't get to finish reading since, of all things, I left it out in the rain. (Any parent who is trying to get their child to get all their toys in during a freak cloud burst will understand how you sometimes forget your own stuff!) My parents did a pretty good job of raising me to think for myself but only after I had made it through the preschool years. Before that it was "because I said so". My hope is this book will erase those words from my mind so my four year old will never hear that or any other controlling statements. The book gives sound advice on how to keep from overdisciplining, too.
Rating:  Summary: Instant results! and relief! Review: I picked up this book in a moment of desperation - feeling like I was going crazy trying to deal with my toddler. It really made me think about my parenting and what kind of parent I want to be vs. the kind of parent I was being. The information (conflict and resolutions) presented here is so sensible, that I had instant results after reading just a few pages.The results were in the way I acted and responded to my child. Utilizing the steps in this book, I FELT better about my interactions with not only my child, but my spouse as well. It's simple, caring, and it makes sense. I'm buying this book for everyone in my family.
Rating:  Summary: Great philosophy Review: I really agree with Barbara Coloroso's parenting philosophy and was fortunate enough to actually hear her speak. I loved her description of the jellyfish, brickwall and backbone parent. To this day, I still evaluate parents on that basis, including myself. Coloroso is against rewarding behavior with food and in favor of being consistent and allowing your children to take responsibility for their actions. However, this is not a "quick-fix" type of book. Examples are given, but only a few specific issues are addressed. Also, the book addresses such a wide range of ages that I tended to skip sections that didn't apply to my child's age.
Rating:  Summary: Great philosophy Review: I really agree with Barbara Coloroso's parenting philosophy and was fortunate enough to actually hear her speak. I loved her description of the jellyfish, brickwall and backbone parent. To this day, I still evaluate parents on that basis, including myself. Coloroso is against rewarding behavior with food and in favor of being consistent and allowing your children to take responsibility for their actions. However, this is not a "quick-fix" type of book. Examples are given, but only a few specific issues are addressed. Also, the book addresses such a wide range of ages that I tended to skip sections that didn't apply to my child's age.
Rating:  Summary: Some wise advise but too schematic and disordered Review: I write this review under the assumption that any parent who reads this book is because it is interested in the well being of his/her children, and indeed you will goo through a lot of common sense advise. However I deeply dislike the idea that families fall under no more that 3 categories designated as Jellyfish, Brickwall, and Backbone. Once you start to read the examples and compare them with your own experience as a kid, and now as a parent, must probably you will see that you have some attitudes that can be classified as backbone and others as Jellyfish and others as brickwall, so this makes those categories sort of useless to decide what type of family are you building. Therefore if you set aside that scheme as just follow the basic advice as who to nurture happiness and trust into the relationship with your kids you will find this book much more useful.
Rating:  Summary: This book is NOT for lazy parents Review: If you don't want to put effort into raising your kids, this is not the book for you. But if you want clear-thinking, responsible kids, and don't mind some effort getting there, you can't have a better reference. Ms Coloroso's advice is clear, and should make you think hard about how you interact with your children. Yes my son is 3 and I'm 30. Yes I'm the parent, but he still has opinions about his life, and some are worth paying attention to. And sometimes I'm wrong. Being the parent doesn't make me God. Also note, I'm usually in the right, listening means that I pay attention to my sons' opinions and wants, not that I cave in to them every time. Believe me it's much, much harder making a 3 year old take the consequence of a misbehavior, and helping him try to fix his problem himself than it would be to punish him for it and fix things myself, but oh boy does he learn more when I put in the effort. This is not minimum effort parenting, and it's not about letting your kids always having their own way. It's about teaching them how to think rather than what to think.
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