BACK IN CONTROL

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Summary: Why isn't zero an option
Review: Little attention is given to determining the serious issues children face as they cross the boundaries of childhood into responsible adults. The fears a shy child may have joining clubs or the ridicule boy's are expected to endure from bullies are entirely unaddressed. How to discuss gay tolerance or the fact a child's budding sexuality may be bringing to light they are homosexual is absent. Never is there an effort to objectively measure a child's diet or sleep patterns to catch the unintentional slip into junk food, growth spurts, or a troubled child. Parents who are struggling to involve ruluctant teens in family activities, hobbies, and establish individual responsibility will find little support here. Instead of how to establish a safe enviroment for children to grow, we are sent looking for that illusive good influence. Sadly this book is designed to support the simple minded control freak with cupi-doll kids and not the parent of children with hormone spike popping out all over their bodies. Instead of this book try Real Boys : Rescuing Our Sons from the Myths of Boyhood by William S. Pollack

Most of this book is spent mocking parents who become emotional when dealing with a defiant child. In this authors positive and working solutions a mere 5 minutes of parental calmness deflects the hormonal bullets of the angry teen and reduces this immature child into reflective submission. After at least ten years of explaining family rules to children, we as parents are told we just weren't clear enough. Although some mention is given to over involving children in inept social functions like bad schools, lightly supervised social functions and destructive child influences; these problems are resolved in a quick call to a school administrator who will compliantly respond to every parental bidding.

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Summary: Long Lasting Results
Review: My 12 year old son was becoming surley and resentful and I was getting desperate. I bought and read a few self help books which did not help. Within a week of reading and applying the principles in this simple 10 chapter book, he was hugging me, saying I love you and opening doors for me. Almost a miracle! Since then, I've bought about five of these books and given them to friends and family. Just bought another one, and recommend it to you if your kids are screaming at you, calling you names, won't do their chores, lying....... That is if YOU are ready to admit you are 90% of the problem. :)

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Summary: Total change in one week
Review: My 12 year old son was becoming surley and resentful and I was getting desperate. I bought and read a few self help books which did not help. Within a week of reading and applying the principles in this simple 10 chapter book, he was hugging me, saying I love you and opening doors for me. Almost a miracle! Since then, I've bought about five of these books and given them to friends and family. Just bought another one, and recommend it to you if your kids are screaming at you, calling you names, won't do their chores, lying....... That is if YOU are ready to admit you are 90% of the problem. :)

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Summary: Don't pass this one by..HIGHLY recommend
Review: My family, kids teachers, and I highly recommend 'Back In Control' and 'Parent in Control' books written by Gregory Brodenhammer!

I do not know anything about what happened at the camp in Oregon
that the review Perry L Wilson from Anaheim, CA United States submitted. Its obvious to me that Mr. Wilson doesn't want to face the fact that parent(s) need to take responsibility for their own kids and 'not pass the buck' so to speak.
Whatever happened, I Pray that the family finds peace and forgivness.

Again, I highly recommend this book and the Parent in Control book!!
If you have a tempermentally difficult child(ren) or kids with special needs, the principals of theses books WILL HELP you learn to talk and manage yourself so that you can manage your difficult child(ren) day to day and still have some sanity. I have read many many books, taken classes, workshops, groups, councelling and this is the only program that we've had any successes with. The techniques and principles taught are applicible to everyone in the family because they are based on human tendancys and not just trying to force the kid to change. As with any program you take what you can use and what is applicable to your situation and leave the rest. Just for the record I have never concidered sending my tempermentaly difficult, special needs child(ren) to the camp mentioned in the other review, not because of the $$ but because I believe it is my resposibilty to stay strong and to train my child(ren) to become as responsible and productive an adult as they can possibly become based on thier individual needs and abilities.
IF YOU PASS THIS BOOK ON BY YOU WILL MISS OUT ON AN AWESOME PROGRAM THAT COULD AND WILL HELP YOU!
--> Remember you'll only get out of it what you put into it.

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Summary: Compiled information of other Authors
Review: Pass on this book, pass on Mr. Bodenahmmer's back in control program - he kills teens (Willilam "Eddie" Lee), his back in control program has been temporarily shut down by the state of Oregon, not allowed to practice in California.
Mr. Bodenhammers books read like 1939 Nazi Propaganda.
I have read Mr. Bodenhammers books - there's better information out there. This book merely is a recruiting tool to con people into giving Mr. Bodenhammmer $16K + to abuse their children.
Like a bad "B" movie,....run.
New Legislation will eventually catch people like Mr. Bodenhammer, problem is, how many teens will suffer in the mean time?

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Summary: To: G. Milstead -Don't underestimate the need for this book!
Review: Responding to [e-mail], It sounds like you don't even have teenagers the way you talk. Who cares if the authors go too far in trying to identify problems before they grow to big. You dismiss a great book that explains and lets us understand a very complicated issue -dealing with little humans that we give in to too much because we don't know how to parent. Please don't underestimate the power of this book and our need for it. We have been living a true nightmare with our son. He has beaten us and stolen from us to support his drug habit. If I had read this book a few years ago, it would have saved my son from everything he has lost: his education, friends and his baseball career. It's not too late to turn things around, but what if we could have prevented all of the last 2-3 years of HELL! So please, do the world a favor and keep your unfounded and negative opinions to out of the public forum. You do a great disservice to the world!

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Summary: Straight forward book on regaining control of your kids.
Review: The author lays out a very practical, no-nonsense approach to reclaiming your home from a controlling child. Whether your child/teen is drug addicted, sexually active, or a truant, this book gives simple to follow guidance on dealing with these tough issues. I recommend it highly to anyone who feels they no longer have control of their kids or home. It works

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Summary: A dangerous manual written by ex-probation officers in L.A.
Review: The authors of this series of books (Back In Control manuals) are so out of touch, they listed the Star of David in their anti-metal/punk handbook as a sign of possible devil worship. If you are interested in giving your children the best life possible, plesae do not resort to bullshit methods such as those outlined in this manual.

Also listed as signs of possible devil worship by the geniuses at BIC:

Black T-Shirts
High-Top Sneakers
Anything made of Silver

As you can see, just about any child in America would be a suspected Satan Worshiper according to their scare tactics. Give your children better: use common sense. Don't waste your money on this book.

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Summary: This book gave me hope for the future with my kids.
Review: Thirteen yrs. ago I had a 4 year old child that had uncontrollable tantrums and made me completely crazy. My life was miserable! Our dr. steered me to the Back In Control workshop and it changed our lives for the better. My daughter is 17 now, and still difficult, but I don't know how I would have survived without the methods in this book. My copy is very worn from my use & from being loaned out so much. I'm so glad to see that it is still available!

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Summary: I started using The Ideas of from this book in the 80's
Review: This book has been the single best source to help dicipline my children. I have used the vocabulary "do it now" instead of "I think you should" or I'd really like you too" When a child argues or tries to change the subject I've used "Nevertheless, go clean your room" I've guided hands to do work they would not do at first, and I learned how to deal with a child when he lies and how to get teenagers to respect boundaries. Excellent! My kids are proof