How You Can Survive When They're Depressed : Living and Coping with Depression Fallout

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Summary: A reader from Arkansas, USA
Review: Great book with a clear insight on how depression not only effects the person who is depressed, but the people who love and care for them also. A must read for anyone caring for someone who is depressed!

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Summary: "From no knowledge to a confident spouse"
Review: I am not a regular book reader or review. I bought the book when my wife was going through depression and we were having big time maritial problems. Sheffield showed me how to understand my wife and help myself.

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Summary: How You Can Survive When They're Depressed : Living and Copi
Review: I am presently going through a divorce from a depressive. Anne Sheffield's book has been a godsend for me. Even after a year in counseling, and being in school towards a degree in counseling, I blamed myself for all the failures, including the eventual death of the marriage. This book has set me free. I'm actually feeling blessed that she choose to leave. Lots of Christians say, read the Bible during times like this. This book has helped me to understand and believe what the Bible says. Because of this book, I can, for the first time, ACCEPT, deep in my spirit, that it wasn't all my fault. If you are in ANY kind of relationship with a depressed person, buying, reading and APPLYING this book will change your life. Do something for YOU for a change.

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Summary: Dissapointment
Review: I bought this boyfreind for the man I will be marrying; to help him understand his role in my clinical depression. This book is AWFUL. The book treates the depressed person as the "other". It is not supportive or encourageing. The entire book is about how their depression will hurt you and how their depression will ruin your life. It is all about the non-depressed person "protecting" themself. This book is not at all helpful for a couplke or family faceing depression togeter. The book What To Do When They Are Depressed is much better; much more supportive, and much less scarey. I can easily see how this book would freak out a loved one faceing a family member's depression.

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Summary: Dissapointment
Review: I bought this boyfreind for the man I will be marrying; to help him understand his role in my clinical depression. This book is AWFUL. The book treates the depressed person as the "other". It is not supportive or encourageing. The entire book is about how their depression will hurt you and how their depression will ruin your life. It is all about the non-depressed person "protecting" themself. This book is not at all helpful for a couplke or family faceing depression togeter. The book What To Do When They Are Depressed is much better; much more supportive, and much less scarey. I can easily see how this book would freak out a loved one faceing a family member's depression.

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Summary: A fantastic resource on depression.
Review: I found this book in the New Books section of my library, checked it out immediately, pored over it for weeks, in the process renewing it twice. I finally decided to come on Amazon and order it because it was obviously going to be a book I referred to again and again. The insights of the author on depression are expressed in a way that I have never experienced in any of many other books I've read on depression. Maybe because she's the child of a depressive and a depressive herself and has *been* there and knows what it feels like. There is so much compassion in her writing. I am telling everyone I know about this book!

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Summary: Revised review:Anne's book is so special.
Review: I have been re-reading Anne's book:"How To Survive When They're Depressed",it is wonderful. I did not realize,belatedly till recently,that it is I that must change,not the depressives that I live with. Anne's book has given me renewed courage and faith and hope,along with inner strength in order to survive. It has been a long and hard journey for me. Anne deserves a vote of thanks,for trying to help those who suffer so much from depression fallout,that it can literally almost destroy the depression fallout victim.

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Summary: If Depression has Touched Your Life, Read This Book!
Review: I have recommended this book so many times that I have lost count. Sheffield outlines the origins, symptoms and familial patterns of depression in a thoughful, engaging and instructive manner. While not positioned as a "how to" manual, I was nevertheless left with a sense of hope, understanding and an enhanced sense of how to more effectively cope with the depression which has plagued some of my own family members.

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Summary: Warning
Review: I purchased this book for my husband to better understand my problem with depression. After reading these great reviews, I was very hopeful that the book would help him understand and be more compassionate. But quite the contrary happened. It created a monster, my husband became very uncaring, insensitive and hateful. Only concerned with his fallout problem, and no long caring ennough to love me through my depression. After reading the book, my husband concluded that he is at no fault for the problems in our marriage, and because Anne Sheffield says that he doesn't have to "put up" with my depression, and that he is to "walk away" when we are having a discussion whenever he feels like it, it leaves the depressed person even more depressed. Since he has read this book it has totally devestated our marriage, and he has told me he is leaving me and wants a divorce. Because, Anne implies that many marriages wont withstand depression, he doesn't want to even try anymore. She did a good job of describing the depressed person. However, what I didn't like was that it was all one sided. The responses from the "fallout" victims, were just that, only from the "fallout" victims. What caused the depressed person to react the way they did. One guy on his wedding night was shut out. Did he possibly do something that caused that reaction from his wife. Did he say something or do something inexcusable that made her say "don't touch me". These things we'll never know. Obviously this book has been very helpful for the fallouts, but what effect has it had on the depressed? On me, it feels like it has literally ruined my life.

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Summary: A Must Have For Those Dealing With a Depressed Person
Review: I really appreciate the personal insights offered in this book. Instead of a clinical approach to explaining the illness, we get a peak into the author's personal life history and how depression affected her entire well being.

I am taking the advice (my depressed person is not liking it) and finding some peace and joy after a very dark period. Thank you, Anne.