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Summary: A very helpful book for parents at their wits end.
Review: I have a very energetic 3 year old that spent his first years hitting, pushing, and being labeled as "aggressive." I found this book a great resource when I thought I had run out of options. It gave me the tools to teach my son the points I couldn't get across, and it sympathized with me along the way. I finally felt like I wasn't the only parent with these problems. If you need real tools to teach your child in a respectful but effective way, I highly recommend this book.
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Summary: This Book Changed My Life
Review: I have read quite a few parenting books, and until recently I considered Faber & Mazlisch's books (including How To Talk So Kids Will Listen and Listen So Kids will Talk) to be the absolute pinnacle. But if Faber & Mazlisch are like a college course in parenting, Becky Bailey's book is graduate school. I am deeply grateful to her for writing this book, and to the friend who told me, "You have to read this book! I want to load up an airplane with copies and drop them all over America!" Unlike many parenting books which just offer tips and tricks for gaining children's compliance, Bailey's book is aimed at helping parents achieve self-control and self-discipline, so that they can then teach these skills to their children. When my friend first told me about the themes of the book, I thought, "Oh great. Just what I need--a book to make me feel bad about how out-of-control I am, how angry I feel towards my kids, how much I yell, etc." But it wasn't that way at all. Reading the chapter on "Assertiveness," for example, I realized that I do not need to feel guilty about my anger; I just needed to make a switch from saying to the children, "YOU are MAKING me furious" to saying "I feel furious when you yell in my ear. You can talk to me in a quiet voice, and I will listen." The first expression implies that children are responsible for their mother's feelings. The second lets me express my feelings, set boundaries, and give the children the information they need to make better choices. Since reading the book, I feel better about myself and my children. It has strengthened my feelings of self-respect as well as helping me treat me children with respect. I look forward to applying my new skills in my adult relationships as well!
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Summary: This Book Changed My Life
Review: I have read quite a few parenting books, and until recently I considered Faber & Mazlisch's books (including How To Talk So Kids Will Listen and Listen So Kids will Talk) to be the absolute pinnacle. But if Faber & Mazlisch are like a college course in parenting, Becky Bailey's book is graduate school. I am deeply grateful to her for writing this book, and to the friend who told me, "You have to read this book! I want to load up an airplane with copies and drop them all over America!" Unlike many parenting books which just offer tips and tricks for gaining children's compliance, Bailey's book is aimed at helping parents achieve self-control and self-discipline, so that they can then teach these skills to their children. When my friend first told me about the themes of the book, I thought, "Oh great. Just what I need--a book to make me feel bad about how out-of-control I am, how angry I feel towards my kids, how much I yell, etc." But it wasn't that way at all. Reading the chapter on "Assertiveness," for example, I realized that I do not need to feel guilty about my anger; I just needed to make a switch from saying to the children, "YOU are MAKING me furious" to saying "I feel furious when you yell in my ear. You can talk to me in a quiet voice, and I will listen." The first expression implies that children are responsible for their mother's feelings. The second lets me express my feelings, set boundaries, and give the children the information they need to make better choices. Since reading the book, I feel better about myself and my children. It has strengthened my feelings of self-respect as well as helping me treat me children with respect. I look forward to applying my new skills in my adult relationships as well!
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Summary: The most effective parenting book I have ever read
Review: I highly recommend this book by Becky Bailey. It has truly changed my relationship with my preschooler and toddler and the way in which I interact with my children. I have a very challenging three year old son who is extremely determined and stubborn. Prior to reading this book and using Becky's techniques, he and I were engaged in constant power struggles. By using her techniques, we had instant success and amazing results. The non-stop power struggles are gone! For example, putting on his shoes every day was always a challenge, with me becoming angry as he refused to cooperate. After reading her book, I approached this problem differently. The next time he refused to put on his shoes, I used her techniques. I was absolutly flabbergasted when he thought for a second and then said OK and put on his shoes. I was so shocked I was speechless for a few seconds. For months, he and I had struggled daily with putting on his shoes. Just by approaching him differently the problem disappeared. My husband and I were absolutely stunned at how effective the techniques are. This book has helped me understand the reasons behind my children's misbehavior and how to appropriately react so as to make misbehavior a learning experience for my children. While my children's behavior is not perfect (of course I don't expect that from a preschooler and a toddler) we are seeing vast improvement. Most importantly, Becky's techniques are helping to teach my children the tools they need to interact succcessfully with other persons. Becky's book really ties together how different discipline skills promote certain values. This book is truly the most effective parenting book I have ever read. I wholeheartedly recommend it.
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Summary: These methods really work!
Review: I loved this book and all the info contained therein. It makes sense in that it talks specifics about brain chemistry and hormone releasesto back up the time tested theories. I would recommend it to every parent, new or otherwise. If every parent would read this book, our next generation's potential would be limitless!
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Summary: These methods really work!
Review: I loved this book and all the info contained therein. It makes sense in that it talks specifics about brain chemistry and hormone releasesto back up the time tested theories. I would recommend it to every parent, new or otherwise. If every parent would read this book, our next generation's potential would be limitless!
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Summary: What a difference this book makes!
Review: I originally borrowed this book from the library, but half way though I went out and bought my own copy.
The concepts expressed in this book have helped me change my view of life both with my child and in my personal/professional life. Thanks to this book, instead of constantly questioning my daughter ("What are you doing?!") I am able to direct her to a positive result in an encouraging manner. And the best part is that she actually listens!
I recommend this book for every parent.
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Summary: A fabulous, from-the-heart parenting book!
Review: So when was the last time you listened to anyone who tried to tell you how to raise your child? Ah, right . . . me, too. But wait! Becky Bailey really has some great stuff to share, and if you're willing to expand your horizons, you can dig deep into a gentle and creative mind to discover innovative and amazingly effective techniques that will have you and your child bonding like Super Glue. But we're already closer than Klingons! Okay, I hear you. But imagine if you could learn some very simple dialogue and fresh ideas that, with patience and practice, could make the difference between a full-blown tantrum and a tame teaching experience? The author emphasizes respectful, loving guidance for children and encourages parents to examine themselves as role models in more ways than one. Her book filled me with new insights into the ways that I treat myself which are reflected onto my child and stamped onto his own self-esteem. Becky Bailey has a very gentle and positive style that really encouraged me to reassess and improve not just my parenting skills but my communication techniques in all relationships. The gentle book is ripe with positive parenting advice that your heart will totally agree with. Even if you don't have the time or inclination to read cover to cover, you can still gain much wisdom from flipping to any random chapter. I know I must sound like Becky Bailey's PR person, but I promise I'm not! I am just a pooped Mom who stumbled upon this marvelous material. I gratefully absorbed this wonderful book and all it has to offer, and know I will reference it for positive reinforcement in the years to come. I recommend this book to everyone I know! The loving, gentle and respectful style is in perfect accord with my attachment parenting philosophy, and the fresh ideas were exactly what I needed to refine and improve my skills as my son turned the "toddler corner". A must-have for any attuned parent, grandparent or caregiver.
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Summary: Changing our family!
Review: This book is changing not just the style I approach my kids but the whole outlook I take on life and dealing with others. I have great confidence in where we are going with the steps Becky Bailly gives because it is not just a book about how to control your little beasts it's about pulling yourself together as a person, then helping your kids pull it together. Not just outward behavior but solid inside change. If you've read lots of parenting books and still find it hard to make real change I recommend this book for filling in the gaps, this is the missing links. If depression is an issue in your house, as it is for two of our family members, this addresses those issues as well in a real people way.
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Summary: A Step Above the Rest!
Review: This book is not your average, every day parenting book! By using a win/win scenario, Dr. Bailey not only carves out a highly effective and user-friendly program demonstrating for parents the "seven basic skills for discipline", but she teaches us as readers how to find our own sacred selves first. This in turn teaches us as caregivers to center ourselves prior to engaging in any discipline encounter. By being brutally honest Dr. Bailey guides us through this process by giving often hilarious examples from her own life, and step-by-step procedures on how to master the "seven powers for self-control". Just when you think you have a question that Dr. Bailey has not answered, she pops up with just the scenario you had in mind and walks you through it. A whole chapter models her program with specific examples using children at different stages of development. At the end of the book, a seven-week program is mapped out in a concise and easy to follow format. I highly recommend this book for anyone who not only wants to improve their relationship with their children, (nieces, nephews, grandchildren) but who may want to improve their relationship with themselves.
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