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Summary: A must for parents who want more peace in their home!
Review: As a parent, teacher and parent instructor am thrilled about this incredibly helpful publication. The most common complaint I get about discipline is "What worked for me as a child is NOT working for my children!" Easy to Love, Difficult to Discipline is a step-by-step process of learning new ways to unhook emotionally from your child's button pushing. It also gives the exact words to say in a variety of typical conflict situations where you usually find yourself speechless and confused. Becky has a great way of communicating because her information is easy to read and makes soooooo much sense! Becky reviews the seven components for becoming a more powerful and effective parent without acting like an emotional nut. This is a hard book to put down. You will be so thankful for this masterpiece!
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Summary: A must for parents who want more peace in their home!
Review: As a parent, teacher and parent instructor am thrilled about this incredibly helpful publication. The most common complaint I get about discipline is "What worked for me as a child is NOT working for my children!" Easy to Love, Difficult to Discipline is a step-by-step process of learning new ways to unhook emotionally from your child's button pushing. It also gives the exact words to say in a variety of typical conflict situations where you usually find yourself speechless and confused. Becky has a great way of communicating because her information is easy to read and makes soooooo much sense! Becky reviews the seven components for becoming a more powerful and effective parent without acting like an emotional nut. This is a hard book to put down. You will be so thankful for this masterpiece!
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Summary: Hits the nail on the head
Review: At first I was a skeptic. I thought, "How can this book make my child behave?" After not just reading this book, but actually using the techniques, our family is commmunicating better. My girls (ages 7 and 1) are making good choices with less power struggles. We learn best in a cooperative, positive environment. My mother made me behave through humiliation, fear, and anger. I am relearning how to parent. The techniques that Becky Bailey gives in this book do work. It will take a little time and some effort. But believe me, it is well worth it. Not only does this book help with parenting, it also helps with relationships in general.
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Summary: Hits the nail on the head
Review: At first I was a skeptic. I thought, "How can this book make my child behave?" After not just reading this book, but actually using the techniques, our family is commmunicating better. My girls (ages 7 and 1) are making good choices with less power struggles. We learn best in a cooperative, positive environment. My mother made me behave through humiliation, fear, and anger. I am relearning how to parent. The techniques that Becky Bailey gives in this book do work. It will take a little time and some effort. But believe me, it is well worth it. Not only does this book help with parenting, it also helps with relationships in general.
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Summary: Some helpful mantras, but better resources elsewhere
Review: For me this book crystalized a new mantra I use with my sons when they are exhibiting undesirable behavior: "tell them what you want to see." So instead of yelling, "STOP HITTING THIS INSTANT," I might say, "David your hands should be in your lap, John, keep working on your blocks." This springs from one of the author's "7 powers for self control," which says that what you focus on, you get more of. These 7 powers beget the "7 basic discipline skills." So, I got a new mantra out of it. Otherwise much of the book is familiar advice offered by other authors/child experts I consider much more readable, knowledgeable (Stanley Greenspan, Nancy Samalin for a start) and who, importantly, are parents themselves. This author offered many vignettes of herself interacting with parents at their wit's end and appearing like a magic fairy with just the right approach for their child, while the hapless parent looked on in disbelief. I simply couldn't help thinking how she would approach this material if she had had the incomparable life experience of having children herself.
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Summary: Some helpful mantras, but better resources elsewhere
Review: For me this book crystalized a new mantra I use with my sons when they are exhibiting undesirable behavior: "tell them what you want to see." So instead of yelling, "STOP HITTING THIS INSTANT," I might say, "David your hands should be in your lap, John, keep working on your blocks." This springs from one of the author's "7 powers for self control," which says that what you focus on, you get more of. These 7 powers beget the "7 basic discipline skills." So, I got a new mantra out of it. Otherwise much of the book is familiar advice offered by other authors/child experts I consider much more readable, knowledgeable (Stanley Greenspan, Nancy Samalin for a start) and who, importantly, are parents themselves. This author offered many vignettes of herself interacting with parents at their wit's end and appearing like a magic fairy with just the right approach for their child, while the hapless parent looked on in disbelief. I simply couldn't help thinking how she would approach this material if she had had the incomparable life experience of having children herself.
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Summary: easy to love, difficult to discipline
Review: Great book! I was at my wits end with my 3 year old and felt that time-outs were no longer effective. This book teaches you how to teach your child to learn appropriate behavior without punishment. Through the 7 powers of self control you will learn how to be a better parent and through the 7 basic discipline skills, your child will learn how to behave better. No need to threaten with timeouts or taking away priveleges. You will see your child in a different way and a change in both you and your child. Very positive, but definitely requires practice and a change from your "normal" way of looking at things.
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Summary: Yet another non-parent telling me what to do.
Review: Hey, I like a good self-help book as much as the next person, but this isn't where I wanted to find one.Reading the thoughts posted by other readers, I had high hopes for this book. Instead of actually helpful advice, I found this to be nothing more than an 'I'm OK, You're OK' book for parents at the end of their ropes. It did little to help me in my quest to get my kids to cooperate, and offered in place of real advice, things like a discourse on looking at the world through loving eyes, and the difference between optimistic parents and pessimistic parents. As you might guess, the book points out that optimistic parents' children are the leaders of the new world, and pessimistic parents' children generally are the kids you wish your kids would beat up. Had this book done without all the positive thinking advice and stayed on topic, it would have been much easier to read. I don't like being the one negative feedback customer, but in this case, I feel it's important. Heavy on the happy, light on the help.
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Summary: Your Children will Love You
Review: I am thrilled to have found this book - it is absolutely the best advice I've ever come across on the subject of discipline.
If you are a sensitive parent (as I am), this is the book for you! If you are one of those parents who deep down feel that time-outs and punishments (and also rewards) do no good and are instead emotionally harmful but you had no other alternatives to try, then get this book. By following its advice you will understand that the problem originates with you -- how you react to your child when conflicts occur. The basic premise is that a child who misbehaves is not inherently bad but instead, does not know the appropriate behavior for the situation. If you use conflict as a teaching experience and also model appropriate behavior yourself during the conflict, then conflicts will gradually lessen as the child learns appropriate behavior in a non-threatening environment. An example the author gives is that of a employee who fills out a form incorrectly and the supervisor reprimands the employee and sends him to the employee lounge for an hour. The next day he is asked to fill out the same form -- of course he will get it wrong again.
This is a readable, contemporary book packed with sound advice. Well worth the money to have your children love and trust you when they grow older, not hate you as they will after a lifetime of time out and punishments. My daughter and I thank you, (author) Becky Baily Ph.d, for your wonderful book.
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Summary: Great book
Review: I have a very energetic 3 year old that spent his first years hitting, pushing, and being labeled as "aggressive." I found this book a great resource when I thought I had run out of options. It gave me the tools to teach my son the points I couldn't get across, and it sympathized with me along the way. I finally felt like I wasn't the only parent with these problems. If you need real tools to teach your child in a respectful but effective way, I highly recommend this book.
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