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Summary: husband and wife review
Review: I have just finished reading the book, "How To Behave So Your children Will, Too!" and thoroughly enjoyed it. It was very helpful and insightful for my husband and I regarding our two girls, ages 3 and 6. After just a week of using some of the techniques I can see improvement in the overall atmosphere in our home. Thank you!
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Summary: A must read (and follow) for every parent
Review: I was introduced to Mr. Severe's book during a casual encounter at an author signing at a nearby library. His approach to helping parents is the biggest benefit of his book. He explained that he had tried working with children and discovered that if the parents didn't change how they interacted with their children, the problems could not be solved. Therefore, he started having group meetings with parents to discuss their concerns or problems that they were having with their children. The result was different parents providing experiences that had helped with problems that they encountered with their child. His book is the result of his notes from ten years of these parent meetings and discussions with all of these parents. When we first had our daughter Rachael, we did not know how to deal with her when she did not listen to us. His books gave us advise on things to try with our child. One example is that Rachael would come to you on the couch and pull on your finger wanting you to go with her. I then proceeded to tell her no, and she started throwing a fit. I then tried to sooth her and find out what she wanted and I usually ended up being manipulated into doing what she wanted. After reading the book, we created a plan on how to deal with Rachael. 1) think before you answer, 2) You can't change your answer, and 3) stick to it. Then, when Rachael requested for you to come, you said yes if you did not want to hear her cry or you said no and refused to get up. In two weeks she would not throw any fits, if you said no, she just turned around and found something else to entertain herself. His book explained how we can interact with Rachael during the discipline times without getting angry or mad. No more yelling! Rachael now makes her own decisions on everything, but the choices are pre-planned by us. Such as, "leave the book alone, or you will go sit on the couch in the front room". If she than touches the book, she goes to the couch. When she is willing to agree that she will leave the book alone, she can return to the area. No removing the book, or trying to physically prevent her from grabbing the book. She is allowed to grab the book, but she is then put in timeout on the couch. When she returns, it is her decision not to touch the book. This is a great book and I have bought several copies to give them to new parents that I know. Every parent must read this book and try his approach. It is not easy, but your life and relationship with your child will go from hell to heaven when all of the rules are finally learned by everyone.
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Summary: A must for all parents libraries!
Review: Our goal is to help parents face the challenges of raising children in today's society. You stand as an example of how real-life parenting information provides Moms and Dads everywhere with the tools to build better families. Thank you. Tara Stewart/Producer "The Parent's Journal with Bobbi Conner" NPR-National Radio
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Summary: I highly recommend it to parents
Review: What makes this book, among hundreds of parenting advice books, different? It engages parents in a serious look at how profoundly their actions, and reactions, influence their children's trust and cooperation, while giving them a 101 course in behavior management.Based upon stories from thousands of parents, Dr. Severe has devised strategies for parents to manage their behavior, while successfully guiding their children's behavior. He uses common behavior scenarios to exemplify ways in which parents can use these strategies. Familiar occurrences of tantrums in the grocery store, bedtime hassles, or fighting siblings, often leave parents feeling angry, helpless, defeated, and without control. Dr. Severe pin-points consistency as a key element in successfully deterring misbehavior and promoting good behavior. As a parent, I know how difficult it is to remain consistent. A statement he made in the book sums up what many parents experience. "Some days we let misbehaviors slide, some days we play warden." I found myself nodding with recognition as he described how parents often feel too tired to argue or yell in a desperate effort to gain cooperation from their children. It's easy for parents to become caught up in a cycle of power struggles and inconsistent discipline. In his book, Dr. Severe helps parents break these cycles and gain control, with simple self-assessment methods and practical ideas for: implementing incentives without bribing utilizing punishments that teach, and managing children's behavior without arguments andpower struggles. He also discusses the difference between threats and warnings, the ineffectiveness of spontaneous spanking, and how to make time-outs productive. He stresses the importance of acknowledging our children's good behavior, and gives us dialog that will help them develop valuable decision-making skills. I found this empowering collection of stories and activities easy to read, non-judgemental, and I highly recommend it to parents who want to improve their parenting skills. Dr. Severe also shares tips and insights in a free one year subscription to his quarterly newsletter for purchasers of his book.
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Summary: A Great Book!!
Review: "This book is a must for parents looking to raise their children with heart and soul." Mark Victor Hansen, New York Times Best-selling Author, Chicken Soup for the Soul
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Summary: What an outstanding book!
Review: I started reading this book about ten days ago and have started to implement some of the ideas discussed. I am already seeing the value of this book with my 'difficult' eleven year old son. After reading Dr. Severe's book, I know that he is a rarity among children's mental health professionals (based on my vast personal experience) the research is based on Dr. Severe's years of talking with parents and learning what works for other parents. This is an excellent book for all parents and for professionals who deal with parents and children. The book offers a common sense approach to parenting and helps parents to remember some of the things they may have forgotten, as well as presenting some suggestions which they may not have considered. All parents will find this book helpful. Parents of children with behavior problems will find this book particularly valuable. It was ironic that I found this book the day I did because on the previous day my son's therapist had been talking to me about some of the same ideas. For me, this book may become my "parenting bible." Good luck with the book! Tracee Cornforth * Freelance Writer * Dallas, TX
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Summary: This book is a life saver!! Thank you,thank you,thank you!!!
Review: Dr. Severe helped my husband and me to realize that discipline starts with the parents. By using the techniques outlined in the book, our three-year-old son is learning more than good behavior, he is learning to be responsible for his actions. I have even received comments from family members about the noticable change in my son. This book is fantastic!!
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Summary: Common Sense Strikes Again!
Review: I bought this book hoping for some insight on dealing with our three year old and her normal "three year old misbehavior". I really enjoyed the first couple of chapters and I definitely support the idea that parents should "be" what they want their children to "become". I liked his admonition to focus on the positive behavior and not the negative. I also gleaned some other good advice here and there throughout the book. However, once I got into the book, it became obvious that his "method" is based heavily on an elaborate bribery system [including numerous detailed tables of rewards for different age groups]. There is actually a chapter called "Never Give Away The Ice Cream" in which the author chastizes a family for taking their children out for ice cream. He says that *nothing* should ever be given to children unless it is tied to their behavior as an award. Forget unconditional love; quality family time for the sake of family time; or teaching children to do the right thing BECAUSE it is the right thing - this method is a sure fire way to teach your kids that nothing is worth doing unless they are being PAID to do it. In my opinion, following the advice in this book is a great way to raise superficial, materialistic, self-serving brats who are guided not by their conscience, but by an external reward system.
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Summary: This book has saved my life!
Review: In all honesty before I got this book I was a depressed and irritable parent. I did not look forward to waking up in the morning and did not enjoy being a mother. I bought this book 5 days ago and I read it in 2 days. I am please to announce that I have not raised my voice or yelled at my two children (1 preschooler, 1 toddler) since I read this book! I have already started implementing the techniques that Severe talks of and they WORK. They work because my dedicated determination of following the book to the exact letter. I am determined to have a positive climate family and it is working because my tone of voice is mature and happy. When I discipline I speak in direct tone and not yelling at all. I don't get angry anymore! My kids are LISTENING and they are SHARING and they are NOT fighting! They are being sweet adorable little boys now and I have Sal Severe to thank for it. What a wonderful book! I think hospitals should give this book out when you are discharged with your first born for the first time! Simply NEEDED for EVERY family! What a difference! I LOVE BEING a MOMMY NOW! :) :) :)
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Summary: This book is rated "G" for GREAT RESULTS
Review: If you are a parent with a child anywhere between the ages of birth to teenager, this is the book for you!! If you are like most parents you know that it can be stressful to deal with misbehavior. After reading this book Dr. Severe gives you humorus stories and easy ways to keep tempers in check and stress levels in the basement when your children misbehave. He enlightens you on the root causes of misbehavior and clearly defines terms that we sometimes get confused i.e. mischief vs. misbehavior and how to deal with each one differently. After reading the book, I wanted more so I bought the video which is equally as good and easy to watch when you need a refresher.
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