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Summary: It's got a good beat and you can dance to it but......
Review: This book was suggested to me by my husband's counselor. The format is easy to read, no plowing through chapter by chapter. Remember though, this was written by a survivor. There is some very good advice for partners but it seems geared towards accomodating the survivor and not addressing the needs of the partner.It is a good book, if your partner is well into the healing process. I don't recommend this book if your partner has just begun healing. If they've just started healing, read this as a companion book to Ken Graber's _Ghosts in the Bedroom_. I found some of the sections in _Allies in Healing_ helpful and enlightening. But when I got to the sections dealing with sex my heart sank. To be told to get used to being a nun/monk is more than a little disheartening.
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Summary: This is a great book for men and women partners of survivors
Review: This is a very helpful book. It is relatively easy to read and helps you identify your own issues and how they relate to your partner's issues. It helped me know that I was not alone in my feelings and experiences regarding my husband's abuse as a child. I strongly recommend this book!
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Summary: A must read for any partner of a sexually abused adult.
Review: Though I loved my partner very much, I was often confused and hurt in our relationship. Not sure why the distance and odd behaviors happened, and lacking the knowledge or words to discuss it, the roller coaster ride was often more than I could handle. This book was a god send. It explained what was happening and why. It gave me the skills I needed to communicate openly & honestly about the effects of the abuse. It helped me stay healthy so I could be there for the one I loved. It gave us tools that helped us move forward while staying connected and close. Most importantly, it gave us hope. If you and your partner are willing to try, this book can help.
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Summary: A must read..
Review: When your lovers past is so upseting that you are to the point of loosing it. Or dealing with what happend is killing both of you and your relationship. This book is a bible that will help make sence of ones partner who has been sexually abused. It also helps with how to cope with the situation that is best for the both of you. This is the only book that I have ever read where I can relate to the author so well that it seems that the book is about me.
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