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Summary: For divorced mom's & dad's dealing with a pain-in-the-ex!
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Family Life magazine said, "In many ways, dealing with an uncooperative former spouse is like dealing with a difficult
child: You've got to set limits, express your feelings clearly, and pick you battles with care. The authors' strategies for mediating the many issues in a separated parent's life are apt and easy to apply."
In our book, "Joint Custody With A Jerk: Raising A Child With An Uncooperative Ex," you'll find tools and techniques
that will help you change the dynamics of your relationship
with your pain-in-the-ex by changing how you communicate with him or her.
Some of our techniques include delivering "I messages," a non-combative communication formula that states how you feel and what you want changed, and how allowing your ex to experience the natural consequences of his or her actions will bring change, too. Determining whether it's your problem or your ex's can show you which problems are worth your time to tackle. If the problem exists between your ex and your child, we give tips for helping your child deal directly with your ex, thus removing you from the divorce-
communication triangle.
"Joint Custody With A Jerk" draws on many negotiating techniques as well as how to develop an empowering attitude.
Readers are advised to prepare for meetings with their ex, to have an "out" ready, and to know what they want before they start. When you reframe your marital relationship into
a business relationship, you can find happiness even if your
ex is a jerk!
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Summary: A Good Start
Review: Having been to court five times in ten years due to denial of visitation and continual visitation interference, I saw this book on Amazon and decided to go to the library to check it out. In general, it offers sound advice for those of us who are dealing with a mild jerk.
However, most of the time it is an issue of the typical disenfranchised father dealing with both a manipulative and lying ex and a gender-biased court. It doesn't offer advice for dealing with apathetic judges who pass the buck, nor with court-appointed mediators who are mostly female and have a chip on their shoulder regarding men in general.
AS a disenfranchised father living in Washington County Minnesota, I have lost patience with the gender-biased court system and am seeking other ways to deal with these issues.
Unfortunately, the authors don't address the gender bias of our society. I'm sure women have issues, but I am a person who deals with the public for a living and I frequenty come accross fathers who are paying an exhorbitant amount of child support and medical coverage, and often can't afford to pay an attorney. Since judges -- dispite lip service to the contrary -- favor attorneys over Pro Se litigants, fathers are often up against it.
In almost all cases, it is the mother who is granted joint physical and legal custody. Perhaps it is different in other states, but Minnesota is a backward mommy state. That's putting it kindly.
Yet, I did find some useful advice in this book and will incorporate these ideas regarding my own jerk for an ex. I do recommend this book, but it almost seems to pertain more to women.
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Summary: I'd give it more stars! Definitely worth the price!
Review: I picked it up, bitter and looking for humor. What I got instead was a nearly plug-in formula for communicating with my ex who is so difficult we were forbidden to communicate except by email or text message. I learned how to not let him foist his problems onto me, while still not creating problems for our kids. Anyone who couldn't find value in this book is either as calm and wonderful as Mr. Rogers or simply cannot read. I'd even recommend this book to ANYONE who needs help "talking like a therapist" in order to get through communications with difficult people of any kind. I know its helping me.
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Summary: Helpful in so many ways...
Review: I was very pleasantly surprised that this book not only helps with dealing with a difficult X, but it also teaches one to effectively communicate in all other aspects of life as well. I would recommend this book to anyone who needs help in dealing with a difficult person in their lives.
Unfortunately, we have to deal with our X's if there is children involved. This is a great book on showing a person how to do just that.
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Summary: Title Sends Wrong Message
Review: I would not purchase this book, with this title. Perhahs I think the Ex is a jerk. But, I certainly would not let the children know I felt that way. Purchasing a book with this title would imply to the children I felt this way. Divorce is confusing enough for children, why set an example that name calling is appropriate in any dispute?
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Summary: I Could Never Buy This Book
Review: I, too, agree with "A Reader" who thinks that the title of this book is completely inappropriate. Who could possibly keep this book in the house and risk having a child see it? Calling the other parent a jerk is not going to help anyone. Clearly a publishing gimmick - too bad, because it overshadows what seems like potentially decent advice.
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Summary: parents read this first
Review: If only both parents would read this book first...before they begin a child custody battle, many family court attorneys and functionaries would be unemployed. This book provides valuable communication tools especially for parents beginning the divorce process. It can be helpful to those who are already in advanced stages of divorce & child custody 'wars' although creating and maintaining healthy communication may be more challenging after unhealthy patterns have taken hold and more time may be needed to succeessfully change negative behaviors. As the book warns: it is not intended for situations involving family violence or child abuse.
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Summary: parents read this first
Review: Not much information to find in this book, though it can be entertaining if you are bitter and need to find something to read while you are in the same situation. Don't look for answers from this self helper, there are none. Spend your money on ice cream instead. You'll be happy you did.
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Summary: Not worth opening the cover
Review: Not much information to find in this book, though it can be entertaining if you are bitter and need to find something to read while you are in the same situation. Don't look for answers from this self helper, there are none. Spend your money on ice cream instead. You'll be happy you did.
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Summary: This isn't just for the ex-spouse to read!
Review: Pass this on to your next partner! My new partner is a dad and I didn't understand the way his spouse acted. I picked it us to learn a little, and I am so glad I did. It goes into great detail on why the ex-spouses act out towards each other and I understand his situation much better now. Not that his joint-custody is a battle, but she is still very bitter and I can see why she is acting out in this way. This isn't just for the ex-spouse to read!
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