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Summary: Walking a mile...
Review: "Hidden Messages" puts the reader back into the mind and heart of the child, and moves the reader to think more carefully about the things s/he says to, does for, and behaves around children. The book is based on the premise that most of us are "good parents" trying our best and incites us to think things through as we go through our everyday routines. The main thrust of the book is "walking a mile" in our children's shoes. Each section describes a common, everyday occurrence in family life, an incident that might not otherwise provoke a moment of thought...until viewed through a child's eyes. It then describes the child's possible interpretation, and discusses approaches.When I read this book, I found myself saying over and over again, "Yes, I've done that...I've never thought of things that way..." The book provokes thought on behalf of our children in a wise, witty, warm way that made me want to hug my children at the conclusion of every chapter. It offered reassurance that I'm just like most parents, yet gives me ways I can improve my communication style and be more mindful of the examples I set. I can't think of anyone who could not benefit from reading it.
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Summary: Walking a mile...
Review: "Hidden Messages" puts the reader back into the mind and heart of the child, and moves the reader to think more carefully about the things s/he says to, does for, and behaves around children. The book is based on the premise that most of us are "good parents" trying our best and incites us to think things through as we go through our everyday routines. The main thrust of the book is "walking a mile" in our children's shoes. Each section describes a common, everyday occurrence in family life, an incident that might not otherwise provoke a moment of thought...until viewed through a child's eyes. It then describes the child's possible interpretation, and discusses approaches. When I read this book, I found myself saying over and over again, "Yes, I've done that...I've never thought of things that way..." The book provokes thought on behalf of our children in a wise, witty, warm way that made me want to hug my children at the conclusion of every chapter. It offered reassurance that I'm just like most parents, yet gives me ways I can improve my communication style and be more mindful of the examples I set. I can't think of anyone who could not benefit from reading it.
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Summary: ... says "Hidden Messages" scores a direct hit!
Review: Did you know that there are better ways for parents to communicate with their children? Thanks to Elizabeth Pantley's book "Hidden Messages", parents will find that the answers are just a few words away. Throughout the book, parents will discover how their own words and actions affect their child's behavioral development. The book includes sample situations and dialogue between parents and their children, and discusses the "hidden messages" that the parents have just expressed. Elizabeth further helps parents to understand their own actions and gives them ideas on how to change their behavior and how they communicate with their children. "Hidden Messages" is sure to become a staple in every parenting library. I highly recommend it!
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Summary: ... says "Hidden Messages" scores a direct hit!
Review: Did you know that there are better ways for parents to communicate with their children? Thanks to Elizabeth Pantley's book "Hidden Messages", parents will find that the answers are just a few words away. Throughout the book, parents will discover how their own words and actions affect their child's behavioral development. The book includes sample situations and dialogue between parents and their children, and discusses the "hidden messages" that the parents have just expressed. Elizabeth further helps parents to understand their own actions and gives them ideas on how to change their behavior and how they communicate with their children. "Hidden Messages" is sure to become a staple in every parenting library. I highly recommend it!
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Summary: Food for Thought!
Review: Elizabeth Pantley's latest book, extracts of which have been featured in the Practical Parenting newsletter. I love the style of this book; it takes stories bases on real life parenting situations and then draws out key messages about what we are really teaching our children; then pointers are provided for change. This book could also be used by practitioners in their work to prompt reflection and insight. Great book! Dr Andy Gill
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Summary: Amazing! Life changing!
Review: Everything we do is giving a message to our children. A scary thought? Certainly, especially when we realise that often we are unknowingly giving them entirely the WRONG message. Sometimes we are inadvertently teaching our children the exact OPPOSITE of what we would like to. The good news is that we can learn to give our kids the messages we really WANT them to get! Hidden Messages: What our words and actions are really telling our children is a book that EVERY parent needs to read. As always, Elizabeth Pantley challenges us to think about our parenting and teaches us how to make changes that can have dramatic effects on the lives of our families. Her style is gentle and positive. As Dr. William Sears writes in his foreword, "Sure to gently tweak the consciences of even the best parents, inspire them to raise their children in a more conscious and sensitive manner - and tug at the heartstrings as a reminder to give constructive messages to our children". This book is DIFFERENT! Elizabeth Pantley uses stories (some real, some partly contrived) to illustrate a whole variety of parenting lessons. This is very effective indeed. Many parents will be able to see themselves in some of the examples. As I read, I felt at times shocked, at times amazed, at times I even shed a tear or two. I learnt a great deal about myself, my parenting, and how to make some important changes. When you read this book, be prepared to be moved. Hidden Messages consists of 33 stories, grouped into the categories: messages about responsibility and independence; messages about thoughtfulness and kindness; messages about annoyance and anger; messages about relationships; messages about discipline and behavior; messages about listening and caring and love; messages about time and priorities and messages about parenting styles. Each story is followed by the "hidden message" (see if you can work it out for yourself while reading the story!), "think about it" and "changes you can make". In these 33 short stories, you are taken on a kind of journey of all that is important in parenting. You are challenged (ever so gently) to examine your own relationship with your children and given the tools to grow and mature in your parenting journey. This is an amazing book! I thoroughly recommend it to every parent - the messages contained in it are simply too important to miss.
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Summary: Do you like Chicken Soup for the Soul books?
Review: Hello fellow parent, I love to read stories that have an emotional impact on my life. So I wrote a parenting book that uses stories to teach even the best-informed parents how - despite their best intentions - they have been making mistakes in how they interact with their children. I think you'll be surprised to learn that YOU are unknowingly sending some of the wrong messages through your words and actions. (And I'll tell you how to fix this!) These stories are based on true situations that I've learned about through my experience as a parent educator. In addition to my professional experience, I know first-hand about parenting through my 12-year-old daughter, Angela, 10-year-old Vanessa, 8-year-old David and our newest little surprise: baby Coleton! Hope you enjoy my newest book.
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Summary: EXCELLENT BOOK!!!!!
Review: I could not stop reading this book! The short stories make it so interesting that I couldn't wait to read the next. I think all parents will be able to relate to many of the stories and learn so much!!!
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Summary: I LOVED THIS BOOK!
Review: I highly recommend this book. I have seen many of the examples in my family as well as in families of friends. She makes the book very interesting by putting in stories. I am now reading "Kid Cooperation, How to Stop Yelling, Nagging & Pleading and Get Kids to Cooperate" and like that very much as well.
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Summary: Easy to read and eye opening
Review: I love the format of this book and the messages it accompanies. You read a story about a parenting situation and think, well, I do that, what's the big deal? Then you read the hidden message you are sending your child and a light bulb goes on in your head. I highly recommend it to every parent.
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