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Summary: My husband is actually reading a book!
Review: Bought this book for my husband. He has 14-yr old daughter from previous marriage. DH does not read books, but I pushed him to just try the first 2 chapters. He is still reading & even admitted that it was a really good book. He is using some of the techniques with his daughter & he seems much less stressed. Time will tell if the techniques work with teen...
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Summary: A solid book full of common sense.
Review: Cline/Fay present material that teaches parents how to raise responsible, self-managed young people. The sooner you begin to follow their advice, the better off your teenager will be.
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Summary: This book has changed my thinking and my life...
Review: I couldn't put this book down for days, it had so much information that I needed to help change my thinking. Right away I used the ideas and boy did things change around the house. I am a single parent and just didn't know how to get around the constant problems of reasoning with a strong willed child. I recommend this book to all parents even if you think you are doing all the right things. You will find great help and your life will be easier.
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Summary: You can take control
Review: I decided I needed a different approach with my teenagers when my son came home with a green Mohawk and a big Bush tattoo (George W., that is) one day and my daughter said she wanted to get a couple of nipple rings that would have sunk the Bismarck. This book really helped me take control of the situation. Now I have the green Mohawk and the nipple rings and my teenagers think I'm the coolest dad around, and they're as obedient as can be. Who would have believed it? But I owe it all to this book. Highly recommended.
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Summary: Excellent book
Review: I ordered this book because my stepdaughter came to live with us. I have never parented a teenager previously.....and my husband and I have very different ways of parenting. I found this book to be insightful and gave me an understanding of how teenagers need to be "handled." My husband and I now give a lot more responsibility to our daughter and let her make her own choices and decisions (well most of them) on her own. It has helped our household and our relationships immensely.
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Summary: Very Good, but not THE ANSWER TO ALL PROBLEMS
Review: In 1849, gold was discovered in California, and thousands rushed West to find their fortunes. Some did find a fortune, some found some gold, and some were left penniless. This book is not quite that situation, but close. There are some very good ideas in this book, which is part of a set put out by Cline and Fay. The authors clearly understand quite a bit about attachment theory, behavior management, and parenting. They have put their ideas together into a good package of explanations, techniques, exercises, and workshops. Thus the book has definite value.Here comes the "however". However, when reading this, and related books, the reader gets the feeling that, for millenia, parents did not quite know the right way to parent their children, and the authors have finally discovered it for us. The theories and techniques get applied to every situation, with case histories of success. This is an over-simplification. Cline and Fay do have some research backing up their ideas, but there is nothing really new here, except for some of the phrases (some of which are very useful: "Not my problem", "What do you plan to do about that?"). There is a zealousness to the writing that, without directly stating it, gives the reader the feeling that "THE ANSWER TO ALL PROBLEMS" has been found. Some of the case histories sound like testimonials on an infomercial. I am a practicing clinical psychologist who works with children and families. There IS valuable material in this book. If the methods are stated clearly and applied consistently, children's behavior will probably improve. However, there are many benign theories of parenting involving well-researched behavioral techniques, any of which, if applied clearly and consistently, will have the same results. Read the book, use it well, but don't expect it to be a panacea.
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Summary: Very Good, but not THE ANSWER TO ALL PROBLEMS
Review: In 1849, gold was discovered in California, and thousands rushed West to find their fortunes. Some did find a fortune, some found some gold, and some were left penniless. This book is not quite that situation, but close. There are some very good ideas in this book, which is part of a set put out by Cline and Fay. The authors clearly understand quite a bit about attachment theory, behavior management, and parenting. They have put their ideas together into a good package of explanations, techniques, exercises, and workshops. Thus the book has definite value. Here comes the "however". However, when reading this, and related books, the reader gets the feeling that, for millenia, parents did not quite know the right way to parent their children, and the authors have finally discovered it for us. The theories and techniques get applied to every situation, with case histories of success. This is an over-simplification. Cline and Fay do have some research backing up their ideas, but there is nothing really new here, except for some of the phrases (some of which are very useful: "Not my problem", "What do you plan to do about that?"). There is a zealousness to the writing that, without directly stating it, gives the reader the feeling that "THE ANSWER TO ALL PROBLEMS" has been found. Some of the case histories sound like testimonials on an infomercial. I am a practicing clinical psychologist who works with children and families. There IS valuable material in this book. If the methods are stated clearly and applied consistently, children's behavior will probably improve. However, there are many benign theories of parenting involving well-researched behavioral techniques, any of which, if applied clearly and consistently, will have the same results. Read the book, use it well, but don't expect it to be a panacea.
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Summary: A breakthrough book for this harried mom
Review: My son turned 13. He became a different person. I became a different parent. I didn't understand what was happening, and then we reached a crisis point. This book caused me to completely reposition my parenting philosophy. It's allowed me to focus more on the love of my child, than on the fear of how he will "turn out." The idea of being a "consultative parent" is an absolute breakthrough for me, and one that is working beautifully after only one week of practicing it. I am thrilled with the results and the possibilities. The authors are to be applauded with a standing ovation.
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Summary: Excellent book that helps parents deal with Teens.
Review: The authors guide parents through the necessary steps teens take while learning to become adults by making choices, good and bad. They give real life examples of situations that cause parents a great deal of emotional stress and many excellent ways respond that allow you to stick to your standards, but in such a way without adding velocity to a viscous cycle. This book really helped me stand back, stay objective, and keep a proper perspective while loving and teaching my teen. I highly recommend this book for any parent struggling with any type of negative teenage behavior.
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Summary: Excellent book, I have recomended to many people,all love it
Review: This is an excellent easy to read and practical guide for all parents. I have attended workshops by Jim Fay and I still refer back to this book all of the time. Everyone I have recomended it to loves it! One of the best parenting resources on the market today. Well worth the money, and it makes a great book to give as gift .
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