Rebuilding: When Your Relationship Ends (3rd Edition)

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Summary: great whether you wind up divorcing or not
Review: my husband and i used this book in the midst of our separation, to do a more structured separation with some groundrules and such...and it helped us reunite much more strongly than we had ever been! So it isnt even just for divorcing couples, although it is helpful there also.

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Summary: The best book on divorce, from a great man we will all miss
Review: My wife and I have been leading divorce recovery workshops for the past five years. We trained with Bruce Fisher in Bolder CO. We use Bruce's book for our workshop because it the best, most helpful book for dealing with the tragedy and trauma of divorce. Whether you're in a support group, or reading a book on your own, THIS IS THE ONE TO GET! This is the one book that doesn't try to help you with being single, without first showing you how to deal with the emotional trauma that divorce brings. It will help you make sense out what is going on in your life! It will help you make it through this terrible time! It will help you get it together enough to make decisions that seen overwhelming! And it will help you make the best of what seems like a hopeless situation!

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Summary: Absolutely shows how to thrive thru the divorce challenge
Review: The book "Rebuilding When Your Relationship Ends" was one of the things that really helped me get thru my own divorce process and create a whole new wonderful life. It truly showed me that my feelings and reactions were normal and that they could be worked thru. After all Bruce Fisher and Robert Alberti worked with people who were rebuilding their lives after divorce for over 25 years and they ought to know. The book has a style that is very very readable. You can begin at the beginning and read it straight thru or open it to just the chapter that is appropriate for you at that moment, like "Loneliness", "Anger". "Self-Worth", or "Sex". The book is built around the metaphor of climbing a mountain, and you are shown just how achievable it is to successfully rebuild your life one doable step at a time. Once you reach the top of the mountain you experience a wonderful sight of a new you and a new life. As Alberti says, "So prepare yourself for a journey. Pack up your optimism, your hopes for the future. Discard your excess baggage. ---- And the Rebuilding mountain lies ahead for you." If you are only going to buy one book to get yourself thru the divorce process this is the one. I can't recommend this book more highly. Other books I would recommend are "How to Survive the Loss of a Love" by Colgrove, Bloomfield, and McWilliams, "Spiritual Divorce" by Debbie Ford, "Life after Divorce" by Sharon Wegscheider-Cruse, and "Finding Love (Again!)" by Connie Merritt.

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Summary: Critical reading for anyone...in a relationship or not
Review: There are quite a few "self-help" books out there. Throw a stone and you're bound to hit something entitled "chicken soup for those who just got hit in the head with a stone." Sophmoric tripe, really. But, "Rebuilding" is good for would be counsellors (like me) and for those who just came out of a hard relationship (again...anyway). Although I don't like "acceptance" that well, the steps written about in this book are excellent as you can identify what milestones you've reached, what you are shooting for, and what stumbling blocks you have in your way.

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Summary: If you are suffering, read this book. You will feel better.
Review: This book explained every emotion that I went through during my separation. If it wasn't for this book, I would have experienced a much longer and more damaging recovery. It also lets you know the emotions of what the other person is going through. If you have a broken heart and want to get through the pain in the most proactive way, believe me, read this book.

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Summary: A life saver! In a time of need....
Review: This book gives excellent, practical advice for toiling through 19 stages of recovery in a divorce. Each chapter is unique, and gives homework for the person to work through topics like anger, loneliness, grieving, etc. I found the chapter on dumper/dumpee relationships (grief vs. guilt) and the chapter on love to be the most valuable. Fisher describes many types of love, and allows a confused person to sort out where they and their spouse actually stood with each other, both during and after a marriage. Unravelling confusion is important to anybody going through a divorce. I cannot more strongly recommend this book to anybody who has been dumped by their spouse. Buy it, keep it, and go back to it many times over the months you may be trying to "climb your mountain".

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Summary: Outstanding for the dumpees of the world
Review: This book gives excellent, practical advice for toiling through 19 stages of recovery in a divorce. Each chapter is unique, and gives homework for the person to work through topics like anger, loneliness, grieving, etc. I found the chapter on dumper/dumpee relationships (grief vs. guilt) and the chapter on love to be the most valuable. Fisher describes many types of love, and allows a confused person to sort out where they and their spouse actually stood with each other, both during and after a marriage. Unravelling confusion is important to anybody going through a divorce. I cannot more strongly recommend this book to anybody who has been dumped by their spouse. Buy it, keep it, and go back to it many times over the months you may be trying to "climb your mountain".

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Summary: A life saver! In a time of need....
Review: This book guides the reader through the process and stages that one inevitably faces when going through a divorce. Even if you read it 10 times, each time you will get a different message/insight as important as the first time. It shows the reader at what stage he/she is in the process of healing which is very comforting, knowing that the time of divorce everything is so unsure. It is not a heavy book and can easily be grasped by anyone who puts a little time each day to see where he/she is in this hard yet fulfilling journey. Personally, I found it to be SO VERY TRUE in every step of the way!! I think the best thing that this book can give to every reader is HOPE and the tools not to become cynical in such a trying time. I would suggest it to every one even those people who are not undergoing a divorce because it is rich every page you turn! Can't say enough good things about it!.... A true life saver!

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Summary: My personal companion after separation
Review: This book has been my best friend since my wife left me. It has helped me understand the overwhelming rush of emotions that have come over me and has helped me realize that it is ok and normal to feel what I feel. It guides you through the stages one goes through during a crisis such as divorce. It has been such a comfort that I am reading it twice. The author has such a great understanding of the topic that it is as if he has known me personally. I highly recommend this book for anyone who is going through the pain of divorce, which is the greatest pain one may feel in his or her lifetime.

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Summary: Excellent!
Review: This book helped me immensely when I went through my divorce. It captures the very essence of the emotional chaos one experiences and provides one with a way to measure progress. This book is not just for divorcing people, I find it incredibly helpful anytime one goes through a breakup. It helps keep me sane ;-)