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Summary: finally a serious book about the end of a relationship
Review: A close friend, a survivor of divorce, gave me this book when I started my divorce and I am thankful for that, as well as the authors. When I first read it, it felt as if someone is peering into my mind and picking my thoughts and feelings, it's almost unreal how the authors know EXACTLY what I feel and what help I need. The book is remarkably easy to read and understand but please do not be fooled. It's not as easy to do the exercises because it's A LOT of pain, but the exercises are really useful and totally essential. All you need is to be totally honest with yourself and how you feel. This is a wonderful companion to take on your journey in singlehood. You will survive singlehood.
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Summary: Bless the authors for this!!
Review: A close friend, a survivor of divorce, gave me this book when I started my divorce and I am thankful for that, as well as the authors. When I first read it, it felt as if someone is peering into my mind and picking my thoughts and feelings, it's almost unreal how the authors know EXACTLY what I feel and what help I need. The book is remarkably easy to read and understand but please do not be fooled. It's not as easy to do the exercises because it's A LOT of pain, but the exercises are really useful and totally essential. All you need is to be totally honest with yourself and how you feel. This is a wonderful companion to take on your journey in singlehood. You will survive singlehood.
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Summary: This book is your best friend through the hurt
Review: A friend lent me this book when my husband left me and I was in the depths of dispair. I was reading anything I could to try and understand, but this is the one book that really helped. I latched onto it like a life-preserver to a drowning person. I have read each chapter serveral times now, and keep getting more out of it as I progress in my healing. I returned my friend's copy and bought my own (which I have now in turn lent to a friend in need.) One of the revelations I found comforting was simply to know what the physical symptoms of grief are - that my sore throat my aching chest and my dry mouth were all manifestations of my emotional trauma. This book felt like I was talking to a friend who had been there and back, and could take me by the hand through the healing process and help me find my way back to joy. Please read it if you are hurting from the loss of a relationship - it will comfort you a great deal and help you more forward constructively. Then lend it to someone you know who could be helped by it.
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Summary: As a custody evaluator, I suggest this as "mandatory reading
Review: As a custody evaluator, this is mandatory reading for parents in my program. I suggest to one and all. Not only does it give a reality check as to where you are but also where your lost love might be and why they are acting that way. A very few dollars well spent and your friends will appreciate not haveing to hear about it anymore!
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Summary: A great book for personal growth
Review: As someone trying to get over a seven-year relationship back in 1994, this book was my savior. I needed to understand why I felt what I felt. This book allowed me to understand the mix of emotions and turmoil I was going through. And contrary to other books offering more creative approaches, Bruce Fisher's actually explains the complex psychological process of grief, loss and recovery. I still read it today to understand other's feelings and reactions and to better manage my current relationships. A must.
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Summary: Great Teaching Tool
Review: As the director of a career redirection program for folks "beginning...again" after divorce, I have been using Bruce Fisher's book for years. The practical approach and sensible building blocks to recovery never fail to comfort and empower the clients we work with. It's great for support groups to read and discuss, too, so while I think individuals can benefit from reading this book, I also recommend it to groups as a teaching instrument for healing.
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Summary: hurting now? this WILL provide relief and insight...
Review: bruce can quietly focus your pain, helping you see how you can step beyond it and maybe use it to change "invalid programming" so you can stop hurting now. he gives 15 building blocks, which differ from the 12 (strongly-ordered) steps in that you can start with any of the 15, whichever gives you the hardest "hit." in this way, you can gain a little self-confidence from the self-direction, if so guided. although all are interrelated (and life will teach you something about each if you don't step up and deal but that's why you're reading this now), bruce wrote each section to stand alone. this is the place to start a journey. bruce's kindness might seem bland to one not actively scouring her soul on a momentary basis (as i was.) but that makes this a better place to start while still actively hurting. bruce gives lots of good basic how and why, allowing you to save the in-depth how and why for a little later... i recommend ayanla vansant (how to integrate the divine) and brad blanton (how to integrate honesty) for the later work.
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Summary: Everyone desiring any relationship should read this book
Review: Dr. Fisher really has a gift of conveying solid ideas. Everyone desiring any relationship even one with the self should read this book. In fact it should be made a required text in high schools across this country! Thanks Dr. Bruce! See you at the summit and I won't forget my camera this time! Joan
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Summary: The hurt CAN heal. You CAN stop hurting NOW.
Review: FIVE STARS +++ - Reading this book will help you more fully understand your feelings following the loss of someone you love. This is absolutely the most helpful book to read if you have ever lost someone by divorce or death. While reading it, I felt that Dr. Fisher had been hiding in my house and taking notes. I experienced every emotion possible for someone who has experienced the loss of someone they love. HIGHLY RECOMMENDED!
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Summary: A HUGE LIFESAVER
Review: I cannot even begin to explain how much this book helped me through a very emotionally painful divorce. I actually read and worked through it in a couple months and just recently, after a year, have started working my way back through it again. It is unreal how much I have progressed. I could not have done it without this book, it guides you through the pain, the anger, the turmoil and the eventual understanding of divorce. Most of the information in the book is almost surreal, like they wrote it with YOU personally in mind. Whenever I had a particularly upsetting day or started to think about the divorce, I would pick up the book and keep working, it helped keep me sane. The book really puts everything in perspective and helps you to develop into a whole person again. I highly recommend this book to anyone who knows WHERE they want to go, but doesn't have a clue how to get there.
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