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Summary: The basis for so many books that followed, slightly dated
Review: After having read some of the standard parenting books from the 80s and 90s I was really surprised to see a book first published in 1964 which touches on so many of these important concepts. Jane Nelsen always mentions that her work was inspired by Dreikurs, I think a more precise way to put it would be - copied word for word. Aside from all the important parenting advice I found it interesting to note the anachronisms and dated aspects of the book. Several of the anecdotes suggest options which would probably be illegal today, like leaving a 5yr old in the car while one does the grocery shopping, or leaving a 3yr old home alone because she didn't get ready in time for the evening drive, or playing a slapping game with a 4yr old. Reflecting the time the book was written, he also says things like - everyone in the family has a role - the father's role is to go to work, the mother's role is to be the homemaker, etc., which wouldn't be said today. In almost all the examples of situations that go bad, the child ends up getting spanked, which was probably the case then and is less so today. In spite of a few dated aspects the vast majority of the book is still relevant.
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Summary: Time Tested Advice
Review: Although an older book, the advice given still applies to this day. There are many short chapters on varying topics and each chapter is thoroughly illustrated with many examples. The concepts of this book can be readily applied to most families.
It promotes understanding rather than telling parents what to do in all situations.
Some modern books that I found similar in theory are: "How to Talk so your Kids Will Listen and Listen so your Kids Will Talk" and "The Manipulative Child: How to Regain Control and Raise Resilient, Resourceful and Independent Kids".Some explainations seemed long at times but overall a very interesting and well written book.
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Summary: Sound advice through the ages
Review: Although this book was written in the sixties, the premise and underlying situations are eerily similar to what occurs today. Yes, there are cultural situations noted that we would shudder to think of today (a mother leaving her two small children in a car so she can grocery shop in peace). However, when you take the book and meanings in context, this is a survival guide to parents on how to raise children with respect and keeping your sanity at the same time.
I have tried "Love and Logic", and find Dr. Dreikur's approach to real consequences vs. "punishment" more successful in implementation.
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Summary: Children: The Challenge
Review: I am a 47 year old mother of three sons. I was given this book many years ago by a friend and I have recommended it many times. It is a practical, easy to follow concept: Help your children make wise choices and live with the consequences! It eliminates the power struggle between parent (authority) and child (rebellion). You help explain their choices, possible outcomes of those choices, and what you will or will not do in any given situation. For example, "I cannot drive this car with so much shouting. If you continue to shout (argue) I will stop the car". If shouting persists, stop the car and get outside until everything is quiet. A few stops like this and all you need to do is put on the turn signal. They learn that if they choose to argue and make noise in the car, the car will stop. One son decided he did not like his winter coat the first day it was cold enough to wear it. I said, "ok" and didn't push the issue. However, when he arrived at school, he wasn't allowed outside for recess. The next day he took the coat and never complained about it again. BUY THIS BOOK.
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Summary: Every parent should read this book.
Review: I got this book 15 years ago on the advice of a pediatrician, and used its principles. IT WORKS! The relationship that I have with my son, who is now 21, is proof of that. Even during his difficult teenage years, we were able to communicate in a positive way. I am so convinced of this book's effectiveness that I always give it as a gift to new parents. P.S. the concepts work in your other relationships also!
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Summary: Excellent!
Review: I have read a number of child rearing books. As a physician I am asked to recommend books or methods of child rearing. This is the most comprehensive, practical, and useful book of its kind on the market.
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Summary: Good practical advice, full approach
Review: I liked the most of the themes in this book a lot: encourage your child, you can only control yourself, etc. Very very similar to Robert MacKenzie's Setting Limits, which is a little less dated. I wasn't crazy about the "Stay out of Fights" part, for instance. I don't have a problem letting kids settle their own fights, but not when the kids are pummeling each other, which they often will. He doesn't cover that. By the end of this book, I had the feeling the author was a big advocate of ignoring. All in all, I thought it had some good practical advice, it was easy to read and quick to get through so you can put it to use immediately. I think like most of these books, you have to adopt those things you inherently agree with and leave the rest.
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Summary: Good practical advice, full approach
Review: I liked the most of the themes in this book a lot: encourage your child, you can only control yourself, etc. Very very similar to Robert MacKenzie's Setting Limits, which is a little less dated. I wasn't crazy about the "Stay out of Fights" part, for instance. I don't have a problem letting kids settle their own fights, but not when the kids are pummeling each other, which they often will. He doesn't cover that. By the end of this book, I had the feeling the author was a big advocate of ignoring. All in all, I thought it had some good practical advice, it was easy to read and quick to get through so you can put it to use immediately. I think like most of these books, you have to adopt those things you inherently agree with and leave the rest.
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Summary: i thought it helped me raise my daugther
Review: i was living by myself , when asked ( by my x-wife ) if i would like to raise my daugther.right away of course i say yes.now came the challenge, i didn't know how to raise a little girl,by myself, i went to book stores to find books on how to raise children.there were a lot of books out there , but i found this book the best. my daugther was with me for 12 years, and refered to this book almost every day . thank you! now she has a son i what give a new book as a gift.
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Summary: The Most Helpful Parenting Book I've Read Yet
Review: I've gone through so many parenting books and magazines - and this book is reaaly the first helpful book I've come across. I found results in my home in days - more cooperative children, a lot less fighting, and a calmer, happier mother. The author demonstrates clearly how to maintain disciipline and order while also respecting children and their free agency. When I first found the book I called my mother, "I finally found a book that IS my philosophy of child rearing!" Ironically, it is an old edition of the same book that my mother read over and over when I was growing up.
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