Stupid Things Parents Do To Mess Up Their Kids: Don't Have Them If You Won't Raise Them

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Summary: Parenting takes effort? Who knew!
Review: A WONDERFUL book that should be required reading for EVERY woman
before even getting pregnant. And share it with your husband! This
book gives real life problems and practical, common sense solutions
that actually work, as well as how to help combat the mainstream
attitude that children are here for us and for our 'fulfillment' and
pleasure. Parenting is a full time job. Not just a hobby to do in your
free time. This book will be hated by those who are selfish and don't
want to have to take responsibility and sacrifice for the child they
chose to bring into this world.
It's sad that we now need a book to tell us to do what both humans &
animals have been doing naturally for thousands of years, but people
have rejected in recent decades. The facts and the results prove true,
and they're worded straight to the point without a lot of fluff and
filler. I liked the original title better, but my guess is the words
were too big for some peo!ple. I got this one in hardback as soon as
it came out and it's the parenting book I value the most.

Rating:
Summary: Parenting takes effort? Who knew!
Review: A WONDERFUL book that should be required reading for EVERY womanbefore even getting pregnant. And share it with your husband! Thisbook gives real life problems and practical, common sense solutionsthat actually work, as well as how to help combat the mainstreamattitude that children are here for us and for our 'fulfillment' andpleasure. Parenting is a full time job. Not just a hobby to do in yourfree time. This book will be hated by those who are selfish and don'twant to have to take responsibility and sacrifice for the child theychose to bring into this world.It's sad that we now need a book to tell us to do what both humans &animals have been doing naturally for thousands of years, but peoplehave rejected in recent decades. The facts and the results prove true,and they're worded straight to the point without a lot of fluff andfiller. I liked the original title better, but my guess is the wordswere too big for some peo!ple. I got this one in hardback as soon asit came out and it's the parenting book I value the most.

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Summary: Such an inspiration to all mothers!!
Review: Because of finances, I had been second guessing my choice to stay at home with my two children since the beginning of the year. After reading this book it made me feel like my job as a mother is the most important job there is and will ever be! It has boosted my confidence and self esteem and made me a better mother to my children. Thank you Dr. Laura! I wish there were more people like you out there - supporting the significance of motherhood in a society concerned with material things. No, we don't have cable, and none of us can buy new clothes (we shop consignment or clearance racks), but it doesn't bother me anymore. For right now, while they are small, I feel like this is the best decision I could have made.

Rating:
Summary: Such an inspiration to all mothers!!
Review: Because of finances, I had been second guessing my choice to stay at home with my two children since the beginning of the year. After reading this book it made me feel like my job as a mother is the most important job there is and will ever be! It has boosted my confidence and self esteem and made me a better mother to my children. Thank you Dr. Laura! I wish there were more people like you out there - supporting the significance of motherhood in a society concerned with material things. No, we don't have cable, and none of us can buy new clothes (we shop consignment or clearance racks), but it doesn't bother me anymore. For right now, while they are small, I feel like this is the best decision I could have made.

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Summary: Get Real
Review: Dr Laura I'm afraid is hopelessly out of touch. Oprah I can understand but you listen to Ms Schlesinger and realize that she really has no idea what life is like without a few tens of millions in the bank. Life is complicated and messy. Religion plays an important role in a world of increasing insecurity. God bless those who can stand on the montaintop and tell people how to live their lives and how they're not measuring up. If you're that type of masochist, Ms. S is the woman for you, to all others I suggest you follow the golden rule, treat yourself right, do good and live the most spiritually rewarding life possible for yourself and your family. Above all, follow the bible and leave jugement to God. It's not your business to caste judgement on others or for that matter allow others to do that to you.

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Summary: about to buy this book
Review: I gave this three stars only because I haven't read it YET. I'm ordering it. I feel I MUST respond to the critics. I listen to Dr. Laura and she is the FURTHEST you can get from "pop" Psychology as one reviewer stated. She goes against what is popular today. She makes me uncomfortable sometimes but I know what she's saying is right. I feel the things she says are what God would tell us if we asked - standards we know we should follow but try to rationalize sometimes. Raising kids requires VERY high standards that are hard to meet when something is more important to us, when it's REALLY difficult to put our wants/needs aside and do what's right for our kids. She stands up for children and what is right when it goes against the grain. Thank you Dr. Laura.

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Summary: Put downs don't make People want to change
Review: I was disappointed in this book. Dr. Laura goes on for the intire first half of the book putting everyone who uses daycare down. Not just put downs, a total belittlement. She was able to work two or three hours a day and made enough money over time that her husband was able to quit work. Then she says "If she can do it anyone can".
I have worked with the public for 33 years and can count on one hand the number of children with stay at home Moms that I could stand to be around long enough to give them a haircut. I know day care situations can be obsurd but there are just as many stay at home Moms who are not doing their jobs. I have personally known more than a few teachers who say the kids with daycare experience are much better all around students than kids with stay at home Moms.
Yes I take in that info because I have four children who have no trouble figuring out who loves them the most. Two of them are grown with kids of their own. I used daycare for all four because I had no choice. Their Dad walked out after 20 years with someone half his age. Most of the single Moms I know wish it was different but it isn't that kind of world. I teach my girls that they need a sound carreer as much as any Man because it makes no difference what your intentions are, Life can throw a variety of curves. Put downs don't make people change.
I gave the book a star because I agree with the discipline approaches she suggests. I never want my kids to use a divorce as an excuse for anything.

Rating:
Summary: Put downs don't make People want to change
Review: I was disappointed in this book. Dr. Laura goes on for the intire first half of the book putting everyone who uses daycare down. Not just put downs, a total belittlement. She was able to work two or three hours a day and made enough money over time that her husband was able to quit work. Then she says "If she can do it anyone can".
I have worked with the public for 33 years and can count on one hand the number of children with stay at home Moms that I could stand to be around long enough to give them a haircut. I know day care situations can be obsurd but there are just as many stay at home Moms who are not doing their jobs. I have personally known more than a few teachers who say the kids with daycare experience are much better all around students than kids with stay at home Moms.
Yes I take in that info because I have four children who have no trouble figuring out who loves them the most. Two of them are grown with kids of their own. I used daycare for all four because I had no choice. Their Dad walked out after 20 years with someone half his age. Most of the single Moms I know wish it was different but it isn't that kind of world. I teach my girls that they need a sound carreer as much as any Man because it makes no difference what your intentions are, Life can throw a variety of curves. Put downs don't make people change.
I gave the book a star because I agree with the discipline approaches she suggests. I never want my kids to use a divorce as an excuse for anything.

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Summary: Infuriating!!!
Review: I was not familiar with Laura Schlessinger before buying this book, but after reading this book I think I'm as familiar as I'll ever need to be.

It's not so much that I disagree with (at least some) of the concepts in this book, but I just couldn't stand her dogmatic, absolute tone of voice in an attempt at enforcing her point of view.

Here's a quote that REALLY wound me up - I think that how you feel about this quote will pretty much determine how you'll feel about this book

These are the author's comments in reference to complaints about recruits from military trainers:

"I figure that those same young people who can't tolerate rules, regulations, yelling, cursing, hurt feelings, or any compromise of what they imagine their rights to be, are probably going to be very upset when they are shot at, sniped at, mutilated, bombed, assaulted with chemicals and biological weapons, captured, tortured and so forth. Think they'll cope? I doubt it. Actual warfare will probably hurt their feelings, damage their self esteem, and diminish their immediate experience of happiness - all the values we hold most dear. This country better pray we never have to defend our land. We may no longer have the warriors to do so."

I was actually hoping to bring up my children in a way (and ideally in a world) that would make a "warrior" mentality irrelevant, or at the very least, NOT an asset.


Rating:
Summary: Read, Think & Consider
Review: I would like to state that I do not agree with all Dr. Schlessinger has to say. BUT on this issue I do agree that too many parents these days place convienence and material wealth over the welfare of children. She does not condem those parents that must work literally to put food on the table, or a roof over a family's heads. Rather, it is a condemnation of personal greed, an attack on the ever increasing need to "keep up with the Joneses." I have been on both sides of the issue as a mother of two. If you are not able to put a career on hold, to not drive the newest car or plan a budget so tight it nearly strangles you - then you will find this book EXTREMELY uncomfortable/annoying/offensive/disturbing - pick your adjective. Personally I am not condeming families where both parents choose to work and use daycare/nannies, etc. I only ask that they truly consider their choices regarding their children, and this book can really help raise the issues parents need to consider. Read it with a grain of salt and an open mind. Believe me, I CAN'T WAIT till my youngest is off to school so I can go back to work during the day!!!

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