1-2-3 Magic: Effective Discipline for Children 2-12

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Summary: Very Positive Results!
Review: This book actually DID work! I couldn't believe that it worked with the methods being so simple, but it did. I'm not yelling anymore and my relationship with my 3 1/2 year old is so much better (no more talkiing back, being fresh, whining, or having tantrums). We've been using Dr. Phelan's methods for about 1 month now and the hardest part for me has been keeping consistent, but the results have been like magic like the title says. I love this book and the smart and effective and Loving methods that it teaches. I have given copies of it to my sister and my friends... I HIGHLY recommend it!

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Summary: I am a Parent not a kid !! READ THIS BOOK!!
Review: I believe as with any technique you really need to use what works based on the individual child's personality. Some kids don't need this, but *all* kids could use the underlying principles. So many parents tear their hair out, and get into emotional power struggles with their children. which starts a vicious cycle. This book teaches you how to avoid that, and to be consistent. Plain and simple! Take what you like from the book and adapt it to your individual child. It really works. I also recommend "Mommy-CEO" as a good companion book. Both authors know what works for kids!

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Summary: 2-TWELVE?!?!?!
Review: I am so tired of hearing 'but it works!' Do you know that shock therapy also 'works' very well-- but does this mean you should use it?! NO. Look into the book How to talk so kids will listen and listen so kids will talk. This book may be a quick fix, but NOT a long term solution.

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Summary: A Sensible Philosophy that Worked for Us
Review: Tom Phelan presented a discipline program recently to my school district and he entertained and enlighted 300 parents of children of all ages. He was fabulous! He gave us many specific examples of what are kids do and say and what we can do differently to change their behavior. He addressed discipline regarding 2 types of behaviors... "Stop" behavior (like bad words, hitting, whining and disrespectful attitude)and "Start" behavior ( like getting the kids to do their homework, chores, clean up, use manners etc.) He emphasized that "the Magic" it is not so much the counting of...1, 2, 3 but rather how you choose to say it...in a calm yet athoritative manner so that the child knows the parent means business. He also talked about the importance of discussion outside the heat of the moment with the child either in a one-on-one discussion or a family meeting. Our 2-way communication with our children now involves more listening to one another and less lecturing. I realized that I had been doing the count all wrong expecting the magic to happen...threatening and screaming the numbers at the top of my lungs finding myself reaching 2 and 3/4...2 and 7/8 and feeling my kids were in total control and that I was a failure with the technique that was working so well for my neighbor. Listening to Dr. Phelan and reading his book taught me how to use this method correctly and to my surprise it is actually now working with my 6 and 8 year old. I have also found many other positive discipline strategies that work well on my 3 year old in another book called "The Pocket Parent", an A-Z parenting guide chock full of hundreds of suggestions of handling many challenging behaviors of 2-5 year olds. Both books are very compatible in philosophy and are worthy additions to your home library.