Cops Don't Cry: a book of help and hope for police families

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Summary: a readable useful book
Review: For COPS DON'T CRY, Canadian Vali Stone conducted interviews from which she has quoted extensively & surveys & added them to her own personal experience within the distinctive lifestyle of the police community, to bring together her information & insights into how to sustain a supportive & enduring marriage & family life.

Vali Stone makes no bones about it: When your spouse is presenting symptoms of job-related stress, she repeatedly urges you to get help immediately, as she did. Doing nothing about it will not make it "go away" & will, ultimately, ensure defeat of your marriage.

COPS DON'T CRY is a serious & good book, no matter which profession you or your spouse is in. Listening to what spouses have said about being married to a policeman, is both engaging & eye-opening. It is a look at how couples live together, through better or worse, & what those old-fashioned attributes such as loyalty, compassion, & living a public life can be.

Well done! Highly recommended.

Rating:
Summary: a readable useful book
Review: For COPS DON'T CRY, Canadian Vali Stone conducted interviews from which she has quoted extensively & surveys & added them to her own personal experience within the distinctive lifestyle of the police community, to bring together her information & insights into how to sustain a supportive & enduring marriage & family life.

Vali Stone makes no bones about it: When your spouse is presenting symptoms of job-related stress, she repeatedly urges you to get help immediately, as she did. Doing nothing about it will not make it "go away" & will, ultimately, ensure defeat of your marriage.

COPS DON'T CRY is a serious & good book, no matter which profession you or your spouse is in. Listening to what spouses have said about being married to a policeman, is both engaging & eye-opening. It is a look at how couples live together, through better or worse, & what those old-fashioned attributes such as loyalty, compassion, & living a public life can be.

Well done! Highly recommended.

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Summary: Excellent Reference Book
Review: I have read this book and have reccomended it to EVERYONE who has a relationship with a Police Officer or Police Family.
It was Eye opening, Jaw dropping, funny, sad, but most of all TRUTHFUL!
Thank God for Vali Stone and her insight!

Rating:
Summary: Helps out
Review: Maybe there's a little too much whine in the sauce with this book, how would I know? My wife and me, we read it together as part of a family support class. She liked some of it and we talked over a few things. You're on the job and want your marriage to work, maybe this book won't be so bad.

Rating:
Summary: Helps out
Review: Maybe there's a little too much whine in the sauce with this book, how would I know? My wife and me, we read it together as part of a family support class. She liked some of it and we talked over a few things. You're on the job and want your marriage to work, maybe this book won't be so bad.

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Summary: Not what I expected
Review: This book is not what I expected. It is basically two hundred pages of a police officer's wife complaining about being a police officer's wife. Now, certainly, venting one's stress is important, and perhaps sharing one's feelings with others in the same situation has some degree of merit. However, the book claimed to be "a book of help and hope for police families." Well, I guess my main point is I didn't find too much help and hope. I felt like the book offered very little insight and the author dwelled on her complaints about her life.

Rating:
Summary: Not what I expected
Review: This book is not what I expected. It is basically two hundred pages of a police officer's wife complaining about being a police officer's wife. Now, certainly, venting one's stress is important, and perhaps sharing one's feelings with others in the same situation has some degree of merit. However, the book claimed to be "a book of help and hope for police families." Well, I guess my main point is I didn't find too much help and hope. I felt like the book offered very little insight and the author dwelled on her complaints about her life.

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Summary: This Book Hits the Target
Review: This is a well-written, easy reading book with a strong message. It should be required reading for police recruits and their spouses. I saw much of what this book lays out in my years in law enforcement. Too many good cops run into trouble by living in a world of denial. Great preparation for this tough job.

Wayne D. Ford, Ph.D., author of Managing Police Stress. [e-mail]

Rating:
Summary: This Book Hits the Target
Review: This is a well-written, easy reading book with a strong message. It should be required reading for police recruits and their spouses. I saw much of what this book lays out in my years in law enforcement. Too many good cops run into trouble by living in a world of denial. Great preparation for this tough job.

Wayne D. Ford, Ph.D., author of Managing Police Stress. [e-mail]

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Summary: A Bible of Good Advice
Review: Too often, communities take our police forces and their protection of society for granted. "Cops Don't Cry" is a story that needs to be told, for both the families of police officers and the public they serve, and who better to tell it than the wife of a cop. In collecting testimonies from cops and their spouses across North America along with anecdotes of her own experience, Vali Stone has uncovered the main reason for the high divorce rate among cops. It is a breakdown in communication. To show how this happens, Vali takes her readers through every step of a cop's life, from training and the stress of the daily beat to the loss of a comrade. She also shares the spouse's roller-coaster ride of emotions, from the sexual appeal of a romantic partner in uniform to pride in their job to fear that every good-bye kiss may be their last. Vali's conversational style of writing makes her feel like a friend to her readers. By the end of the book, she not only provides police families with help and hope, she also offers insights and sensible tips for all couples experiencing problems communicating with each other.