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Summary: Horrible book, written in a woman hating, victim manner.
Review: (Negative Stars would apply here) I was so unimpressed by this book I actually considered calling Amazon to get my money back. (knowing they can't do that). The fathers in this book are complete victims, child support is referred to as "gender extortion". A complete affront to every father who wants to be a positive influence in their child's life. The paranoia and ex-wife bashing that goes on is so pathetic I would suggest major therapy for the author to get through their own issues. It's a shame that this book was written thus painting normal fathers in the same light as the extremist father wannabes that should probably not be allowed near their children due to their unresolved anger.
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Summary: Wake Call - Read even if just thinking about divorce.
Review: A great explanation of why dads should not expect fairness from the courts. The book hits you at a sub-conscious level, probably causes depression, but helps you to come out fighting for the sake of your kids. Women are coached on how to get what they want from the courts. Fathers have to know their rights, and not expect fairness from the judge without making their case.
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Summary: Wake Call - Read even if just thinking about divorce.
Review: A great explanation of why dads should not expect fairness from the courts. The book hits you at a sub-conscious level, probably causes depression, but helps you to come out fighting for the sake of your kids. Women are coached on how to get what they want from the courts. Fathers have to know their rights, and not expect fairness from the judge without making their case.
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Summary: I Wish I Had Written This Book!
Review: As a Divorced Dad with a 13-year old son, I wish that I had read Mr. Seidenberg's book four years ago. I was the typical American male, hoping that a 21-year marriage would not end in divorce. In fact, not being able to believe that a divorce was possible.My ex-wife took our son and moved out. If I had followed Mr. Seidenberg's advice, I would have aggressively protected my rights as a father. Instead, I went without legal representation for 90 days. BIG MISTAKE. Any father should read this book even if a divorce is not expected in your future. When you have children, (I have three sons), they need to be instructed on how they can protect themselves and their children from what I call "Power Feminism." My ex-wife has a master's degree from SDSU in Social Work so she is a master. In San Diego we face an incredibly male-negative family court system. I have started the Fatherhood Council,(available at dandreblow@aol.com), with the chief purpose of educating the public. Mr. Seidenberg's book has just become a free gift as part of the membership package. Enjoy! Dan Dreblow
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Summary: Mommy's Court
Review: Having read this, and experienced a fierce ongoing visitation battle, I can say this is all true. My experience has been with the gender-biased court of Washington County in Minnesota. My daughter's mother pulled all these tricks and in hindsight, I can see that she only wanted me to father a child, but not have any important role in our daughter's life. As any Minnesota attorney will tell you, a women is NEVER chastised for perjury in Washington County. It's not even addressed.
In 1993, I went Pro Se to be adjudicated after our daughter was born. My daughter's mother never wanted to get married. Although I couldn't afford an attorney, and didn't know the law, I asked for joint legal and physical custody, and the female court-appointed mediator stated rather blithely that "joint physical and legal custody don't mean anything." Of course, my ex made all sorts of false allegations to get me out of our daughter's life.
I have taken her to court for denial of visitation five times in ten years, plus the many times I have attempted mediation -- which she would make an excuse not to show up for. I can say that the judge always made me pay her attorney fees -- although I cannot afford one myself. Instead of looking me in the eye, the judge always "takes these matters into advisement."
Although the court is only allowed to take more than %25 of my net for child support, I pay more than that, plus medical expenses. Not to mention that almost all of the court social workers are female with a large chip on their shoulders.
I have read other books on this subject, talked to several attorneys, been to men's support groups,etc. I could go on, but I'm sure you get the picture. No would-be father knows this until he has been put through the mill by both the gender-biased court and his child's mother. In our society, fathers are disposible. We are considered a wallet and a spermbank -- nothing else.
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Summary: Has Some Good Points
Review: I am doing my share of learning BEFORE I start the paperwork. I've read a couple of other books and found this to give some sound advice. It does have a very sharp edge against women. But, I've read books for women that have an edge against men. If you're looking for somethings to help avoid pitfalls and plan, this book has some value. Hey, it's cheap, so if you gain anything, it's paid for itself.
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Summary: totally on target
Review: I am the wife of a man who pays child support and is continually denied visitation or rights of his child, his ex wife does what she wants and when she wants and our "Judicial" system lets her get away with it. Some may think it slams women, but I have been on both ends also being a divorcee with a child. Thank God, my ex and I did not have to play games with each other, he still was a father and I still was the mother, no games. I have also worked in the law end of it as a paralegal, yes, in most courts men are given the total shaft. This book has great direction and I recommend it a must read for every person fighting our great judicial system regarding child custody/support and ex-spouses.
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Summary: Encourages you to turn your custody battle into an Emergency
Review: I found very little sound advice in this book, so I guess the price was right. Learning the dirty tricks and doing them first is apt to blow up in your face. If you are fighting to gain or maintain custody you don't have time for revenge or a radical political struggle. I don't think things are perfect but they are remarkable better now than when I was awarded custody five years ago. I am a custodial father who gets child support from a woman that sounds very much like Seidenberg and Dawes. She expects the "Judicial" system to allow her to bully me into constantly adjusting the lives of our children to fit her whim. When they send her away because her motions and protestations are entirely self-serving and frivolous she cries, e-mails and whines to anyone who will listen. Just like them, she is deeply wounded when reasonable people stop listening. These guys are classic victim/victimizers who vilify anyone who does not submit to their wishes. Their attitudes would instantly alienate any fair minded judge. You can hear guys like these at any father's rights meeting. They pollute all topics with their venom. 'The Father's Emergency Guide to Divorce-Custody Battle' could cost you thousands of dollars by sending you in with the wrong attitude.
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Summary: Must Read This Book
Review: I have a lot of experience with the divorce/custody system, and have read many books on it. This one is the best. It is written in an easy to understand manner, is backed by solid evidence, and more to the point, it provides must have information for any parent. This is due to the fact that custody is winner-take-all, and if you don't have the information in this book (if you are a father), you almost certainly will not win. I read this book when my custody case was 18mos old, I found my case followed the book like a movie script. I lost my custody case. My son now lives 1800 miles away from me, and I spent $30,000 to date for this. If I would have had "Emergency Guide to Divorce/Custody" before, or near the beginning of my case, the results would be quite different. I would be living in the same town as my boy, and I might have spent $5,000 to acheive that. The book will make that difference for you.
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Summary: On point, Enlightening, May Understate damage to families
Review: I have recently completed reading the book by Mr. Seidenberg...it's right on the money. But one must wonder, why more people don't know about the destructive and corrosive nature of the Divorce Industry. I also liked "A Family Divided", by Robert Mendelson, which is a 450 page case study of one man in the Pittsburgh area and his experiences, a man who has reportedly now spent over $500,000 and is yet estranged from his daughter, through the "help" of divorce professionals. It is my understanding that in the case of the Pittsburgh man, it was established that 3 separate professionals practicing psychology / family "therapy" were all believed by the author to be violating professional and appropriate American Psychological Association professional guidelines... Where is the professional oversight, where is the Judicial Review Committees and the American Psychological Association?.. lots of questions and few answers. One very troubling chart in Mr. Seidenberg seems to say it all... in his jurisdiction, a County in Virginia, it appears that no father was ever awarded sole legal or shared primary physical custody in a contested case for over 1 1/2 years... no policeman, no fireman, NO MAN who even took up arms to defend our great country...ever was awarded custody of his children. Where is the Equal Rights Amendment, the caring civil rights lawyers, the NOW, which used to stand for social justice and equality?... have the liberal and caring institutions which used to stand for for basic justice dropped out of these kinds of issues? The question is almost unanswerable... where is the press?.. have men now been reduced to the welfare department for women and children of divorce, rather than social agencies of the Government. Very thought provoking!
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