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Summary: A Must Read For All Members of The Triad
Review: The Primal Wound is the best of the best reading material available today. If after reading this book, any member of the triad can still deny the reality of an adoptee's feelings of seperation from their birth mother, then they need to read this book again! As a birth mother, this book was a painful reminder of what we have lived with since relinquishment, and what our actions did to our child,even though we were told we were doing the "right thing" by giving our children to strangers. As an adoptive mother, for Nancy to write this book, took great courage and insight. This is a must read for all adoptee's and adoptive parents to understand the "why's" of the child that is now "their" child, but whose heart may still be with their first mother. This book does not bash any member of the triad, but is an honest, open reality of what all members of the triad, especially the adoptee have lived with due to the seperation from their first mother. This book can only help an adoptive parent understand their child, and an adoptee understand themselves which will only enhance their lives.
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Summary: A "must read" for anyone wanting to understand adoptees.
Review: The Primal Wound offers keen insight into the personal and inter-relational dynamics of adoptees, their adoptive families, and birthparents. Nancy Verrier's experience as both a psychologist and an adoptive mother gives her a distinct advantage over many authors, allowing her to handle difficult aspects of the adoptive trauma with sensitivity and accuracy. While many "adoption books" relate personal stories which are necessarily subjective, The Primal Wound explores the behavioral attributes of adoptees from the broad vantagepoint of personal and clinical obeservation. To read this book is to experience an awakening. It leads the way to understanding the trauma that a child's separation from their mother can cause, and gaining understanding of ways in which to heal the emotional pain involved. The Primal Wound is a "must read" for all who have been affected by adoption!
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Summary: So Very Revealing About the Adoptee
Review: This book by Nancy Newton Verrier says more about the way the adoptee perceives life, and how he presents himself to the rest of the world, than does any book I have read previously on the subject. I have read perhaps 50 books on adoption since my teen years, and Nancy Verrier's is the one I come back to over and over. I loved her book, and have recommended it to many friends and aquaintences over the years. She presents the whole story, not just a one-sided blurb to support that one side's 'issues.' She is a supreme writer, and in spite of the deeply emotional and buried theories on why the adoptee is like he is, she presents her ideas in a very easy-to-read format. I could not recommend this book any more strongly.
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Summary: Lifesaver
Review: This book has truly been a life saver! My adopted daughter is 27 and at her request, I found her birth mother. When I told her the news, she became quite defensive and we did not speak for two weeks..... that has NEVER happened. This book was recommended to me by an adopted adult and although I was convinced nothing would help - every word was an eye opener! My daughter's entire life was described in this book and my new revelation into her soul has enabled me to understand 27 years of questions within me that, although never posed an outward problem, needed to be answered. Now, because I understand what caused her reaction and have a new perspective on who she is, our relationship has been enhanced. Everything in this book fits! It opened so many doors and closed others! I recommend it to every family who is thinking about adopting... and every family who has adopted, no matter how long it has been.
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Summary: Better Understanding Of An Adoptee
Review: This book is a must have for anyone in the adoption triad. I'm an adoptee, and before reading this book, I felt as though no one really understood how I felt as an adopted child and I couldn't put it into words myself. It was like Nancy Verrier knew ME and wrote exactly what I had been wanting to express all my life. This book also made me realize and learn so much about myself and why I do some of the things I do. If your life is affected by adoption, whether you're an adoptee, or you're a friend or relative of someone who is adopted, this book will give you the understanding you need to deal with it.
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Summary: Silly, Unsubstantiated Pop Psychology
Review: This book is great for people that want to blame their problems on anything but themselves. Balanced people will want to steer clear.
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Summary: Primal Wound Healed
Review: This book leads you to believe that ALL adopted children are not normal. The author writes that every child that has ever been adopted has these feelings of depression, rejection, abandonment, and hatred. My husband is adopted, and several members of my family are also and not one of them believe what is written in this book. This book is offensive to Adopted Parents everywhere. The author states that by parents adopting children they are doing them a great injustice. I feel that this author had great trouble out of her adopted daughter and this was the only way she could explain it without taking the blame herself. The author does not ever give you an e-mail address to send comments to her........Wonder why?
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Summary: Take it with a grain
Review: This book was a very good, informative book about the process of adoption and some of the issues that adult adoptees deal with. However, I have found other books more helpful for the reunion process, and felt that this particular book didn't really relate to my particular situation very well. It was sent to me by my birth mother, and other adoptees have mentioned it to me with rave reviews; however, I found that I was "taking what I wanted" and forgetting the rest. Unfortunatly, I found that I was "forgetting" quite a bit!
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Summary: presents ideas not answers
Review: This book's primary value for me was in introducing a broad range of possibilities for how being an adoptee, since infancy, has affected my life. Not all ideas apply but it was extremely beneficial to me to explore those which turned out to be either a fantasy or a reality, as my emotions surrounding the issues seem to be tied up in both. I got to consider things i never thought of, feel those emotions, and then let go of them. Many of them for once and for all.That being said I didn't take it to be scientific, and i was a little put off by the dramatic tone... the presentation style was non-judgemental towards all 3 parties in the adoption triangle, which i thought was good, but the information was presented as though the author had discovered earth-shattering connections never before considered. I dislike this kind of thing for the attempt that it makes to pull the reader in... overly persuasive, and too defensive. Perhaps the author felt this was necesary because the research as presented appeared rather flimsy... (but it gives me the feel of promoting a social cause - bad bad imho) At any rate I recommend this book to fellow adoptees. I would not tout it as a book full of answers; I believe the emotions experienced by those involved in the adoption triangle are mysteries and cannot be solved any more than the mysteries of other human relationships can be: but they can be explored. This book can help you do that, regardless if you are in touch with biological family members.
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Summary: The best book available about the adoption experience
Review: This is a great book. Is should be required reading for all potential and current adoptive parents, adoptees and birthparents. It tells the truth about the adoption experience. It also gives valuable advice to adoptive parents. Personally, my life has been transformed by facing the truth about my adoption. Reading this book was an important step in the process.
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