Don't Call That Man

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Summary: Invaluable, practical, clever, and well-received!
Review: This book should be read by anyone suffering from a loss of a love and is having a hard time with letting go of him/her. I found Ms. Findling's advice wonderfully practical and straightforward. Although this book was written with women in mind I still felt that the advice applied to anyone. I especially loved the chapter on the "Ambivalent Man" as I feel my ex is the exact kind of guy she was describing. Thank you, Ms. Findling, for have the insight to provide all of us with sound, practical and helpful advice...each time I want to reach for the phone to call him, instead I will reach for your book so that I won't Call That Man!!!

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Summary: "don't call that man"
Review: this book was outstanding---not only for people who are experiencing a lost relationship, but for people who are in relationships and looking for ways to understand troubling times. This book should be read over and over for all women--as most women should be able to relate to many of the chapters and issues. Most women should be able to recognize their own shortcomings and additionally recognize those of their mates, lovers, etc. Everything in the book is clearly defined in "layman's language....

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Summary: Save yourself from going crazy...
Review: This book will save you when you feel like you are going insane. The suggestions about what to do when you feel like calling HIM are fantastic. The description of the ambivilent man fits most of the men I've dated to a tee. I've vowed not ever to date another on of these men again. Also, the exercises in the book help you discover why you have this need to degrade yourself by letting him make you feel like dirt.

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Summary: "Success is the Best Revenge" Breakup Guide
Review: This helpful guide to breaking up in a healthy way (is there really such a thing?) was just what I needed. The author covered a lot of ground from a psychological standpoint to a practical one. Surprisingly, I found this short guide dealing with a lot of the common things one experiences in a breakup: anger, denial, depression, etc. and defines the range of emotions one goes through in clear terms. Not only are the reasons for these various feelings discussed but the remedy to getting the most out of the breakup as well. You know what they say, "success is the best revenge" and this book is filled with ways that you can come out ahead.

I have friends coping with divorce now who I plan on sending this book to.

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Summary: A tangible and concrete approach based on classic thought
Review: This short, easily readable book was very helpful to me. The title caught my eye because it specifically addressed what I was struggling with...a strong urge to call my ex, even when I knew it was a bad idea! I have a Bachelor Degree in Psychology and have read many self-help books over the last 10 years and was disenchanted with the same old chatter. I was looking for something different and this was it. It is immediately usable because Rhonda suggests writing exercises and lists of things to do. It's not a load of theory and "shoulds" but actual, specific behaviors to try. Sure, I knew the concept of why I should not call him and move on, but WHAT to do instead and HOW do I go about moving on? This book offered numerous ideas which then spurred my own brainstorming. Definately worth the pocket change to buy it.

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Summary: Very thorough!
Review: This slim volume is jam-packed with helpful exercises designed to explore and heal underlying issues surrounding grief following a broken relationship. I found the exercises revelatory, but I wonder about the wisdom of exploring such sensitive issues without the guidance of a counselor--otherwise, the book was quite well done.

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Summary: Best book to read after a breakup.
Review: This was a great book to read! Extremely helpful.
It has question and answer sessions that help you realize
that what you are feeling isn't all about that supposedly
wonderful guy that left your life. And that you have the keys
to get on with it. It also provides support for not dragging things out with phone calls and mentally hanging on.
Best of the lot of "how to deal with breakups" books that I have read.

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Summary: It sort of helped
Review: This was an OK read but I could not relate to many of the stories. The book offers some good advice much leaves much to be desired. Confusing Love with Obsession by John Moore offers much more detail and can be read by both men and women.

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Summary: best book i ever bought
Review: this was by far the best book i ever read when it comes to
jerky men, i dated a man for a year and a half and he was the
most wonderful person i had ever met. he couldnt do enough for me
and would spend money on me like it was nothing. afte a year he
changed drastically, he wanted no commitment (even thou after our
second date he wanted an exclusive relationship) he began to become more distant with no explanation. i would try to talk to
him and ask him what was going on and he would never really say
anything, then the phone calls stopped. i emailed him and he would never answer them, i purchased the book and read it all in
an hour and i went 6 weeks without calling him, i did have a setback after that and called him to see if he was dead or alive.
he was civil but thats about it. i didnt ask any personal questions nor did i ask him if he had a girlfriend. i basically
just wanted to hear his voice and since i did always care for him
i wanted to make sure he was ok even thou he apparently didnt care if i was dead or alive. i know now that i will not call that
man again, and this book will help me to not do that. i have started dating again even thou its hard only becauses i feel like
there was unfinished business with my ex, but i know that most
men dont know what closure is and there way is to just disappear.
i recommend this book for anyone going thru the same thing as i
did, thanks alot for your wise advice when dealing with a jerk.

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Summary: Feh...
Review: Unimaginative and insubstantial...all the same stuff a friend might say to me but not even a fun read. Go for the similarly topic-ed book by Delphine Hirsh...MUCH BETTER!