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Summary: sls04@sprynet.com
Review: I was very excited when I got this book, but was disappointed after reading it, even though I did follow the advice the book gave. Weiner-Davis's quick-fix approach sounds good on the page, but in truth it just doesn't get to the bottom of any problems. More often than not, ignoring the problem seems to be the rule of thumb here, and that will just build resentment when nothing is really resolved. Also, Weiner-Davis succumbs to the very easy gender stereotypes that are so prevalent in the _Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus_ series. Basically, she says men are this way and women are that way. If you like the _Mars/Venus_ books and think critical analysis of a couple's problems is just fine, however, you'd probably like this book. For the couple wanting to fix the problem rather than ignore it, however, this book is just not going to do it.
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Summary: #1 Most Recommended Book
Review: I'm a marriage columnist and author of two books on marriage: Marriage 911 and Chocolate Chili Pepper Love. I'm not a professional counselor, I'm a humorist/storyteller and write as a friend to others who are hurting in their relationships. The #1 book I recommend to those "stuck" in problem areas, the book that was most helpful to me during a time of darkness and confusion in my own marriage is Divorce Busting. When couples are hurting they don't usually need a course in WHY (they are already experts at that) -- what they need is HELP and RELIEF. Michelle's warm, practical, engaging advice is the medicine this writer/speaker prescribes for those who want to improve their marriage and maintain a sense of personal peace and dignity in the process. Thank you, Michelle! Keep up the good work.
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Summary: A must read for someone trying to reconcile...
Review: If you are trying to save your marriage by yourself - then get this book and practice it's concepts. The book is well-written and easily understood. It has helped me tremendously in attempting to reconcile my marriage.
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Summary: Iv'e had better material
Review: If you think of finding a solution on how to save your precious marriage with this book,i wont waste too much time on it giving it a thought! This is one of the books written from the authors point of view,and will make you feel guilty.from ALTER EGO in Tula OK
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Summary: Divorce Busting - excellent material!
Review: In a day and age where 1 out of 2 people will get divorced, it is refreshing to hear the advice Weiner-Davis gives about staying together! The hurt and devastation that comes with divorce (for all concerned) is to be avoided at all costs - she debunks several myths about "why I should get a divorce" as well as gives many peoples' personal testimonies. A must read!
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Summary: Helped save my marriage!
Review: The book details what Solution-Oriented Brief Therapy (SBT) is about and offers step by step ways to turn failing marriages around- even if only one partner is seeking to save the marriage. The book is written in a direct, non-psycobabble language and is also entertaining. (I found myself chuckling and saying "wow" quite often). SBT is designed to work far faster than traditional therapy- as many as 10 sessions but usually 4-6 sessions with only a couple of weeks between sessions. The author wrote the book to get the information about SBT out to more people faster because SBT really works. She has received countless letters to this effect as well as having seen successes from her own practice. It is also enlightening to know that she was a "traditional" marriage counselor before shifting to SBT. Plenty of examples and "how to's" and it is designed to work fast. The author contrasts traditional therapy versus SBT and explains why SBT works and gives some good insight as to why long drawn out traditional therapy often fails- especially if one partner is not willing to reconcile. Rather than psychoanalyze why husbands or wives are a certain way, she directs the reader to examine "successes" from earlier in the marriage. She then guides the reader towards seeking positive outcomes via short-term simple goals/objectives based on those things that "worked" in the past. The book also provides insight as to how men and women interact in a marriage environment and how men and women view and react to things differently. It also provides tremendous insight as to how a husband and wife can both be "working" at making a marriage successful, yet still be heading down the road to misery and possibly even divorce. I would recommend the book to couples spanning the spectrum from newly engaged to those who have already divorced.
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Summary: Great starting point
Review: The book is a "getting started" approach to getting a marriage back on track. The solution based method is a "let's do this now and not worry about your childhood method". This allows marital issues to be addressed immediately, and she claims, for a couple to find some success immediately as well. However, the author doesn't acknowledge that some of those deep seated issues may well need to be addressed--even if they come after the immediate conflict is resolved. I would definitely recommend this book to anyone who is starting to think that divorce is an option--it's a great place to start.
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Summary: Very practical help when you are at a stand still
Review: The practical portions of this book are extremely helpful when what you have been trying in your relationship just keeps going and going and going in cycles. I doubt it is a cure-all for ALL marriage ills, but it is sure worth a shot! Though the first part of the book was a little tedious for me to get through, the practical part of it was extremely helpful in challenging me to analyze the habitual detrimental responses my husband and I have become so accustomed to. Now, I have new thought processes as we go through our day to day struggles and conflicts, and I try to break out of normal "no results" responses that I have inadvertently allowed into my life. At 31 years of marriage, it is time to re-examine the effectiveness of our habits.
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Summary: Want to save your marriage, dont wait another minute to read
Review: This book gives realistic tools to identify individual traits that a spouse finds unfavorable. It shows you how to identify the cause of marital trouble and make changes to repair the damage you and your spouse have endured. Good luck, dont wait to fix your marriage. I have already started to use the knowledge of this text to save my marriage which is currently at a 7 week seperation. Tonight was the first time I communicated my feelings in years and I feel good even though I have little more hope than I did yesterday of reconciling
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Summary: FINALLY! A book that we can actually understand and utilize
Review: This book takes a positive approach to helping people take steps to improve not only their relationship but their lives. I very much enjoyed the book and it has helped me tremendously. I strongly suggest this book to anyone that wants a better relationship. It will make you a better person in the process.
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