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Summary: Extremely helpful!
Review: The negative reviews I read about on this book, all expressed comments that it did not define the particular type anger that they were experiencing. However, when my husband and I were going to marriage consuling, my therapist recommended this book to me and it described the situation that I was in with my husband, in that he was "using" me to express HIS anger, and HIS emotions, so he could continue to appear cool and in control. If you are having this type problem with your relationship, this book will help you a lot. I highly recommend it.
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Summary: An excellent way to learn to deal with anger.
Review: I have read this book once and am going to probably read several more times. A wonderful insight into how to deal with your anger. You may not even realize you are angry but you will when you read this book.
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Summary: Book was not useful to those who have examined their life..
Review: If you have already examined your life through any type of therapy, this book is not for you. I found the information to be very basic - geared toward people who have no self-esteem, or voice. The basic premise is to take responsiblity for your anger, and to be assertive.
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Summary: Practical and direct.
Review: A classic that everyone should have. This is a wonderful book. A different approach to working with codependent behaviors - not written using the language of the recovery movement. Wise and useful. Not simply theoretical. Answers questions like: what do I do now?
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Summary: It's for men, too!
Review: I'm finding this book to be extremely helpful in dealing with long-standing struggles in my marriage of 16 years. Yes, the material is definately targeted towards women, but you can just as easily substitute "anyone who is committed to an intimate relationship" for "woman" in the text. As for myself, I substitute the masculine for the feminine as needed, such as in one of my favorite quotes:"...A man avoids confict by defining his own wishes and preferences as being the same as what his partner wishes and prefers him to be. He defines his own self as she defines him. He sacrifices his awareness of who he is in his efforts to conform to her wants and expectations. The entire de-selfing process goes on unconsciously so that he may experience himself in perfect harmony with his wife. If he develops emotional or physical problems, he may not associate his dysfunction with the self-sacrifices that he has made to protect another person or keep a relationship calm." Harriet Lerner
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Summary: If your problem is someone else's anger, do not read this
Review: This author has the very narrow minded view that there are only two types of people in the world, those who are angry and those who are suppressing their anger. I was looking for some guidance on how to cope with someone else's anger, and my primary emotional problem is fear. I felt profoundly invalidated by this book, and was unable to finish it. See Susan Forward or Christina Crawford's books for authors who are genuinely knowledgable and helpful about dealing with difficult or dangerous people.
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Summary: Read this book - especially if you don't think you are angry
Review: This book was recommended to me by a friend during a tough time in my relationship. I would not have chosen it for myself as until I read it, I didn't really perceive that anger was a big problem for me. Now I realise that I was quite unaware of the many different responses and methods of expression of anger we have as women. Furthermore, this book reveals how deeply damaging and destructive suppressed anger can be. Harriet Lerner uses case histories to simply and effectively communicate her ideas in an easily understandable way. The fundamental gift of this book for me, is that it is an aid to a very important realisation which fosters our empowerment and liberation: When we see that we follow patterns of behaviour and can start to identify or simply notice them, this realisation gives us a sense of objectivity about our feelings. This is the key to setting ourselves free to love and live as we choose.
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Summary: This book helped me in my relationships
Review: I have had problems in the past with rage, now that rage has become anger. This book will help you get in touch with your anger, and use it in constructive ways
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Summary: Highly recommended for ALL women
Review: As a practicing psychotherapist I recommend this book frequently to my clients. This book isn't just about anger; it's about relationships and how to maintain a sense of the "I" in the midst of the "we". This book gives helpful suggestions on ways to improve all of the important relationships in our lives. This book tops my Top 10 list of books that changed my life
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Summary: If you're a woman, and you've been angry, read this book.
Review: Women's anger is treated very differently in society than men's anger. We're told to suppress it, reject it, cry it out, stifle it, or use it creatively, but we are not ever to directly express our anger. As a result, most women don't know how to recognize their own anger for what it is, or to look for the source of their anger. Reading this book takes time, as it helps a woman to face her anger, and grow through it. I "lose" at least two copies to friends each year, who read the book, and have to write their thoughts and feelings in the margins. Karen Holmberg-Smit
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