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Summary: Interesting Cultural Read
Review: You might think this book reverses 100 years of progress for women, but if you read it with tongue in cheek, it's also a valuable lesson in Women Are From Mars/Men From Venus relationship psychodrama. For a really fascinating book about marriage and children and what men are thinking, try "I Sleep At Red Lights: A True Story of Life After Triplets," by Bruce Stockler, a hilarious and emotionally resonant memoir.
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Summary: Common sense yet caution needed
Review: I am a clinical psychologist and do not endorse self help books as a rule. However, I believe that women can learn much from this book. Treating your husband with respect and preserving his dignity in all situations will make him feel safe with you. By taking care of his needs without denying yours, you give yourself the best chance of getting your needs met. I recommend this book because it helps you get past bickering over small issues and helps you see the big picture. I strongly suggest you obtain a copy of Optimal Thinking-How To Be Your Best Self as well, to learn how be your best in good and bad circumstances.
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Summary: Female divorce lawyer approves of this book
Review: I am a divorce attorney. Daily I listen at how people throw away their lives and their children's lives over silly things. Clearly, no one should remain in an abusive marriage, but Dr. Laura's book merely asks wives to be tolerant and polite to their husbands. In return, she believes that the couple's stress levels will reduce and the family will be more harmonious. It is basic advice which most spouses overlook. Be nice. Be kind. Remember to love one another. I like this book.
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Summary: Did any of the other reviewers even read the book?!?
Review: It is no secret that the number one "need" for men is sex. A secondary need is attention. Dr. Laura is correct in that the problem with women today is that they degrade their men. There is no respect. Dr. Laura isn't telling her readers to be a doormat. She is telling women that if they withhold sex from husbands, they will pay for it with their marriage. It is not rocket science.
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Summary: Its no wonder why this country is falling apart
Review: A marriage is between a man and a woman with each participating 50% to make a whole. This book shares Dr. Laura's perspective for the woman. The crass and negative comments show the trend in society where the traditional family is facing a slow demise. Today it is all me, me, me. "I want what I want and I want it now!" is the theme of a lot of people's lives and relationships today. What is wrong with the 1950's? What was the divorce rate? How much garabage was on TV? How many songs were there about killing each other and beating women? How many kids took guns to school and killed people? I think you get the point. This country was built on the traditional family and was doing just fine until some got "progressive". This book is not written in stone and it gives wives a new perspective on their husbands. Especially if they came from the recent generation of spoiled brats. If all married couples would be less selfish, concentrate more on raising their children than buying a bigger house, keep the home stable, and stay true to their marriage vows, this country would be whole lot different and much better.
Ther is no harm is trying to make someone else happy. The world would be a lot better if we all did that once and awhile.
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Summary: Amusing title but it ends there
Review: This book is a best an amusing joke. It is insulting to both men and women and fails to admit the vast differences between individuals. Furthermore if either partner agrees to have sex just to please the other (as she advises) it turns a beautiful act of love into somthing meaningless and dirty. I do not know of anyone in a happy relationship that has not figured out that sex is best when both partners are satisfied and a disapointment when only one person is "in the mood".Sure going out of one's way to make your husband feel extra special once in awhile is a good idea but to make it a cornerstone of a relationship is VERY bad advice. When reading this book I could only think of the people I know who did live their lives as advised in this book and how unhappy they were in real life.
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Summary: Junk
Review: This book operates on two basic premises:
Men want a mommy/maid/prostitute who raises their children, cleans up after them, and puts out whenever he snaps his fingers. No relationship is necessary or even wanted.
Women only want to spend money. So in order to acheive that goal, they should actively pursue the mommy/maid/prostitute role without complaint and they will get presents. In Dr. Laura's world, husbands and wives are (at best) not friends but co-workers; and (at worst) parasites manipulating each other for personal happiness. According to Dr. Laura no communication should take place between the husband and wife, and if communication HAS to take place then it should be the husband communicating to the wife what he wants/needs. There is no room in Dr. Laura's worldview for people who are interested in maintaining an equal partnership.
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Summary: Meet your husband's needs and he'll more likely meet yours
Review: The title of my review is what this book is about. Any person knows women too often complain about their husbands, nag, and frequently let their husbands know they want them to do more. Focusing on the negative aspects of our husbands doesn't make them want to please us! It makes them feel like giving up. This book offers suggestions to a wife about how to make her man feel like a man, and in turn act like one. There are two people in a relationship. When you are one of them in an unhappy one, you can do one of two things. Blame the other and nag, complain, and tell him (or her) they should do this and that, then YOU will be happy, or you can decide to change a few things about how you react to and treat your partner (doing this consistently, not one day!). This book empowers (yes empowers) women to stop playing the blame game and start making positive changes in the relationship. No, not every sections applies or will work with every relationship. And she does assume the husband is working hard to meet the financial needs of the family and the wife is more in charge of the home and staying home with pre-school age children. However, life can be MUCH MORE PEACEFUL when a wife is taking care of the home and family with a loving spirit!
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Summary: Spouse Appreciation 101
Review: Though culturally unpopular, Dr. Laura's thesis is in the end extremely valuable to those who want to have a happy, loving marriage. I agree with her that women today want to be "the princess" and have their husbands try unceasingly to meet their every needs, and that this whole idea is not only impossible but wrong! If your desire is to have a meaningful and loving marriage, this is the book for you! I have declared this year "The Year of the Husband". I want my husband to know how much I love and appreciate him. So be it.
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Summary: Please Your Man - OH PLEEAASE!!!
Review: As is usual with Laura Schlessinger's instant psychobabble, she offers immediate blame to women for all failing marriages. Her approach is not only blatantly one-sided, but she does an extreme disservice to women in problem marriages who have tried valiantly to hold things together in the face of men who are emotionally detached, unstable, or whatever the case may be. The issue is that not all women are to blame, and not all men are either. Each marriage should be considered individually, based on the facts particular to the couple. It is unfortunate that Laura Schlessinger dishes out more guilt to women whom already shoulder their fair share of guilt based on their roles of primary nurturers. But then, what could you expect from a psychologist that 'solves' problems on the radio in five minutes?
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