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Summary: The ONE book you need if you find out your spouse is gay
Review: I thought this book would provide some "coping skills" and "strategies" as it ostensively offers. Instead, it is a virtual primer for divorce between people of mixed orientations.Rather than offering any sort of plans or strategies for how to make things work... how to continue to get along and have a relationship... this book merely offered case study after case study of people who, "tried" to make things work, but ended up, "much happier after their divorce." I'm so not kidding about this. It is truly depressing, and I refuse to have this book in my house, though I can't for the life of me think of anyone, even someone I don't know, whom I would foist it upon, the information is so negatively skewed. Yes, I am bisexual. Yes, I am married, and happily so. No, this book did not help one whit. Instead, it merely galled both my wife and I enough to band together against this book and "un-recommend" it to anyone who we know in similar straits. It is that bad. Please, save your money, and choose another book. I regret that I do not have a recommendation for an alternative book, but this one, by itself, put me off against the genre enough that I am truly loathe to read any other, "help" books on the subject. My wife and I are doing well enough on our own, thanks very much. (not thanks to the author)
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Summary: awful awful awful
Review: I thought this book would provide some "coping skills" and "strategies" as it ostensively offers. Instead, it is a virtual primer for divorce between people of mixed orientations. Rather than offering any sort of plans or strategies for how to make things work... how to continue to get along and have a relationship... this book merely offered case study after case study of people who, "tried" to make things work, but ended up, "much happier after their divorce." I'm so not kidding about this. It is truly depressing, and I refuse to have this book in my house, though I can't for the life of me think of anyone, even someone I don't know, whom I would foist it upon, the information is so negatively skewed. Yes, I am bisexual. Yes, I am married, and happily so. No, this book did not help one whit. Instead, it merely galled both my wife and I enough to band together against this book and "un-recommend" it to anyone who we know in similar straits. It is that bad. Please, save your money, and choose another book. I regret that I do not have a recommendation for an alternative book, but this one, by itself, put me off against the genre enough that I am truly loathe to read any other, "help" books on the subject. My wife and I are doing well enough on our own, thanks very much. (not thanks to the author)
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Summary: Less-than Helpful for Bisexuals
Review: I was excited when I saw the title of this book. For
years I had been disappointed to see that the mass media
never seemed to take into account that a person who is
coming out in a marriage could be bisexual.
I hoped this book would be different, but it was not.
If there was a reference to bisexuality in this book,
I could not find it. I certainly hope that someone can prove me wrong. The message I read, however, was
"wives, don't event attempt to save your marraige. It
is over, there is no way your husband will ever be interested in you." This book leaves absolutely no possibility that a man
might actually love and sexually desire his wife, but still struggle with being attracted to other men.
I have heard others who have reported having the same
reaction to reading this book - it lacks a true bisexual
perspective. I would look forward to another book by
Ms. Pierce Buxton on this subject that allows for the possibility that the person coming out might be bisexual.
Rating:
Summary: Less-than Helpful for Bisexuals
Review: I was excited when I saw the title of this book. Foryears I had been disappointed to see that the mass medianever seemed to take into account that a person who is coming out in a marriage could be bisexual. I hoped this book would be different, but it was not. If there was a reference to bisexuality in this book, I could not find it. I certainly hope that someone can prove me wrong. The message I read, however, was "wives, don't event attempt to save your marraige. It is over, there is no way your husband will ever be interested in you." This book leaves absolutely no possibility that a man might actually love and sexually desire his wife, but still struggle with being attracted to other men. I have heard others who have reported having the same reaction to reading this book - it lacks a true bisexual perspective. I would look forward to another book by Ms. Pierce Buxton on this subject that allows for the possibility that the person coming out might be bisexual.
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Summary: Powerful, realistic, painful, and compasionate.
Review: My husband purchased the book for himself and found it to painful to read at the time. Recently I told him I was going to get it and he let me know that we already had it. I read it cover to cover in a day (with no sleep). He is stronger now and has been reading it himself. Personally I think it can do nothing but good for you, just be ready to hear what it says. I am the one who came out and I know that both spouses can benefit from the experiences shared in this book.
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Summary: It saved my life!
Review: This book concentrates on how the coming out process affects the straight spouse, which is often forgotten when the homosexual partner is going through the trauma of the coming out process. If you are in this situation you will be shocked at how similar the stories in the book are to your own story! It deals with moral issues, parental issues, self-confidence issues, sexuality issues, and much more. If you are married to (or suspect you are married to) a homosexual person of either sex, this is a must read, whether or not you decide to stay in the marriage. Thank you Dr. Buxton for writing this book!
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Summary: Offers no hope
Review: This book is so negative. The main message is that the marriage is doomed and that the straight spouse has to suffer while a dysfunctional bi/gay partner makes up his/her mind about where he wants to go. It also offers all sorts of solutions involving sex arrangements with spouses and gay partners - an anathema to most straight spouses. The book convinced me that I must leave my straight wife, because there was no way I could save my marriage. I went as far as putting our house up for sale and making financial arrangements. Then I realized the book was wrong. Over the years I had lost my ability to think with my heart. I had become depressed and used gay sex for comfort. I am trying to save my marriage, no thanks to the book. The book is useful to those couples who maybe didn't have real love there in the first place.
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Summary: Honest Information
Review: This book offers help for millions of heterosexual people who have partnered with gays. True stories about couples in mixed orientation relationships illustrate the tension between individual freedom and social accountability. Honest and respectful, it balances between the extremes of homophobia and gay activism, bringing insight into the painfully personal issues of gay/straight families.
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Summary: The ONE book you need if you find out your spouse is gay
Review: This book turned my head around like hundreds of hours of therapy couldn't do... saved me thousands of dollars on anti-depressants. Thank you, Amity Pierce Buxton! This book is the ultimate resource for the spouse who finds their husband/wife is gay, lesbian, bisexual, or transgender. Finally, someone acknowledges the pain, the confusion, the guilt, the incredible blows to self-esteem that happen to the spouse of someone with sexual-orientation issues.... I am so glad I found this book... Until the moment I discovered it, I thought the failure of my marriage to a bisexual was my fault, and that just one more therapist or self-help book could turn things around. With this book, I found out that it wasn't my fault, that I wasn't alone, and that life could go on for me. Life changed immediately. Buy it... join the Straight Spouse Network... take charge of your life again.
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Summary: This book was a lifeline!
Review: This book was recommended to me and I reluctantly bought it - then I couldn't put it down. I kept writing 'YES" in the margins. If you are a straight spouse, you need this book to help guide you through the emotions and difficulties you are facing. You will realize that you are not alone. It was a godsend. Thank you, Dr. Buxton!
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