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Summary: Thank you for writing this book
Review: As a child of a gay father, this is the only book that helped me understand my mixed feelings. I could see, in the the numerous case studies, how people reacted. I saw the positive possibilities (as well as the negative outcomes). It also helped me understand my mother's feelings as well.A very valuable book for a subject that has very little written on it.
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Summary: Useful book for straight spouses of bisexuals.
Review: As a straight spouse of a bisexual this was an important book for me. A chance to confront issues swept under the carpet. A chance to open further dialogue within our marriage. I cried but felt relief, my spouse understood better some of the agonies and issues I go through. For straight spouses with bi partners this is a book which says 'you are not alone' and it's OK to feel the way you do. Useful resource list at the end for further contacts.
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Summary: Negative and uninspiring
Review: Don't read this book if you have recently learned that your spouse is gay or bisexual and you are looking for hope that your marriage can survive, or for inspiration on how to work things out in a positive way. You won't find it here, and this book can easily send you spiraling into a feeling of hopelessness. If you, like Lisa Rogak, see yourself as the victim of a terrible disaster and think that your spouse is to blame, then this book will validate those feelings and probably help you feel less alone in your pain. But it will not offer you any hope for keeping your marriage together or give you any information that will help you do that. There is no discussion of the possibility that the marriage can survive and even thrive if the couple loves each other, wants to stay together and are are open-minded, creative, and flexible. I am a straight wife who has been married to a bisexual man for 12 years. He came out four years ago. We are still together and very happy. Luckily I did not read this book back then or I might have given up during the challenging time of figuring out how to redefine our marriage. When I first saw this book I was excited that someone was writing about this subject, but I was disappointed that it has such a negative outlook.
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Summary: Thank you, Dr Buxton!
Review: Even though my husband came out of the closet with the desire to become a woman, Dr Buxton's "The Other Side Of The Closet" rang so very true to me. It has helped label the mountain of feelings and do something contructively with it. It has helped my understanding of the impact on children. One of her conclusions remind me of the work of Margaret Mead: Our present society has many challenges. We need the special gifts of any and all persons to meet those challenges. Or another conclusion: this story is not about gay or straight; this is about the pain to be a person.
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Summary: A bisexual man who wants his marriage to work
Review: I appreciated the author's willingess to squarely face the daunting issues that confront the spouses of bisexual and gay men. Statistically there are twice as many bisexual men as gay men. Many of us deeply love our wives and want to stay married and partners with them. I believe unbiased research will show that there is the same percentage of loving committed bisexual men as there are hetereosexual. Unfortunately, this author provides very little practical help and almost no hope for the bisexual husband and his wife. She suggests that the wife will have to make the biggest adjustment in the relationship. This paints the wife as victim and not as a potentially powerful partner in transforming a relationship. A bisexual marriage can work with the loving, courageous committment of both partners. Its not for the faint hearted, but then what about about life is.
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Summary: A bisexual man who wants his marriage to work
Review: I appreciated the author's willingess to squarely face the daunting issues that confront the spouses of bisexual and gay men. Statistically there are twice as many bisexual men as gay men. Many of us deeply love our wives and want to stay married and partners with them. I believe unbiased research will show that there is the same percentage of loving committed bisexual men as there are hetereosexual. Unfortunately, this author provides very little practical help and almost no hope for the bisexual husband and his wife. She suggests that the wife will have to make the biggest adjustment in the relationship. This paints the wife as victim and not as a potentially powerful partner in transforming a relationship. A bisexual marriage can work with the loving, courageous committment of both partners. Its not for the faint hearted, but then what about about life is.
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Summary: A life line in a time of dispair.
Review: I found this book shortly after my husband of 13 years told me he was gay. This book helped me to process what was happening to me, and to realize that although I felt as if I were the only person on earth dealing with such a situation, I wasn't alone. I cannot recommend this book strongly enough.
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Summary: Very helpful
Review: I ran out and grabbed this book when my husband told me he thought he was bisexual and it was a great help. Learning that my husband may be bisexual was devistating and this book helped me prepare for the emotions I would be feeling. It also helped my husband understand my emotions. This book helped us both and to date, we are still together.
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Summary: A must read if you are going through this!!!!!!!
Review: I run a support group for straight spouses and this book is the first thing I recommend. The most realistic, honest, outlook. Spouses going through a coming out need to know that they can get through this and be happy. People need to know that they are not the only ones in the world that this has happen too. Thank you Amity for giving us this book.
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Summary: awful awful awful
Review: I thought this book would provide some "coping skills" and "strategies" as it ostensively offers. Instead, it is a virtual primer for divorce between people of mixed orientations. Rather than offering any sort of plans or strategies for how to make things work... how to continue to get along and have a relationship... this book merely offered case study after case study of people who, "tried" to make things work, but ended up, "much happier after their divorce." I'm so not kidding about this. It is truly depressing, and I refuse to have this book in my house, though I can't for the life of me think of anyone, even someone I don't know, whom I would foist it upon, the information is so negatively skewed. Yes, I am bisexual. Yes, I am married, and happily so. No, this book did not help one whit. Instead, it merely galled both my wife and I enough to band together against this book and "un-recommend" it to anyone who we know in similar straits. It is that bad. Please, save your money, and choose another book. I regret that I do not have a recommendation for an alternative book, but this one, by itself, put me off against the genre enough that I am truly loathe to read any other, "help" books on the subject. My wife and I are doing well enough on our own, thanks very much. (not thanks to the author)
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