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Summary: Read this to help their children cope with bullies !
Review: As a teacher of assertiveness training for 25 years, I am delighted with Kate Cohen-Posey's book on handling bullies and teasers. It is clear, concise, comprehensive -- chock full of practical strategies instead of the theories and generalities found in other books -- the best publication I have seen on this important subject. -Naomi Penner
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Summary: Yuck!
Review: I bought this book as a gift for a young friend. Having had my own real experience with bullies when I was young, and having learned how to deal with bullies through experience, I wanted to save my friend about 20 years and give a book with advice appropriate for whatever age you are.
Based on the first couple of pages in the "Look Inside This Book", I was impressed. When I received it, I was quickly disappointed because much of the advice was aimed saying nice or "cute" things back to the bully! For example:
Bully: "Big nose!"
Person: "Why, yes, my nose is a bit large. How sweet of you to notice."
If I had said that to any bully when I was in school, the bully would have yelled, "HEY GUYS!" where upon he and his toadies would have surrounded me in a very tight little circle. I can see them hurling insults, pounding and shoving me and screaming with laughter as I said, "Why thank you! I was about to scratch an itch but your boot on my chest took care of it!" I would have been held in a headlock while each of them kicked my rear for compliments! Any teacher on the scene would have blamed me for not trying to at least stick up for myself, but first waiting and watching out of amazement.
The author must have very little experience with "real" bullies, because an outdated theory was used to write this book. The theory that bullies have low self-esteem has been discredited. The strategy of complimenting them to "build up their self-esteem", so they will stop being a bully, can actually backfire and invite more abuse. More importantly, instructing a victim with low self-esteem to help the bully by giving compliments sends the wrong message to the victim. Think future spousal abuse victim. Yuck! This one gets returned.
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Summary: Practical idealism--a joy to read and teach my children!
Review: I was stunned at the quality of this book. I got it at the library, read it in one sitting, and immediately had to buy it from Amazon. I knew this was a book I would be referring to again and again in days, months and years to come.I have been doing a great deal of research on bullying in order to help my two ADHD kids with this problem, and this is the best book among those written for both children and adults I've found on the subject. My kids and I are now using it for them--and me (it is great for adults, too!)--to gain skills in dealing with bullies (we adults call other adults who are bullies "difficult people"). We are practicing the wonderful suggestions in the book for defusing bullies using, as the author suggests, role playing. It is a great confidence builder for all of us. Confidence for me in my kids' new abilities to protect themselves, and a greater freedom from anxiety on my part for their safety and general social well-being.
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Summary: Best Approach?
Review: I'm not sure that this book supports the best way to handle bullies. The responses she suggests seem to have a somewhat "smart alec" and/or "sarcastic" tone about them. Some of the responses are just down right silly, which might result in a child getting picked on even more.
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Summary: Best Approach?
Review: I'm not sure that this book supports the best way to handle bullies. The responses she suggests seem to have a somewhat "smart alec" and/or "sarcastic" tone about them. Some of the responses are just down right silly, which might result in a child getting picked on even more.
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Summary: Not deep enouf!
Review: This book is soooo not right it does not go deep enuff to help my dog (kids) we need a lot of help and this just won't do! (Cry) I can;t go on with out being helped! I get pushed by meanys every day! I need some neisn to help me with my life! Do me one favor don't buy this book! (and also tell every one my review was helpfull!) :-) love, some helpless soul!
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Summary: Struggling Reader shows Interest!
Review: This is a great book. This is the first book my son has actually taken enough interest in to read on his own. Now that he sees reading can be useful to him, he is reading to learn.
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