The Kid: What Happened After My Boyfriend and I Decided to Go Get Pregnant: An Adoption Story

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Summary: It's about time...
Review: In Dan Savage's "The Kid", he and his partner Terry explore the incredibly complex, issue-laden world of adoption. With Dan's usual brutal honesty, queer-influenced thought patterns, and unique insights, we are exposed to the highs and lows of the choice of adoption, no matter what your sexuality. At first, I found the book an egostical diatribe of usual gay-themed fodder with which we are bombarded. Fortunately, Dan warms up to us as he warms up to the idea of being a dad, and the marriage is a happy one indeed. I came to appreciate, and even love, the little story of these two men trying to wrestle a child into this world, no matter what value you place on their intentions. They prove, once and time again, that the struggles of gay couples in today's society are exactly the same as hetero couples... and that's how it should be. Kudos to Dan and Terry for becoming parents; I wonder if DJ knows how blessed he truly is.

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Summary: A poignant, engrossing memoir of an adoption
Review: I read this book in one day-- it's that good. It speaks directly to the experience of big-city gay men in the late nineties: the combination of near-total societal tolerance (if not complete acceptance) and the unprecedented possibilities we have to live a "virtually normal" (to use the words of another recent author) life, one that might even include adoption and child-raising. I had assumed this book would be written in the same super-jaded, outrageous style of Dan's "Savage Love" sex-advice column, but instead this is a moving true story of hope and possibility, written by a man who has been humbled by an experience too many gay people have assumed we'll never be able to have.

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Summary: Poor kid
Review: How annoying. Another author trying to carve a niche with his homosexuality. His exploitation of that poor kid into a book is indicator enough of his freakishness.

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Summary: So good I read it in one sitting -- every wonderful word!
Review: I have read Dan Savage's columns before, but never has he written with such insight and plain old soul-warming humanity. His humor -- trenchant, bitchy, hysterical -- gets better with every page, from describing overcoming his peceived chill of his in-laws ( "she just doesn't like to ask too intrusive questions like 'how are you'..."), to the warmth in comparing his inevitable propensity for density to his boyfriend Terry's naturally slim build ("Kate Moss with a dick."). But most of all the love leaps out of this book from every page like his baby's projectile vomit on his maiden plane ride. Dan Savage and I are the same age, and have many of the same cutural memories. It makes me feel good to read his writing and connect so deeply with it. Terry Miller is a very lucky man for having Dan Savage to love and love him. Little Daryl Jude is very lucky for having BOTH of these ordinary but so remarkable men to love and to completely love him. And we are the luckiest of all to be able to read their story and bond, however vicariously, with all these splendid souls. You go, guys! Right on!

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Summary: great book
Review: I stayed up last night until 2AM because i could not put this book down. I got this book because I like Dan Savage's column that appears in the Chicago Reader and a assumed it would be funny, which it was, but i was not ready for how it would have such a strong hold on me. I'm as cynical as Dan, but you have no soul if your not choaked up those last couple of chapter. Thanks Dan.

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Summary: A look at open adoption through compassioned eyes.
Review: Though this is a unique story, (2 gay men adopting an infant) the sensitivity with which the story was written is unbelievable. I would wish that more of the adoptive couples I work with would read this book to understand the emotional impact of adoption. It should be required reading. Unfortunately many will be uncomfortable with the very idea--which is certainly their loss. Dan may be a cynic, but his story rings true and his sense of humor is outstanding. I'll even forgive him for picking on Omaha so much. A beautiful book! Thank you, Dan. (And Terry too.)

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Summary: Surprising, funny, and touching
Review: I expected the book to be funny, and it was, but I didn't expect it to be as open and honest as it turned out to be. Dan is frank about his motives for adopting and his feelings all the way through, right down to the fact that he didn't instantly "bond" with D.J. It was so refreshing not to read the usual adoptive-parent "I fell in love the second I saw him" gush. (I'm a mother who bred my own baby, and I didn't fall in love with him for a couple of days, so that always sounds phony to me.) I have lots of reservations about adoption as practiced in America (and nowhere else), but this is one even I can't criticize. Melissa definitely couldn't keep her baby, yet she still gets to see him and have a relationship with him, which is great for both of them. Dan and Terry totally lack the selfish sense of entitlement to a baby and resentful anger toward young, fertile women that characterizes so many Desperate Infertile Couples. I was in tears myself as I read the scene where Dan and Terry take D.J. away from a sobbing Melissa in the hospital and can barely restrain their own sobs until they get into their car. (Again, none of the obscene gloating of so many adoptive parents.) Best wishes to Dan, Terry, D.J., Melissa, and everyone else who's a part of this adoptive family! And thanks, Dan, for a wonderful book. Potential readers: buy it!

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Summary: it sucked
Review: it had no real value. really didnt get to core of the subject matter. It was boring and long winded

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Summary: Fantastic, poignant story about a gay couple and adoption
Review: Super book! I hope there will be a sequel later on. I wish Dan and Terry all the best with their son!

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Summary: sex, kids, drugs and driving.
Review: I have to say that I was a little apprehensive starting this book. After reading about Dan and Terry's life together, I started to think aboutall of the people around me in my life that are thinking about having children. What I realized, is that Dan and Terry are no different than any of my other friends I consider at times to be 'selfish' or 'irresponsible'. The ability to love and care for another human being is the greatest gift to have. After reading this, I am sure that you will agree that no matter how deviant, selfish or strange we all might be, there is that part of us that cannot resist loving and caring for a child.