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Summary: Finally, a voice of reason
Review: Unlike Henry Higgins in "My Fair Lady," most books on men's issues seem to be asking, "Why can't a man to be more like a woman?" Well, instead of the usual male-bashing or female-bashing, Dr. Farrell forces us to examine the problems in a rational manner and tries to find workable solutions. Finally, there's a writer who actually does get it. We *are* different. "Fair" and "equal" doesn't have to mean "same" and "identical." We are biologically and physiologically different, so what makes us think we must act, think and behave the same way?Culturally, it's a sign of strength for women to express their feelings, but a sign of weakness for men to do so. Men are not very likely to expose their feelings and insecurities if they feel it may damage their career or marriage prospects. Men feel misunderstood, and women complain that men don't express their feelings. Women can't hear what men don't say. The first half of the book is devoted to bridging that gender gap. Dr. Farrell gives us a few exercises to develop the better communication and relationship skills. He does it in a positive, constructive and nonjudgmental way. He gives us hope that we might actually be able to work out our differences with the opposite sex - one person at a time. The last half of the book examines some of the myths surrounding male power, male violence, and female victimhood. In doing so, Dr. Farrell is *not* saying that women do not have legitimate concerns. Instead, he is trying to point out that some of their assumptions are based on faulty research and anecdotal evidence. While temporary affirmative action may be necessary to level the playing field, institutionalized favoritism hurts everyone. While women feel that not enough is done about breast cancer, we spend far more on breast cancer research than on prostate cancer research. In fact, more men than women will die prematurely from cancer, heart disease, or AIDS. More males than females will be victims of violent crimes. More boys than girls will suffer from learning disabilities. More divorce courts will favor mothers over fathers in child custody cases. More employers will allow "family leave" for women than for men. Although these may not seem like women's issues, they *are* the major reasons why women have a higher absenteeism at work than men, which, in turn, lessens their chances for career advancement. I strongly recommend this book for everyone - male or female.
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Summary: An insightful analysis & practical guide!
Review: Warren Farrell's new book offers in part 1 an excellent analysis of gender communication and a practical guide to a deeper understanding between men and women. Part 2 presents a courageous and insightful examination of core political and social issues which many feminists have raised critical of men viz., the distribution of power in society, domestic violence, and housework. Farrell, as usual in his writings, carefully documents the case that men have been unfairly blamed by feminists and the media. This material can only help shift current cultural perspectives and create the climate for true empowerment of both sexes.
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