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Summary: One of the most formative books of my life
Review: Wendy Shalit's perspective on the tragedy of our culture today is riveting. The attack on women in the 21st century is different than anything seen before. Women are being taught to hate themsleves for who they are and to reject all things that make them uniquely distinct from men.
Her answer: Modesty. Or more importantly - Purity of heart and mind. Shalit proposes that women be shown the beauty of mystery - respect for the unknown and that which is NOT seen. She argues that if women dress modestly .... men are more likely to treat them with dignity instead of objects for immediate gratification.
I've used this book in several talks, my women's group, and even in a paper for a philosophy class! I highly recommend this book to anyone who wants a factual, Godly solution to the problem facing our young women today.
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Summary: Women are not responsible for "transforming" society
Review: Wendy, good book, and I know you have good intentions, but I have a few complaints. First of all, I agree that some sense of modesty and good taste is a reflection of a refined woman who doesn't feel she needs to be half-nude to get a man's attention; I also agree that women who want real love nowadays are labelled unfairly as "depressed," "mentally ill," "neurotic," "histrionic," etc. We live in a loveless society.
Despite this, here are my major qualms regarding your book:
1. Women are not responsible for "transforming" society. If you believe that by taking away more so-called freedoms from women (one of the notes in the back of the book says women "should not swear??" C'mon, that's getting ridiculous!), then eventually everything, including education, will be taken away from us. Since you are in touch with your heritage (Jewish), it is well known that men are supposed to be more responsible regarding moral conducts and codes.
2. This book should have been called "A Return To Modesty: For BOTH Sexes." Do we wish to return to the times of the double-standard? If women are suddenly put on a pedestal, doesn't this give men only the excuse to do as THEY please? Let's not even go there. I NEVER want to return to those times, I'd rather suffer in this life with some sense of dignity (regarding my CHOICE to make the right choices), than to return to an era of double-standards!
3. I'm tired of people telling me that women need to change. Women have borne the brunt of "responsiblity" for far too long now. It's time that MORE men go to therapy, read self-help books, and try to be better human beings. Women are not MORALLY SUPERIOR; however, men have been SOCIALISED to act as they do (they are CONTROL oriented).
4. I believe all human beings, male or female, are not animals. I believe that women too, can be sexually adept if they want to be. I believe the myth of the male who NEEDS to "spread his seed" is just that, a myth designed to excuse "male" behaviour. In essence, we are all spiritual beings and we all make choices for right or wrong. Let's not try to make women the "superior" gender here, shall we? As I said once before, the problem lies in the way children are being socialised.
Thanks for reading this if you ever happen to by some coincidence, and thanks for writing your book.
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Summary: Admit it, it's true...
Review: What has happened to gentlemen...and ladies? What has happened to the era in which people behaved live civilians, not animals?Wendy Shalit explores so many questions (such as these) that have arisen since the sexual revolution. Every topic---from pornography, to feminism, to confidentiality, to virginity, to sexual harrassment, to religion---is covered. They all relate back to a girl's identity and contribute to her sense of modesty. It's a brilliantly in-depth, shocking, revealing study of disturbing trends in our culture. This is a must-read for any Christian girl feeling pressured to succumb to society's temptation and have premarital sex. It offers countless proof that women could actually be happier saving themselves for The One. As I always say, "Modesty is the best policy."
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