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Summary: excellent - informative and a must read
Review: This book reminds us all to be a kinder and gentler person - we are missing the front porches and piazzas of other days and other generations. The supportive web of relationships has weakened for us all - and particularly for the older generation which has lost many of its contemporaries. It is not necessary to read in detail the case histories; I think the value of the book lies in its overall impact and should be a mandatory text in human development courses.
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Summary: Very informative and helpful.
Review: This book taught me many wonderful things during this very difficult time caring for my elderly parents. We all can relate to people younger than ouselves, because we all were young once... we haven't been old yet and don't know what that feels like. Another Country helps the reader to understand some very "foreign" thoughts and feelings our eldrers have. Highly recommended to young and old alike..
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Summary: Another Country is where we're all headed!
Review: This is a field guide to the foreign land of our parents - a help & resource as our elders age & we must talk with them about medicine, hygiene, dependence, selling the car, loneliness & love. This book jumped into my hand because it's all about what we're doing right now - taking care of our Poppa in his final years. While Poppa's son speaks his father's language & can mostly get his frames of references, there are over 40 unknown years before his son was a twinkle in his Poppa's eye. Meanwhile I have only a smattering of references with this plodding mischievous fellow who avoids saying yea or nay. He also has an endless well of stories about anything & these should be told to a bevy of youngsters at his knees. I also know now that we're not at fault for his oldness nor is it our job to make him happy. Only he can do that. It is our job, however, to keep ourselves happy! This book has some eminently useful information, strategies & ideas. Well done!
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Summary: Great background information
Review: This is a great companion volume to The Fourteen Friends Guide to Eldercaring. I bought them both, and reading this book helped undertand some of the issues I was facing, with the Fourteen Friends helped me with more practical things. I recommend them both.
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Summary: A "must-read" for adult children with aging parents
Review: This is a vital guide-book for those of us with aging parents. As the middle-aged child of an often difficult mother, I came to understand the that the reasons for nitpicking or explosive criticism often are that a parent feels unneeded and by-passed. Since I am not one who easily picks up on these types of non-verbal clues but, rather, expects a direct request or expression of what's on someone's mind, I was having a hard time understanding this anger and bitterness. Basically, we and our parents speak entirely different languages. I am grateful for this book to help me translate. All of my family, young and old, will be the healthier for it.
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Summary: Unfortunately Mary Phiper misses the point.
Review: While I have found Mary Phiper's other books very informative unfortunately she misses the point in our countries dealings with older people. She seems to hold on to many stereotypes of older people that, according to current research are simply not true. For example, I got the impression from reading her book that this country does not take care of their elderly and other countries do a better job. If one reviews the current research in this area one would find this is not the case. Families do care about their parents, grandparents and assist them in many ways. At least one child lives within 10 minutes and other family members do stay close dispite the distance. Her writings seem to be based on her observations with a limited number of people, while she avoids the current research on the topic. Please read with a critical eye otherwise you too will fall into believing the old stereotypes of the elderly.
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Summary: Expert guide for the "sandwich generation"
Review: With two elderly parents striving to maintain their independence, I find this book an excellent compendium of what works and what doesn't for me, one of the "sandwich generation." Fortunately both of my parents, father 90 and mother 85, are healthy and live in a retirement community which must rank among the best. They are involved in committee work, in travel on the community van to area activities, eat lunch daily in a communal setting, and are mentally alert. I thank God everyday that we found this facility which provides levels of care. Right now they are in independent living in their own one-story duplex on a lake. Thank you, Mary Pipher, for writing "Another Country." I see that we are doing some things right, though we need to talk and share our true feelings more. Your ideas are excellent....
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Summary: Expert guide for the "sandwich generation"
Review: With two elderly parents striving to maintain their independence, I find this book an excellent compendium of what works and what doesn't for me, one of the "sandwich generation." Fortunately both of my parents, father 90 and mother 85, are healthy and live in a retirement community which must rank among the best. They are involved in committee work, in travel on the community van to area activities, eat lunch daily in a communal setting, and are mentally alert. I thank God everyday that we found this facility which provides levels of care. Right now they are in independent living in their own one-story duplex on a lake. Thank you, Mary Pipher, for writing "Another Country." I see that we are doing some things right, though we need to talk and share our true feelings more. Your ideas are excellent....
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