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Summary: Everyone Should Read This Book
Review: I first read 'WHLTM' nearly two years ago, prompted by the ending of another in a series of increasingly disastrous relationships. I found the book difficult to finish, but that was only because it brought to light such difficult truths. It is a truly profound, original and insightful book. Advances the cause of human understanding and relationships immeasurably.I also found the authors' 'Why this, Why me, Why now' excellent, but this is a much broader work and has received a less widespread readership, which is a pity.
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Summary: Great book to read if you want to stop your pain
Review: I read this book when i was heart broken over the man I loved so dearly, this book got me to see things that i never would have never thought could be a problem. all of the stories did not remind me of myself, but they all had a great point. This book gave me a real reason to want to change myself. If anyone asks me I would tell them to read it. It helped me and i think it will help you, that is if you dont want to feel that pain any more, you know that heart ache, that lost feeling, and the feeling of being all alone that you need someone.
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Summary: Very insightful book.
Review: I got involved with a woman like that described in the tape. The relationship didn't last long. It was very confusing for me. The tape was very insightful in helping to understand just what happened. I just wish there was material on the tape on how to help someone like her.
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Summary: A powerful book
Review: Women Who Love Too Much is a classic self-help book that transcends the genre. I¹ve read it several times and am always impressed at the wisdom and truths in it. And it reads like fiction. With deep compassion and insight, Robin Norwood describes exactly how women and men get involved in relationships that are destructive rather than the perfect romances they first appear to be. This book does not cater to keeping illusions alive. Some women I¹ve known can¹t finish it, or must make several attempts to read the entire book, because it¹s painful to see their illusions about ³changing him² shattered. If you don¹t see yourself in this book, you¹ll likely see a friend or family member. Women Who Love Too Much is a powerful, compelling book that I believe was way ahead of its time
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Summary: This book could help you change your life!
Review: I recommend this book to friends all the time! I first read it 3 years ago and it was a real turning point in my life. It helped me to realise where I was going wrong in relationships and how to put it right - perhaps the main one for me was learning to really love myself first. So read it! Even if you don't think its for you, there is probably going to be a gem in there for you, and certainly you will know friends to whom you want to give a copy.
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Summary: Do you really need this book?
Review: Girls, it's really quite simple. Women are attracted to the potential in men, men are attracted to what's already there in women. If we followed their formula we wouldn't end up with our hearts broken so often or so badly. Unfortunately it would also mean an awful lot of lonely single women with inadequate men who never bother try living up to their potential. The reality is women ARE a motivator for men when they do manage to get something done like pass the Bar or fix the grill. It's our unlucky lot in life as the smarter more adaptable specie I'm afraid to be stuck in this losing end of such a questionable arrangement of keeping the world turning. Also, instead of thinking of yourselves as loving too much (!!) maybe, ratio-wise, statisticaly speaking, there are just more jerks in the world who are men. It's ok to give up on the buggers for a moment and go dancing with the girls.
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Summary: unhappy in a relationship?
Review: letting a man in your life treat you like crap and bending over backwards to make him happy? oh boy, do you need this book.. helped me understand why i seek emotionally unavailable men and then suffer for it.. taught me a few lessons on what NOT to do, raising my son.. it was also an important step in the process of selfrealization that helped me get over my ex husband cheating on me. i recommend to every woman.
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Summary: Life Changing
Review: I read and re-read this book. It gave me hope and made sense out of my mixed up life. The recommendation to go to a 12 Step Program included in the book is the best advice I ever followed.
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Summary: so what
Review: I've read this book several times over the years and I think it is a great book to help the women it is intended for get through tough spots.
A lie? So what the scenarios are fictional. Did she mention anywhere that the scenarios in her book are real. It never even cross my mind to beleive that the scenarios in the book was real.
How many books (self help or not) is based on real life? The fact that she was able to create those scenarios that so closely chronicled what most women go through is outstanding in itself. She did what she did to get through to us and it worked for many women.
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Summary: This book saved my life once
Review: It was the most horrible summer in my life. I was 23 and I wanted to die. I couldn't understand and accept what was happening to me, that I was addicted to a man who clearly despised me and cheated on me. I had been obsessed with a few men that I couldn't get before, but this was much worse because I thought I had lost my current boyfriend's love because I didn't deserve it. I was a bad person, an ugly and stupid woman, and on the verge of going insane. I had lost weight, my skin was yellow and my intelligence was paralyzed while my soul was in so much pain... At the worst times, I would tear my hair out or pinch myself to distract myself from the psychological anguish. I would often think: "This can't be love! It's surely a kind of mental illness... How could I love someone who mistreats me, lies to me, cheats on me, laughs at me in my face?" I thought I was crazy.
When I first spotted WHLTM at the drugstore, I thought it was just another stupid self-help book with a ridiculous title. How can anyone ever love too much? But my despair was such that I was ready to try anything...
The book confirmed what I was already suspecting: that what I was going through was a kind of mental disorder rather than actual love. Because I had been rejected by my father (he disappeared from my life when I was 4 after sexually abusing me), I was always attracted to men who didn't love me, who often even barely knew that I was alive. I thought I was a romantic, but I wasn't attracted to Prince Charming. A couple of very nice guys suffered because of me because I couldn't love them back.
One of the real-case stories in WHLTM was like a mirror to me (I was very disappointed when I learned that these stories were mostly fiction). It helped me to face the truth about myself, my life, my boyfriend.
I still think the title is misleading. You can never love too much. But you should always be wary of feelings and mental disorders that often pass for love: obsession, addiction, infatuation, mere sexual desire, etc.
WHLTM made me understand what was wrong with me. Sadly, it didn't cure me. I don't think I will ever be able to love a man who loves me me back, so I stay alone. I love men, I have a lot of male friends... But I could never have a healthy romance with a man. Therapy didn't help.
I still recommend this book. To both men and women who think that they love too much and are often in great anguish. It will help you understand what exactly is making you miserable. Then there's a lot of work to do: soul searching, therapy, spirituality. If "loving too much" is the only thing that currently gives your life any meaning, I recommend as a companion book to WHLTM "Man's Search for Meaning" by Viktor Frankl.
Good luck. If you're not as "damaged" as I am, there is hope for you and you can learn to love truly and in a healthy way... and to accept that someone can actually love you back.
P.S.: I suffered a lot because of an unrequited "love" last year. It was the first time in ten years. Despite my passion, I was able to stay away from the man... because of what Robin Norwood had taught me about myself 14 years before.
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