Women Who Love Too Much

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Summary: Changed another life
Review: This book helped change my views on independence and helped me to see patterns I was creating for myself. I was trying to conquer situations in my childhood by dating the same type of guy over. It also gave me the strength to realize that I'm never 'stuck' in a particular situation or with a person. I already knew that , but this book was great help. I'd highly recommend any female or male to read this if you tend to keep dating the same type of people over and over that are takers and you feel you just give and give and never feel satisfied.

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Summary: It's for men too
Review: These tapes were highly recommended by a professional therapist. The moment I began listening I knew that Ms. Norwood was referring to me. Her easy-to-follow description and direction gave me new hope and changed my life. The title should be changed to "People who love too much!"

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Summary: This book changed my life
Review: I read this book when I was in a cycle of addictive relationships. I read and re-read the book and kept on understanding myself and my behaviors. I followed Robin's advice on what type of man to stay away from , and what type to move towards. When I met my current husband, I said, you are not my type but this book says I should date you. We are very happy and I am doing well. My compulsive behaviors have died. Thanks Robin

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Summary: Read this even if you not sure
Review: When I read this book I didn't believe much in therapy, psycho-jargon (like co-dependent) etc. I was a tough-headed, engineer!

Holy Mackeral - this book was right on! And it actually helps! Although the book is gentle and nonconfrontational it was a real shocker to see my behavior reflected in its pages. And it gave good concrete ways of changing.

Highly recommended!

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Summary: It's changed my life
Review: I received a copy of this book from an ex-boyfriend. He said he's never done much for me before but this will make up for all of it. He told me to read it and I thought I'd glance through it quickly. I sat down and read the first and second chapters and thought that Robin Norwood wrote about me. I was shocked that she knew so much about me! I got out a highlighter and started again. It seemed that almost every other sentence was being highlighted. It was frightening. This was my life and he wasn't an alcoholic! The problem was me. That was 15 years ago. I am still buying copies because I keep having to give mine away to other dear girlfriends (and a couple of guys too). It teaches you a new way of looking at yourself and treating yourself. I thought I didn't have the time to read it, but instead I know now that I cannot afford not to read it and cannot afford not to share it with other women and men. Yes, men also love too much too, in the way that Robin defines. I read the book in two days. I could not put it down. It was so wise. You cannot change your upbringing, but you can change your future. If Robin Norwood reads this, I want to thank her so much for all that she has done for me and for my friends.

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Summary: THIS HAS BECOME MY BIBLE
Review: I come from a family of many sisters. So many have married men with whom they now struggle. One sister was brave enough to divorce her first and second husbands, then discovered this book. Now, she has an awesome, loving, truly supportive husband! She purchased two copies of this book for each one of her siblings. We are all grateful! We have all read the book at least once and many of us have so dog-eared and marked up our first copy, that we were appreciative of the foresight for the second copy we had been given. I honestly keep this next to my King James Bible and I refer to it as my "Second Bible". I have to read from it daily. I can not describe with words the power I receive from my worn-out copy. I am ready to purchase a third copy because this one is getting quite tattered as well. I pray a prayer of thanks constantly for Ms. Norwood's inspiration which has changed the direction of my life and my family's lives as well.

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Summary: THIS BOOK IS A GIFT FROM GOD!!
Review: Women Who Love Too Much has totally changed my entire life. I have been in search of a committed relationship for years. I have ended up in abusive, degrading relationships and had no idea how or why; more importantly, how to get out of the pattern. This book literally had my name on every page. It gives real life examples of people the author has counselled. I was able to identify with every one of them. It was so easy to see what was not working for those women when I read their stories. It is always so hard to see yourself and your own mistakes. While reading the book, I was able to clearly define moments in my life when I made mistakes, and then learned what other options there were to those situations. I was able to dissect my entire life to see when and where I learned certain "ways of being" especially in intimate relationships. Ways that were addictive and I could not stop myself. I read several sections over and over until I got every last word and could apply it to my life. The book has a section at the end that teaches you steps you can take to alter current patterns to make yourself well and strong.

I have always been extremely independent, extremely successful in business, popular, beautiful, smart and I make a lot of money. None of this had anything to do with the patterns imprinted on me from childhood that had me choose men who could not love me if they really tried. It is quite ironic. I always attracted gorgeous, successful, popular men, so you would think everything was great. But they did not love themselves and many of their own issues stemming from childhood disabled them to love someone else and treat them well. These were the only types of men I sought out and did not know it. By practicing what is taught in the book and being extremely determined (it is hard work) to take care of me first and not lose myself in a relationship, I was able to turn the whole thing around. I now have the most wonderful man on the planet. We are getting engaged and plan to be married in March of 2000. I feel as though I was blessed from the heavens. He treats me with respect, always thinks of me, does not make demands and simply is my best friend. It can actually be quite scary at times. I am so used to being the one that has to give everything.

There is another very important point I would like to make. I have a 13 year old son (I am only 32). By reading the book and applying the stories to my life and what I went through as a child and how my parents and others treated me, I was able to see how I was repeating some of those patterns with my son. At first this was beyond disturbing. I could not believe that the things that hurt me so terribly when I was young, I was now repeating. The thought that my son might grow up to be one of those men that I had dated, or worse yet, take on the same behaviors I did in an addictive relationship, was horrifying. When reading the book, I also applied the same life examination to my relationship with my son. I have altered our relationship drastically and am looking forward to raising him to be a happy, healthy man that will treat women with love, affection and support. I am giving this book to all of my friends (some men) and family for Christmas. To me, it is the greatest gift you can give someone.

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Summary: NO EXCUSE FOR IGNORING IT, DON'T LEND IT!!!
Review: I read Women Who love too much & The Letters. I was awestruck at discovering how much my origin family was trapped in loving too much (a generational story of emotional abuse & neglection) and how I was taking all the litter to my marriage. Extremely useful for learning not to damage yourself and those you love. Don't lend it to your friends because they'll never return it to you, it's so good and re-readable!!

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Summary: This book saved my life - 12 years later I'm living my dream
Review: 12 years ago, a "shrink" who knew that as a college student I couldn't afford to visit him every week, recommended this book to me. It opened my eyes to my bad relationship choices and pointed me in the direction of a new way of thinking and living. It has taken a great deal of work to unlearn all those wrong lessons I had been taught, but it has paid off. I'm happy, in a loving, healthy marriage AND I can now trust the decisions I make for myself. Today I'm here purchasing copies to give to women who need Robin's help!

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Summary: This book changed my life
Review: I read the first edition of this book many years ago when married to a violent alchoholic. It was the turning point in my life (along with the support of Al-Anon, endorsed in this book). I began my recovery and realised why I was the "victim", staying in an abusive relationship, when many other women would not.

Many years down the track I still live by its philosophies in relationships, my work and everyday life. My life is so far removed from that time but I still use the lessons daily. I have since remarried very happily to a wonderful man, in a normal relationship full of love and equality. Every women should read this book no matter what their circumstances.

VM.