Cure by Crying: How to Cure Your Own, Depression, Nervousness, Headaches, Violent Temper, Insomnia, Marital Problems, Addictions by Uncovering Your Repressed memories

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Summary: SENSATIONAL
Review: Excellent way to cure many ills, cry. More men should just do just that. Only some, even now, "hold back a tear". I used to. This alone only holds in the pain and unclear feelings--balderdash on that.
LIVE with the difficult moment, CRY, HEAL. It works for me every day.
As for the author's writing style, I, could say it works well enough. He speaks from the heart while espousing heartfelt emotions. That would make anyone wordy, an honest author included. This the point here, isn't it?
I love this man for his strength and his sharing. Thank you Mr. Thomas A. Stone, sir.

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Summary: One Of The Best Books Ever Written Obout Therapy/ Psychology
Review: If you want to know more about the importance of feeling pain and crying as a means of healing your neuroses, this is a rare book to read. I found valuable practical information on how to help myself and others to cry. In addition to the book by Jean Jenson: Reclaiming yourself, it helped me in my healing process.

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Summary: very helpful
Review: If you want to know more about the importance of feeling pain and crying as a means of healing your neuroses, this is a rare book to read. I found valuable practical information on how to help myself and others to cry. In addition to the book by Jean Jenson: Reclaiming yourself, it helped me in my healing process.

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Summary: Profoundly insightful yet poorly written self-help book.
Review: In Cure By Crying, Thomas A. Stone tells an interesting story of how he was able to eliminate or greatly reduce many of his physical and mental symptoms. He had been bothered by a facial rash, by insomnia, headaches, nightmares, nervousness, depression, lack of energy, procrastination, colitis, violent temper, among a number of other health problems. The book will be a fascinating read for those in a regressive therapy. It gives detailed instructions on how to explore your own subconscious mind with the help of a friend or spouse. The author is convinced that for the first few months, or the first year, you definitely need another person to help you with your therapy. But later on, he writes that if it becomes necessary, you can continue alone. I am happy the author included an entire chapter about himself and his family. It is one of the last chapters and in it and in other parts of his book, he practices what he preaches and does not censor his thoughts. Stone opens his book with a recounting of his early traumas which were uncovered during his own therapy This short section may be read on the internet at this link: Amazon Book Store. Thomas A. Stone's neurosis became overt immediately after his marriage. He and his wife then had counseling. One night at home he watched Arthur Janov on the Johnny Carson tv show and became intrigued with the idea of primal therapy. The high cost of primal therapy at Janov's Institute prevented him for applying for therapy there. He went into psychoanalysis and decided to combine it with the isolation suggested in The Primal Scream . He writes that the results were not good because it was still psychoanalysis. His next stop on the road to wellness was reading H. Ron Hubbard's Dianetics. (Stone has studied 250 types of therapy!) Full week end dianetics' auditing sessions elicited many blocked memories and his many symptoms began to disappear. His auditor suggested that new procedures be used; he then discontinued dianetics because he was suspicious of the proposed new techniques. He reasoned that since uncovering his repressed memories was working the therapy techniques should not be changed. He and his wife (the daughter of an alcoholic father) decided to combine the elements of primal therapy, dianetics and psychoanalysis and worked with each other to eventually develop what Stone calls his brand of healing: The Therapy. Their process was slow and backsliding common. They wondered if the process of uncovering blocked memories and having regressions would ever end. This was his and his wife's foremost concern. Furthermore their symptoms were becoming worse. But, very slowly, over time, their happiness improved as more and more of their neurotic symptoms began falling away. * * * J. Konrad Stettbacher in Making Sense of Suffering was the first to write about the techniques of inducing primal regressions, but Thomas Stone's book is the first to give very detailed directions which before the publication of Cure By Crying, seemingly, were more tightly contained than the secrets of a magician! Some hard core self-primalers might not like his specific techniques of beginning The Therapy with someone else since many feel they can do the work alone. Unlike Stettbacher, Stone believes that the second person's presence is necessary. The way the book is written it would be impossible to do the therapy alone. Even after one understands and has been using the therapy successfully, a second party who is non-judgmental, loving and supportive can make it possible to access feelings in a deeper and more complete way. I have always done self-primaling alone, but on those occasions when I did use a second party, I have always been amazed how much easier, deeper, and more productive my therapy session have become with the aid and presence of a therapist. I was at first confounded, then amused and agreed when Stone wrote that you really don't need someone with you during the regressions, but that you must believe that the person is there! He gave the example of successfully regressing when once he believed his wife was present and listening to him. and was not present! Things don't have to be the way you think they are, since oftentimes your belief that they are, will still have the same effect. But every single feeling does not require another's presence, even though it usually makes quite a difference. You can even use a telephone as many primal patients have been doing for years. And, as mentioned, after you "learn" how to regress you can do a lot on your own. A central thesis of Cure By Crying is that The Therapy is different from Primal Therapy. However, I have my doubts. Stone explains the distinction in the section entitled, "Three Kinds of 'Reliving' and Fool's Reliving." All three types, he writes, when accompanied by tears, validly expunge the effects of early trauma. The first is called: Complete Reliving - Reliving in three dimensional stereo. You are there again in the early scene with almost complete sensory inputs. This is represented by Janov's Primal Therapy. Fragmented Reliving - This type of regressions happens continuously in The Therapy. Small parts of a trauma are reexperienced at one time. You get to relive only a "spoonsfull" during each return to the scene. The patient might even be uncertain of the truth of the experience. A fragmented reliving comes after a symbolic reliving. Symbolic Reliving - This would be a deep identification with, e.g, a character in a movie which triggers a feeling reaction in the patient. It could happen during a lecture, viewing a poignant scene of a father being loving to his child, etc. Fool's Reliving - This type is not curative since it is not an actual reliving. The unemotional remembering of an event, the author writes, means that it was not repressed to begin with. Here I believe the author fails to recognize that one can have a complete remembrance of an event but with the emotion or some of the emotions repressed. I believe that the author probably recognizes this distinction. But it is an important one which should have been discussed. Stone believe that usually it is not just a one time trauma which causes mental illness. Like others in the field, he believes that the cause is rather ". . .a lack of love and attention from mom and dad." He recognizes both birth trauma and intrauterine trauma as powerful forces molding our psyche, but does not discuss the reliving of these traumas. Dr. Arthur Janov has removed a lot of the mystique of psychotherapy with his primal therapy discovery. Thomas A. Stone has removed even more by revealing details ( and even giving the exact questions the "therapist" should ask!) of how regressive therapy can be practiced between two individuals. I wholeheartedly recommend that you read Cure By Crying. Anyone who has been in a deep regressive therapy will find in Thomas Stone's book much to agree with and also some issues with which to disagree. The author recognizes this. Those of you who are considering a form of deep regressive therapy as a do-it-yourself project (with a friend) need look no further for a complete guide to exploring one's unconscious.

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Summary: Stone is an unsung genius
Review: Most of us are raised by our parents and/or conditioned by society to repress our feelings. It's hard for many people to express their feelings verbally, much less as primal emotion. However, if you've come to believe that being more emotionally expressive is a good thing, this book can help you change those old patterns.

Thomas A. Stone is a remarkable man. In search of an effective therapy for himself, he figured out the methods in this book on his own - with no formal training beyond extensive reading at home (as noted by reviewer JSpeyrer, Stone studied some 250 therapies). His layman's theories on why only "spoonfuls" of emotion show up for release made sense to me.

Although I find some of Stone's methods somewhat cumbersome to learn, this book is still invaluable. I recommend you grab one now if you're at all interested and the dealer's price is not too silly (there are not many copies of this evidently self-published book floating around any more). For starters, just reading the book can give you more acceptance for crying.

One area where I disagree with Thomas: Emotional expression is not always just about crying. And for all his buckets of tears, Stone can have a curious detachment (he did not even seem to understand his own daughter's fear). He has a workmanlike attitude that can sometimes seem to ignore the pain of the emotions themselves.

But don't let that observation stop you from getting the book. He did not use a detached tone of voice to author the book. You'll find his tone refreshingly plain, honest, conversational, and encouraging. Stone also provides support to keep you healthy while you allow your crying to surface, and he discusses the necessary warnings so you can go about it safely.

It's a shame that Stone and his book are not more widely recognized. Sure, there are places you can go (eg., Primal Institute) and people you can pay (eg., breathwork therapists) to help you do similar release work, but that takes money. Which is why Stone came to develop his methods and write the book - he couldn't afford a stint at the Primal Institute. And his therapist got bored listening to him cry.

I really enjoyed the section in the back of the book where Thomas, his wife Nancy, daughter Beth and son David, all talk candidly about their individual processes with the Cure by Crying techniques. I couldn't help but feel affection for this family and wonder how they're all doing now.

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Summary: One Of The Best Books Ever Written Obout Therapy/ Psychology
Review: Well, me and my wife have been using this method for about 10 months. We have sessions about twice a week. My wife is on her 94th session. So, does it work? YES!! My wife has seen many symptoms improve. Depression and headaches are the two symptoms that have improved dramatically. Her ability to stand up for herself has also improved dramatically. I should mention that my wife cries easily. She cried within five minutes of the first session. Keep in mind this therapy takes commitment and time, but it is worth it.

On the down side, I have been unable to cry and have given up on this method. I tried following the book for about six months. Could not cry once. What this means is that *some* people's ability to cry is severely damaged, and this therapy will be extremely difficult for people like me. But I hope others (like my wife) will benefit from it.

However, even failure can lead to a cure. I began looking for an alternate therapy to get me kick started. I discovered a new therapy called "Redirecting Self Therapy". Can't provide a link here, but it is bringing many years of suffering to a rapid end.

Also, this book lists all the great discoveries (in psychology) made in the last few decades. It is an excellent primer on regressive therapies in general. If I had to recommned only one book on psychology, this is it.