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Summary: Found it to be helpful to my marriage
Review: First, as a rebuttal to shechem, I wouldn't recommend this book to an engaged couple or an angry person because this book is really for married couples who exist with this constant undercurrent of anger. Just because you have a temper doesn't mean you will have an angry marriage. Yes, the author does take a long time to make her point but it is a point well made: that we are all products of how we were raised and that that shapes our actions and attitudes. This is not a blame your parents book because if it were, I would not have read it. It simply states that our parents are our first role models for marriage. We take from them roles and responses to our own marriages. I found that the most enlightening aspect of the book was reading each couple's childhood background, which I'm sure, helped bring understanding to each of the marriages. Often, we don't know what bags our spouse is coming out of and get frustrated that he/she isn't more like ourselves.After reading the profiles of each type of angry marriage (which, to me took too long because you kind of got the picture in the 3rd or so chapter) the basic message I got is to begin to reclaim that goodwill toward your spouse that sustains you through boredom, disappontment, conflict and tragedy; that if you don't have good feelings toward your spouse, you simply will not make it. With ill will, everything a spouse does is framed negatively. Keep in mind that this is a modern day book, an extended version of advice that might be given in the "Can This Marriage Be Saved?" or in Redbook. No new revelations, but for a marriage that is on the wrong track, this just may help push it back.
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Summary: pretty good
Review: I bought this book because I am getting married in a year. I'm not an "angry person", but I have a temper and I wanted to learn a better way of communicating. This was not the book for me. After slogging through the first 3 chapters of it, the author finally got around to stating her thesis which is, there are three parts to an angry marriage. The visible marriage, the invisible marriage (the needs that are not getting expressed) and the primal marriage. the primal marriage is the realtionship one had with their parents, which is why they are angry with thier spouse. at that point I quit reading. I personally have a problem with blaming everything on one's parents because one's parents weren't perfect. From the examples the author puts forth to support her idea aren't absuive parents, but parents that are a bit annoying. Who doesn't have a parent that doens't get under their skin once in a while? to blame that on why folks don't communicate well strikes me as silly. this book was both a waste of time and money.
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Summary: incoherent waste of time
Review: I bought this book because I am getting married in a year. I'm not an "angry person", but I have a temper and I wanted to learn a better way of communicating. This was not the book for me. After slogging through the first 3 chapters of it, the author finally got around to stating her thesis which is, there are three parts to an angry marriage. The visible marriage, the invisible marriage (the needs that are not getting expressed) and the primal marriage. the primal marriage is the realtionship one had with their parents, which is why they are angry with thier spouse. at that point I quit reading. I personally have a problem with blaming everything on one's parents because one's parents weren't perfect. From the examples the author puts forth to support her idea aren't absuive parents, but parents that are a bit annoying. Who doesn't have a parent that doens't get under their skin once in a while? to blame that on why folks don't communicate well strikes me as silly. this book was both a waste of time and money.
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Summary: pretty good
Review: The book helped me realize several ways my anger affects my marriage and I wish I had read it before marrying. However, I wish the author had provided suggestions throughout the book as opposed to waiting until the last chapter. I found myself somewhat discouraged reading what was wrong but not having suggestions at hand.
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