The Dance of the Lion and the Unicorn: The Secret of Conscious Relationships

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Summary: Real Life Relationship Dynamics
Review: Dear Mr. Waller,

I feel that your book perfectly illustrates an extremely common relationship dynamic. Most readers will be able to identify themselves in the role of the "lion" or the "unicorn". This information will help people change self-defeating behaviors. They will be able to move past seeing their partner as "wrong" and gain understanding and fresh perceptions. The book provides tools for healing and personal development.

As a lion is my relationships, I was overwhelmed by guilt after my angry outbursts. Your book brought light to this shadow side and helped me to release the self-blame I have carried throughout my life. This dance involves two players and each person must honestly assess their contribution to dysfunction. Your book was a perfect blend of real-life anecdotes and scientific study.

I highly recommend this book to anyone dedicated to growth and creating peace-filled relationships. I believe that unless we work through our current problems, the same issues will reoccur later in our lives. You can run, but you can't hide...so you might as well dance.

Warmest regards,
Amy Garcia
Riverside, CA


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Summary: The Dance of the Lion and the Unicorn
Review: Dear Mr. Waller,

Your new book "The Dance with the Lion and the Unicorn" is the most riveting book I have ever read. The way you were able to bring together the various behaviors from your counseling sessions and give tangible approaches to healing and finding peace from within is phenomenal.

As I read the different counseling session examples, I couldn't help but see my own behavior and find resolve through your techniques. When I started to read your book it was during a time that my wife and I reached a point of pure lack of communication and I found myself preparing for what I thought was the inevitable, Divorce.

However, when I reached the section that talked about finding compassion for your mate. I was totally awestruck. Primarily because I had never looked at what might be causing some of the acting out behaviors she was exuding.

What I discovered was a way to put myself in my wife's shoes and look at some of the experiences in her childhood that might have led up to the disconnect we were experiencing. When I was able to do this, I literally experienced the equivalent of an epiphany. Finally, I could see that the problems we were experiencing were far more reaching than what I was ever able to imagine.

I was able to realize that my own behavior with risk taking was activating the little girl in her that was scared and needed safety and security. I was able to see that what had grown into total impatience from me to her, and then anger, resentment, and later disregard for her totally, was the demise of a potentially viable marriage.

This was really looking in the mirror, only the image I was seeing was giving me a different message. The image looking back at me was telling me that all of the lessons of reconciliation and forgiveness I learned in church were being overlooked by my shear inability to find compassion and understanding. The voice that was telling me to "screw it, find happiness in leaving" was brought to a screeching hault.

The silencing of my own pain brought me a new since of clarity that in order to save my marriage, I had to find my way to a sincere approach to being compassionate to my wife in a way that would allow me to love her into the same self-realization I have come too.

The new voice was screaming loudly that the Lion and the Unicorn in our relationship could find a place near the stream and drink from the same waters, the fierceness in the Lion could find a way to purr with contentment and the Unicorn could retreat from it's silent surrender and place it's head in the bosom of the Lion, knowing that the two are joined as one in compassion and the solace of unconditional love.

If ever there was a way to find resolve in a loving relationship, your book serves as the expressway to healing and healing quickly.

Thanks for the gift of this long overdue wisdom to living life as one, more abundantly.

Robert Sausedo
Los Angeles, Ca