Let's Face It, Men Are $$#%\›$: What Women Can Do About It

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Summary: I loved this book! My ex didnt! HA HA!
Review: I got this book recently after my break up with my ex and my psychologist recomended it to me. It really describes every bad boy out there and WHY you were drawn to him and what possibility there is at fixing the situation. My ex didnt really fall under a specific catagory (he shared qualities of other catagories)... however the most he resembled was the Eternal Teenager.

Whats funny is that he used to be married and he has a child. He still wants a family and he wants marriage but he refused to act like a responsible adult. Now this he would argue because he thinks he's got it all under control. BUT saying you cant take your daughter to the dentist because of a lack of money, and then buying expensive marijuana... is not a good justification. But even if I let that slide there are a dozen more things he does that blatantly say, hes ONLY into what HE wants and how he wants it...

This book is good for "ah HA!" moments but it doesnt really support the emotional turmoil you may feel afterwards. Be prepared to tend to those emotions when the whole mess starts to unravel itself. People are very complex creatures and you wont find all the answers you need in this book, BUT its a good place to start.

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Summary: What to do when he won't even look at the Mars/Venus books
Review: The book, written by two male therapists, opens by saying that not all men are jerks, but there is a significant number of men that ARE jerks, and they can make your life miserable. The authors also state that men in our society today ARE getting off too easy, that in their experience, men really DON'T work as hard as women do in improving relationships. (As if THAT is a big secret, just look at any magazine rack.)

The book follows the basic self-help formula, but with a twist. Most of the popular relationship theories bog down when they assume that your mate is willing to work with you 50-50 to improve your relationship. That assumption that has made John Gray (of Mars/Venus fame) a rich man and millions of women miserable, but I digress... Anyway, the authors assume you do indeed live with a person who would rather use John Gray's book for toilet paper rather than read it, so they proceed to tell what you need to do to make your life more bearable. Again, there's a twist, and their advice isn't for everyone. They tell you that jerks don't respond to an appeal for fairness or kindness (you've probably already figured that out), so you need to be willing to meet their manipulative behavior with your own manipulative behavior. At that point the book gives you some very concrete examples of what you need to do and say in order to get them to change their behavior. The book acknowledges that some women will not feel comfortable being manipulative, but their argument is you can either be 100% totally honest (which you already know gets you nowhere) or you can be miserable - or you can leave... My final take? If you're married to a jerk and value marriage more than your personal happiness, you can make things better, but only somewhat. If you're single and dating a jerk and wondering what to do? RUN LIKE HELL!

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Summary: I loved this book! My ex didnt! HA HA!
Review: This is probably THE BEST BOOK EVER WRITTEN about how to deal with troublesome men. All women need to read this book.

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Summary: I read it in two nights!
Review: When I first saw this book, I thought that it was just another male-basher. Further inspection proved that it was written by men and that it was directed toward women. The focus was to help women recognize patterns in male behavior and make intelligent choices. The first thing that the authors say is that NOT ALL men are (expletive deleted). That impressed me. The author's credentials also impressed me. They have worked with women, men and couples for some years. I wish I had had this book ten years ago. But it's good to have it now that I find myself single. The authors have sorted men into different categories based on their behavior. They realize how hard women work to maintain relationships and give them strategies for having a positive impact on their own life and chosen mates. I don't give anything 5 stars, I won't give this one 5 stars because I think JERKS would have been just as good an expletive as the one they used but so be it.