Who Am I?: The 16 Basic Desires That Motivate Our Behavior and Define Our Personality

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Summary: Practical psychology
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Steven Reiss's book, -Who am I?, is effective in helping people discover who they are and why they react in certain ways. Although whether or not one valued some of the desires were obvious, others were not what one would have suspected. The desire for romance involved both the drive for sex and the need for beauty. I like the way Dr. Reiss looks at human desires and behaviors holistically and attempts to prove his theory scientifically and not just theoretically. He does not just disagree with the theories of such people as Freud and Skinner, but he clearly states why he thinks their theories are fallacies, or if he partially agrees with them, he still expands on them. Like for example, he feels that more than just the pleasure principle (behaving to maximize pleasure, minimize pain) governs our desires. He goes through great effort to make sure he covers and explains all aspects of his theory of the 16 desires that people might argue. Although I found his comparisons to people like Maslow and Adler helpful, Dr. Reiss often loses me in over explaining his theory. Perhaps he should have written two books, one for those of us who are more interested in determining how the 16 desires relate to us, and another for those of us who are out to disprove his theory. After reading for a little bit I felt like yelling: "I believe you already!" All in all, I guess that is what makes a good research book though. When one is able to connect the reader to his theory, and substantiate it with proof and explanations, the reader is more apt to believe it and use it to evaluate her life.

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Summary: Very interesting, but too absolute.
Review: I can't say enough good things about this book. Reiss has not written a self help book here, he has written a book that will provide the foundation for the next 1,000 self help books. You will definitely learn the core desires that drive human behavior and if Reiss is write the applications of this material will soon determine who gets hired for what, when and where. I'd love to see the research that formed this book. The text really has no shortcomings. Like Goleman's Emotional Intelligence, you will see many books that take the principles in this book and apply them to every psychological field. Wonderful. Fabulous. Superb...and encore! Kevin Hogan, ...

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Summary: Diversity of Human Motivation
Review: In "Who Am I" Steven Reiss does an excellent job of presenting 16 basic desires that motivate human behavior. Reiss shows how differences from one person to another in the relative strengths of these desires contribute to personality. He also does a fine job of discussing how child rearing and culture determine how such desires are fulfilled. Among other topics, the book describes how people fail to accurately gauge others' motives because they project their own motives or misunderstand motives different from their own.

As Reiss describes, the notion of a diverse set of innate human motives, differing in strength and manner of satisfaction from one person to another, can be traced to William McDougall (1921). Reiss has taken McDougall's basic insights and elaborated them in a carefully planned scientific program of research. Readers may disagree with the selection of some motives as basic or with the characterization of specific motives. For example, Reiss identifies competitiveness as a component of the motive for vengeance, although outdoing others might be more closely related to the motivation for status. These issues aside, Reiss has written an important and informative book.

"Who Am I" has great value for capturing the diversity of human motives, based upon a rigorous research program. This work deserves serious attention by both the general public and the scientific community

Rating:
Summary: Diversity of Human Motivation
Review: In "Who Am I" Steven Reiss does an excellent job of presenting 16 basic desires that motivate human behavior. Reiss shows how differences from one person to another in the relative strengths of these desires contribute to personality. He also does a fine job of discussing how child rearing and culture determine how such desires are fulfilled. Among other topics, the book describes how people fail to accurately gauge others' motives because they project their own motives or misunderstand motives different from their own.

As Reiss describes, the notion of a diverse set of innate human motives, differing in strength and manner of satisfaction from one person to another, can be traced to William McDougall (1921). Reiss has taken McDougall's basic insights and elaborated them in a carefully planned scientific program of research. Readers may disagree with the selection of some motives as basic or with the characterization of specific motives. For example, Reiss identifies competitiveness as a component of the motive for vengeance, although outdoing others might be more closely related to the motivation for status. These issues aside, Reiss has written an important and informative book.

"Who Am I" has great value for capturing the diversity of human motives, based upon a rigorous research program. This work deserves serious attention by both the general public and the scientific community.

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Summary: A Landmark Work in Identifying the Bases of Human Motivation
Review: This book is based on a thorough study of value-based motivation in order to identify the bases of each person's identity and behavior. Because of the methodology used, this work represents a breakthrough in understanding how and why individuals differ. It takes us for the first time beyond the frequently-cited Maslow hierarchy of needs onto a better metric for looking at individual differences.

I strongly recommend this book to anyone who is interested in human motivation, how to have better relationships with others, self-understanding, and self-improvement as well as scholars in the field of human behavior. The book is written in a simple, clear style, but also contains the necessary references and rigor to appeal to the scholar.

The significance of this book is that it is the first scientific study to successfully challenge the often cited pain-pleasure principle of motivation and Maslow's hierarchy of needs. This study is based on developing a long list of human values, testing those using behavior-based questions asked of individuals and observers with a cross-section of society, and then looking for common value areas in a large sample drawn from the United States, Canada, and Japan. The resulting responses were then clustered statistically to locate 16 common value areas that were present in almost every individual tested.

These value areas are power, independence, curiosity, acceptance, order, saving, honor, idealism, social contact, family, status, vengeance, romance, eating, physical activity, and tranquility. You will have to read the book to find out exactly what is meant by these areas, but don't think about them too literally. The meanings are different from the common dictionary definitions in several cases (such as with romance, which is a cross that includes sex and beauty). There is a test you can use to find out how oriented you are (very, average, or less than average) to each area in the book that I found very interesting to take.

The book goes on to distinguish between enjoyment from pleasant sensations (which is fleeting and depends mostly on how well born and wealthy you are) and value-based pleasure which anyone can achieve at a high level. Christopher Reeve is cited as an example of someone who has lots of fear and pain from his paralysis, but lots of value-based pleasure based on his attachment to his family, his idealism, and his desire to help others like himself.

The author goes on to argue that these same values are found in the primates most like humans, so he thinks that the values are primarily inherited as a species. On the other hand, the degree of your feeling for these areas is conditioned by environmental influences like family values, exposure, and experiences.

He makes a strong case for individuality, because there are 43 million potential combinations of attributes possible. To drive that point home and to explain more about the values, the author also provides profiles of Howard Hughes, Jackie Kennedy, and Humphrey Bogart among others.

In his comparison to Maslow, he finds many similarities and many important differences. He finds more differences among individuals than Maslow did. His work is also based on measurement while Maslow's work is a theory, without a measurement basis. He also found that Maslow was wrong about the importance of safety and order.

In Part 2 of the book, the author takes on what all of this means for enjoying more personal fulfillment, improving your relationships with others, how men and women differ, the impact of aging, the implications for your working life, the effect on child rearing, and how it all relates to sports and spirituality.

A potentially controversial finding is that spirituality is not a basic human need, but rather a context for expressing more fundamental needs among the 16 listed above. I had some trouble with that, and found that what was written did not seem to describe spirituality as I experience it. Take a look, and see what you think.

The book goes on to relate many fundamental communications problems to differences in values, with many specific examples. I thought that this section was terrific because it helps explain the reasons why some stallbusting methods work better than others in overcoming the communications stall, the most common one we humans experience.

The book describes how many common psychological problems relate to certain value profiles (including the ones for depression), and how advertising slogans appeal to major value types.

I found the suggestions for experiencing greater fulfillment of these values to be useful and helpful. That's an important payoff for you in reading and applying the lessons of this book to your own life. Those who are looking for a potential spouse will like the section on matching values and how that can help establish a better relationship. I suspect that a lot of relationship problems really start with value conflicts that are never resolved.

The book is very affirming, because it does not exalt one set or combination of values over others. In a sense, it creates a full appreciation for the uniqueness and specialness of each individual.

The book will be a paradigm shifter of the sort that overcomes the disbelief stall (why do you do what you do?) about the sources of human behavior, makes major progress on the communications stall, and shows many improved ways for people to make rapid progress in the best tradition of 2,000 percent solutions.

Rating:
Summary: A Landmark Work in Identifying the Bases of Human Motivation
Review: This book is based on a thorough study of value-based motivation in order to identify the bases of each person's identity and behavior. Because of the methodology used, this work represents a breakthrough in understanding how and why individuals differ. It takes us for the first time beyond the frequently-cited Maslow hierarchy of needs onto a better metric for looking at individual differences.

I strongly recommend this book to anyone who is interested in human motivation, how to have better relationships with others, self-understanding, and self-improvement as well as scholars in the field of human behavior. The book is written in a simple, clear style, but also contains the necessary references and rigor to appeal to the scholar.

The significance of this book is that it is the first scientific study to successfully challenge the often cited pain-pleasure principle of motivation and Maslow's hierarchy of needs. This study is based on developing a long list of human values, testing those using behavior-based questions asked of individuals and observers with a cross-section of society, and then looking for common value areas in a large sample drawn from the United States, Canada, and Japan. The resulting responses were then clustered statistically to locate 16 common value areas that were present in almost every individual tested.

These value areas are power, independence, curiosity, acceptance, order, saving, honor, idealism, social contact, family, status, vengeance, romance, eating, physical activity, and tranquility. You will have to read the book to find out exactly what is meant by these areas, but don't think about them too literally. The meanings are different from the common dictionary definitions in several cases (such as with romance, which is a cross that includes sex and beauty). There is a test you can use to find out how oriented you are (very, average, or less than average) to each area in the book that I found very interesting to take.

The book goes on to distinguish between enjoyment from pleasant sensations (which is fleeting and depends mostly on how well born and wealthy you are) and value-based pleasure which anyone can achieve at a high level. Christopher Reeve is cited as an example of someone who has lots of fear and pain from his paralysis, but lots of value-based pleasure based on his attachment to his family, his idealism, and his desire to help others like himself.

The author goes on to argue that these same values are found in the primates most like humans, so he thinks that the values are primarily inherited as a species. On the other hand, the degree of your feeling for these areas is conditioned by environmental influences like family values, exposure, and experiences.

He makes a strong case for individuality, because there are 43 million potential combinations of attributes possible. To drive that point home and to explain more about the values, the author also provides profiles of Howard Hughes, Jackie Kennedy, and Humphrey Bogart among others.

In his comparison to Maslow, he finds many similarities and many important differences. He finds more differences among individuals than Maslow did. His work is also based on measurement while Maslow's work is a theory, without a measurement basis. He also found that Maslow was wrong about the importance of safety and order.

In Part 2 of the book, the author takes on what all of this means for enjoying more personal fulfillment, improving your relationships with others, how men and women differ, the impact of aging, the implications for your working life, the effect on child rearing, and how it all relates to sports and spirituality.

A potentially controversial finding is that spirituality is not a basic human need, but rather a context for expressing more fundamental needs among the 16 listed above. I had some trouble with that, and found that what was written did not seem to describe spirituality as I experience it. Take a look, and see what you think.

The book goes on to relate many fundamental communications problems to differences in values, with many specific examples. I thought that this section was terrific because it helps explain the reasons why some stallbusting methods work better than others in overcoming the communications stall, the most common one we humans experience.

The book describes how many common psychological problems relate to certain value profiles (including the ones for depression), and how advertising slogans appeal to major value types.

I found the suggestions for experiencing greater fulfillment of these values to be useful and helpful. That's an important payoff for you in reading and applying the lessons of this book to your own life. Those who are looking for a potential spouse will like the section on matching values and how that can help establish a better relationship. I suspect that a lot of relationship problems really start with value conflicts that are never resolved.

The book is very affirming, because it does not exalt one set or combination of values over others. In a sense, it creates a full appreciation for the uniqueness and specialness of each individual.

The book will be a paradigm shifter of the sort that overcomes the disbelief stall (why do you do what you do?) about the sources of human behavior, makes major progress on the communications stall, and shows many improved ways for people to make rapid progress in the best tradition of 2,000 percent solutions.

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Summary: Very interesting, but too absolute.
Review: When I read the reviews of this book my basic desire for curiosity kicked in. Then I read it, and I felt enlightened to a degree, but also a little let down. The book's strength is that his conclusions are based on his scientific research, celebrity and fictional character anecdotes, and that his writing style is very accessible, especially the chapter comparing value based happiness with feel good happiness. However, the book becomes formulaic in following chapters where he listed how each basic desire relates to the current chapter's theme. Reis also may have, according to his 16 desires, a basic propensity for vengeance or competition. While he praises Maslow for leading the way, he inappropriately cuts Maslow down, indicating that he did not "guess" correctly on one account. Would it hurt to say something like, "in this instance, his strong intuition was not . . . "? Maslow didn't "guess," he was very intelligent and put a great effort into his work.

I understand Reis has to make a strong stand, and write about absolutes, but obviously human behavior does not perfectly fall into his mold even if it was developed out of research. I praise Reis for his opening chapters and clear writing, but I wished he would have more celebrity profiles and complete anonymous case studies so we can see his system explained over a greater number of examples.