The Angry Man: Why Does He Act That Way

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Summary: Insight into a furnace of anger in the modern man
Review: "Men today are angry. Their anger is deep-seated and, like their other emotions, carefully guarded and controlled most of the time. They may not know why they're angry."-pg. 12

Can an angry man come to terms with the truth about his manhood, competence, worth, and limitations? Sociologists are saying that the modern man is angry, unsure of how to carry off the masculine role and are straining to live up to the masculine myth.

Some men are angry and they don't even know why.

These angry men are often unwilling to talk about their emotions and have locked themselves deep inside their own personal thoughts and feelings.

Does this sound familiar?

-A driver cuts in front of him or tailgates and he freaks, calling the driver all things awful.
-He is passed over for an expected promotion. The world ends.
-Spending the holidays with the in-laws is the worst part of his life
-You don't meet his domestic and romantic expectations.

Is there a furnace of anger burning inside the man in your life that is just waiting to explode or boil over into your life? Has it already started boiling over? Is it presently poisoning your relationship?

"The Angry Man" shows what happens when this deep rooted anger starts to ruin relationships, jobs, health and even life.

The authors state that some of the root problems are not having a father while growing up, unrealistic expectations of manhood, low self-worth, failure and role confusion.

Contents:

Part I:
Growing up without a father - shows how angry and hurt men are that they have not had a father in their lives. Men who were the most happy had a father who invested time in their son's lives.

Trying to Live up to a Myth - Does the man in your life think he is what he does, earns, experiences during sex.

Exposing the Roots of Mythical Masculinity - His anger may stem from his failure to live up to the cultural masculine imperatives: strength, success, financial security, sexual prowess, etc.

Anger Out of Bounds - explores anger stemming from selfishness.
When Anger Boils to the Surface - Shows how anger that boils to the surface poisons relationships.

Part II:
Becoming His Greatest Fan
Provides a penetrating look at how women can help men resolve their anger and find peace. Women learn how to:

Be a friend, not a mother.
Appreciate rather than nag
Affirm rather than criticize
Give space instead of crowding
Hold him responsible
Give, don't withhold

Answering the Questions of Manhood -

Am I a man? Am I competent? Do I have worth beyond my paycheck? Can I accept my limitations? Do I have meaning beyond my accomplishments?

Talking It Over Together - How to help your man open up and talk about his feelings.

Learning to Relate - Men and women have the same basic psychological needs, including the need to be significantly involved in the lives of other people. Explains why a man must learn to relate more effectively to others.

Dealing with His Losses - How a man needs to talk to other men about his losses.

Living with a Man at Peace - How a man at peace will change and how to recognize these changes.

When Men Won't Change - What do you do when a man's anger is growing and becoming worse with each new irritation? This discusses drastic measures you can take.

Great insight into how men think and why they are angry and what women can do to help a man find peace.

Of course, if it doesn't work, they recommend "separation."