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Summary: This is an embarrassment to psychology!!!
Review: As a doctorate student currently studying birth order, I am completely embarrassed to even admit that I read the first chapter. Dr. Kevin Leman has NO published scientific studies in regards to Birth Order, (or any published studies that I could find) therefore all of his findings are simply based on his own hokey family experiences, which in no way should be a platform for anyone to advise another how to better themselves. Yes Birth Order has relevance in our love relationships, but most importantly so do the individual differences that make us human and unique, which this author(psychologist) seems to forget.
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Summary: Not all theories have graphs
Review: Don't take a book seriously when it's written by a man who tells how he got free tickets to Disney World because he's a last born. You're better off reading something other than this "guide." Try getting to know someone, instead.
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Summary: My mistake was reading it
Review: Don't take a book seriously when it's written by a man who tells how he got free tickets to Disney World because he's a last born. You're better off reading something other than this "guide." Try getting to know someone, instead.
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Summary: No Connection Here
Review: I found this book to be insulting and unrealistic. Dr. Leman warns readers not to marry anyone who falls into one of the categories of his list of what he calls "red flags". Some of the "red flags" were those who have been sexually abused, those who are selfish and controlling, etc. I agree that some of the "red flags" that Dr. Leman notes should be considered in choosing a mate, however, it's unrealistic that any one person will not have any struggles. If you do choose to read this book, I suggest that you read it subjectively, as this is only one man's view- and it is only an opinion!
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Summary: Interesting but not so objective
Review: I picked up THE BIRTH ORDER CONNECTION with a bit of skepticism. How can the order of your birth have anything to do with finding the right person to marry? It almost made me want to laugh out loud. A few chapters into the book convinced me I was wrong, and I was hooked. Dr. Leman has laid out a fantastic and pragmatic guidebook of principles and steps based upon the order of your birth that really can help you find a more compatible mate (to achieve, as he amusingly puts it, "couple power").Leman bases his thesis on the belief that your total family environment, not just your parents, shapes the kind of person you become. Firsts, middles, lasts, and onlies all have certain strengths and weaknesses that are determined by the roles that they have to play with their siblings. As a result, each birth type has a specific, better match with another birth type. Leman would've lost me if he would've played hard and fast with his rules, but he recognizes that their are exceptions. Sometimes, for example, middle children can take on the role of firstborns, depending on age gaps, the sex of the eldest, etc. It's all a bit complicated, but Leman does an excellent job of explaining the details and why it all works. The whole idea of birth order having such an effect on personality development became incredibly intriguing, but we must move on. So what does this all have to do with relationships? As already stated, Leman believes that each birth position has a better match with another birth position. The strengths of one will counter the weaknesses of another, equaling a better match. Also, understanding birth order can help make relationships and marriages stronger because, as with personality types, to understand birth order is to better understand your spouse. Finally, Leman lays out practical paths to follow in your dating relationships. Asking seven specific questions, for example, can help you determine if you really are compatible with the person you are seeing. Recognizing red flags will help you avoid a life of marital misery. And he lists important reasons to and not to consider when you marry. I've read quite a few books on relationships. Some are good (BOY MEETS GIRL, BOUNDARIES IN DATING) and some are not so good. THE BIRTH ORDER CONNECTION surprised me by being one of the best. Leman's ideas are not set in stone rules, but they are outstanding principles and guidelines that can help you make wise decisions in choosing someone to be with. Do yourself a favor and pick this one up. It's well worth the ... investment. FIVE STARS.
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Summary: Not all theories have graphs
Review: This book is life-changing. Maybe Dr. Leman's theories aren't backed by numerical data, but let's not forget--not all data can be gauged in graphs or contained in charts. In fact, Leman's opinions are backed by something more solid than statistics: his wealth of experience with the human condition. He has counseled virtually thousands of couples and thus lays claim to a vast understanding of personality types as well as the institution of marriage. Leman didn't write this book with the intent to impress some doctorate-seeking skeptic. He wrote it to help his readers use psychology to find marital bliss. It shows.
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