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Summary: Ok, It does have some good advice
Review: A friend gave me this book because according to her it was very good. I've just finished it and I think that it is o.k. It does have some good advice. Some of the chapters that I did like was: #1 the power of the booty- basically just telling you to love your body the way that it is. #5 Get out of his wallet - letting you know that just because he has everything you dream of he might not have what you really want. There were other chapters that I like. Then there are some that I don't - #30 don't ask question you don't want the answer to- Now the examples she gave are not good at all beacuse they were some questions you would want answers to. But overall this was a o.k book. It's a tell it like it is and some women need that.
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Summary: Too much vernacular and too little wisdom
Review: As a single sistah, I thoroughly enjoyed this book. Not only did it make me laugh, it made me think. I think that Denene gave some really good advice, and I recommend it wholeheartedly to young sistahs everywhere. Keep up the good work Denene!!
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Summary: This book was funny, down to earth, and hilarious!
Review: As a well-educated African-American woman (NJ attorney), I am appalled by the readers whom attempted to review a book they obviously didn't read. It appears from reading their review (3 women and 1 man) that they simply read the chapter titles, misquoted them, then proceeded to write their review. For example, there is no chapter entitled "work the booty". If the readers had actually read this chapter which is correctly entitled "Celebrate the Power of the Booty", they would have quickly realized that this chapter deals with the self-image of the African-American woman and overcoming society's narrow beauty standards. I read the book and I enjoyed it. I thought it was witty, though-provoking and entertaining.
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Summary: Too much vernacular and too little wisdom
Review: I get nervous when general cultural phenomenoms, like woman finds husband, have to be reinterpreted for black people. I don't see the dating game any different for black women as it is for anyone else in the mainstream. Demand high standards and you either get them or your time won't be wasted.I find the advice in this book to be contradictory. On the one hand we are told to consider men who don't make a lot of money since rich (black) men may not have morals, but then we are told he's a keeper if he wears Armani suits. Well, that's alright then. In the author's constant quest to convince us to prioritize asset challenged men on our dance cards, the author tells us about the (bitter) sweet tale of her parents: Her father who is an honest, hardworking yada, yada man who married her mother. Thirty years later, while he's paying two mortagages and a few other necessities, the author tells us her 57 year old mother still has to work to make ends meet. And, she's very happy, the author reassures us. What I want to know, what is that second mortgage that her father is paying on for? In one chapter, the author tells us that black men don't like women who play games. She doesn't define game playing, but I define it as doing something that you don't want to do at that moment but will do for some long term gain. The author makes a direct attack on The Rules (by Sherrie Fein and Ellen Schneider). The author doesn't agree that one should turn down a Saturday night date on Wednesday; but she does advocate turning down a Saturday night date by Friday at lunch time. What should I do then if I want to see this guy on Saturday night and he has called just after I have eaten my lunch? She also advises women to leave the guy's house immediately after you have sex with him. The reason she gives for this is that you will show him what a strong independent woman you are. Excuse me? Has she contemplated the security risk that she has created for anyone who wants to do a runner in the night? And wouldn't this also be classified as 'game playing' as most people prefer semi-civilized habits like sharing breakfast after doing the deed and before parting. Ultimately,though if anyone is still worried that the other may consider their sex partner clingy and needy, may be sex just shouldn't occur in the first place. Funny, that the author didn not consider that option. This is an awful book. It does nothing to increase the self-esteem of black women. She never advocates interracial dating (in fact, she advises us to set our targets lower because black men don't make as much money as white men do) but then if she did, the book may not have been published. I just don't particularly care for being put into a group of 'special needs.' For the record, I am a black American and I don't need to validate what I have just written by telling you what level of education that I have attained or that I am a corporate lawyer or that I am pursuing any other profession.
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Summary: Do your thang Girl!!!
Review: I think this book that was written by Denene, was EXCEELENT! I think all women should read it and perhaps, take notes. I found that reading this book that in many ways the things that were said can help a realationsip in the long run and in the run. One of my favorite Rules of the book was "Don't Judge Him By Your Last Realationship." That is so damn true. Because I could realate to it and it was BLUNTLY told in many aspects, of how not to judge him by your past realtionship. Now come on, we all know we, and possibly our friends or someone we know have done it, I have. Well, she tells you how it is and how to keep alive to the best of your ability if you wanna be with him. Sistah's Read this BOOK! It's great. Now, go check this book out A.S.A.P. KEEP DOIN YOUR THANG D' and don't worry about the HATERS'
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Summary: FOR THOSE JUST OUT OF THE STARTING GATE &/OR NEED TUTORING..
Review: Ms. Millner's book was informative, insightful and downright hilarious!!! I'm "back on the market" and got her book b/c I didn't want to make the same mistake twice, and I've learned that I'm on the right track. The only things that bothered me were her insinuations throughout "...Rules" that sex is a given in this day and age with or without a commited relationship(it's NOT!!!), that it's cool to shack up (like you 2 won't change anymore when the marriage certificate is signed), and there were NO TIPS OR POINTERS WHATSOEVER FOR SINGLE MOTHERS, WHICH COMPRISE THE MAJORITY OF THE SISTERS!! AND HOW ABOUT HOW TO DEAL W/ THE BROTHERS W/ KIDS???!!! Nothing about those topics...zero, zilch, NADA!!! Don't get me wrong: it's a wonderful book that I'm glad to have, and a lot of it is essential for dealing with brothers today (particularly sisters shallow enough to only look for beamers and benzes, those who think their weave needs to be tightened before a brother will speak to them, etc.), but I will have to just pick and choose what I feel comfortable with and look for other sources when it comes to single mother dating advice. thanks Ms. Millner though, for a great start!!!
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Summary: HATED IT!!!!
Review: Really, really, really. Thank God for the Money Back Guarantee. I'm not trying to disrespect Ms. Millner, but seriously, she can't be serious. To publish "Rules" that are basic common sense (free) to most of us intellectual/intelligent, mature women, is an insult. I am an avid reader of what the book stores have labeled "self-help" books. I don't read them necessarily because I need "hel" or I need someone to educate me on myself, my man or my relationship. I just like good reading about our culture and trying to understand how we - as individuals - feel sometimes. This book did nothing for me. I read it during my lunch hour and returned it on my way home. NOTE: Where I live, the ratio of men to women is 2:20 (a small exaggeration). If this book helped 2 of these women successfully secure these 2 available men, it may be worth the $10.00.
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Summary: Better than "The Rules" but still not quite right.
Review: Some sections of this book were quite obviously written in response to the Cosmopolitan version of "The Rules". The author states (correctly) in the beginning that the tactics white women use will not (in most cases)work with a Black man. There are some situations that are unique to a black relationship and she deals with many of them in a refreshing, honest, and practical manner. However, I found some of her "rules" to be offensive -- such as, don't wait until you love a man to sleep with him. Now, as a young, Christian woman, I don't believe in pre-marital sex, much less sex without love. Millner makes some disparaging comments about waiting for a ring, and leaves it at that. But I think that she should have been more sensitive and respectful of those women who do choose to wait for marriage or a deeper commitment before sharing their bodies with a man. All, in all, howver, the book was pretty entertaining.
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Summary: Not worth the money
Review: This book would be informative for those who just are out there trying to get a man and nothing else. Some of the suggestions in this book are ludicrous. If you are a self confident woman and know what you want in life, this book is definitely not for you. If you are just subsisting, and trying to find a man to make you, well I suppose this book would help that plan. Furthermore, how can a female write a book on how to get a man, and what keeps him. Wouldn't it make more sense to have a collaboration effort with both a man and a woman on the subject? Or just a man to explain to us women what attracts them to us????? Just some food for thought.
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Summary: Cute
Review: This is books is not the secret to getting a man or anything. However, you may read some things that can change how you go about getting into relationships. I just took this as a good read, and the "African-American" version of the other rules books out on the market. It's cute.
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