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Rating: Summary: Self-Help on the Hurry Up Review: I encountered this gem as a wannabe text book in 1998.
The author makes a big deal out of using movies as a self help device. The problem I have with this book how the author judges the movies he presents. Get a copy and read "Solomon's" description of your favorite movie. It as if he stretches his views and theory's around a movie that just are not there. A case in point is The Great Santini / The Gift of Fury (1979). A coming of age movie with a dedicated Marine Pilot as the father. Gary Solomon treats this movie as Child Abuse. Gary misses the point completely. Once you begin to actually look at the movies he recommends his Prescription falls flat on its face! It is the same self help mumbo jumbo for a buck that hits the book stores every day. I would go so far as to say this is a Toxic book. Toxic in the same way as using aspirin to grow hair on your head.
If a college instructor hands this book to you hand it back and drop the class.
Rating: Summary: Self-Help on the Hurry Up Review: I was skeptical when I read the book but when I put the author's suggestions into practice I found it to be a great experience. As an added bonus I got to enjoy some movies that I never would have watched otherwise. The key is to follow the author's suggestions about how to use the movies in one's healing process and not just watch the movie(s). I highly recommend the book particularly for those who want to explore relationship issues.
Rating: Summary: Gaining Insight About Life at the Movies Review: Reading this book helped me see into an issue that perplexed me in life: why helping others could be my way of using others to meet my own needs. By watching When A Man Loves a Woman, I could see how a 'fixer' needs someone to fix to feel 'good,' even if that means wanting/needing someone else to stay broken.It was a painful truth I could not see about myself when it was explained to me, but one I could see clearly by watching this film and using the cues offered in this wonderful book. Of the many valuable insights I gained about myself from this book, one other stands out. I'd spent a lifetime listening to ernest friends explaining why my esoteric, off the wall humor was 'off-putting' to people who didn't know me. Watching a film with a character who sat in the background making esoteric, off the wall comments, I finally understood in a deep, clear, embarassing way what my friends had been trying to tell me: I was unintentionally coming across as strange and disconnected to others. I believe this book does a great service by bringing therapeutic insights and healing to people who cannot afford therapy. In my case, it also offered a way for me to learn about myself in a quiet way, without feeling a need to defend, explain or justify myself: I was just watching a movie. As a character comments in When A Man Loves a Woman, 'Denial's not just a river in Egypt.' With the help of this book, I could see truths I'd denied about myself. I recommend this book heartily to others struggling with life issues.
Rating: Summary: Gaining Insight About Life at the Movies Review: Reading this book helped me see into an issue that perplexed me in life: why helping others could be my way of using others to meet my own needs. By watching When A Man Loves a Woman, I could see how a 'fixer' needs someone to fix to feel 'good,' even if that means wanting/needing someone else to stay broken. It was a painful truth I could not see about myself when it was explained to me, but one I could see clearly by watching this film and using the cues offered in this wonderful book. Of the many valuable insights I gained about myself from this book, one other stands out. I'd spent a lifetime listening to ernest friends explaining why my esoteric, off the wall humor was 'off-putting' to people who didn't know me. Watching a film with a character who sat in the background making esoteric, off the wall comments, I finally understood in a deep, clear, embarassing way what my friends had been trying to tell me: I was unintentionally coming across as strange and disconnected to others. I believe this book does a great service by bringing therapeutic insights and healing to people who cannot afford therapy. In my case, it also offered a way for me to learn about myself in a quiet way, without feeling a need to defend, explain or justify myself: I was just watching a movie. As a character comments in When A Man Loves a Woman, 'Denial's not just a river in Egypt.' With the help of this book, I could see truths I'd denied about myself. I recommend this book heartily to others struggling with life issues.
Rating: Summary: A very resourceful tool for the journey of life. Review: This book helped me to understand the complexities of several of my own struggles. I was able to look up a movie with a similiar theme or situation and use it to see the my situation as an observer.
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