Overcoming Frustration and Anger

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Summary: Best advice I've found.
Review: I have just completed writing a three-part article for my company on understanding and dealing with frustration. After weeks of research on the topic, this was definately the most helpful resource I found on dealing with frustration and anger. Instead of being just another self-help book attempting to make you feel better about yourself, it provided concrete steps to change the way you think and feel when confronted with frustration. The idea that you create your own emotions to an event is very helpful. It takes you from where you are today, right now, and gives you a way to be a happier and more pleasant person.

Rating:
Summary: Best advice I've found.
Review: I have just completed writing a three-part article for my company on understanding and dealing with frustration. After weeks of research on the topic, this was definately the most helpful resource I found on dealing with frustration and anger. Instead of being just another self-help book attempting to make you feel better about yourself, it provided concrete steps to change the way you think and feel when confronted with frustration. The idea that you create your own emotions to an event is very helpful. It takes you from where you are today, right now, and gives you a way to be a happier and more pleasant person.

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Summary: a good idea but poorly presented
Review: Paul suggest that recognizing a conflict between what you want and what you are getting doesn't need to result in anger. That sounds like a wonderful idea to me. However, Paul goes on to suggest many frustrating scenarios and more importantly that other people have the right to frustrate you in those manners without receiving any punishment. He emphasizes that we must avoid anger by simply accepting that life is unfair. The book almost reads like an extended series of taunts. He argues that punishment is wrong. He encourages self defense, but suggests that a bully who beats up your child should not be punished. He even suggests that capital punishment is completely ineffective, because it does not correct the homocidal behavior. Overall, I think Paul could have made his point by emphasizing the value of compassion instead of simply telling the reader that others have the right to abuse you. As Paul suggested, simply telling someone they are wrong does NOT tell them HOW to be right. Paul did not explain how I could convince the bully to stop being a bully. He did suggest that loving thy enemies was the only way to win their friendship, but he didn't explain how to go about loving them while they beat up your kid. Most of the text is wasted on frustrating scenarios followed by the equivalent of a statement that suggests anger is wrong. I think Paul should have provided more step by step examples of the right things to do. Simply saying that a tire has the right to be flat and that life is unfair does not solve the problem. I would have felt better if Paul provided instructions on how to fix a flat tire. If you already believe that feeling angry does not solve problems and that compassion and assertive communication are a way to avoid anger, then I doubt this book has anything else to offer to you.

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Summary: Surprisingly insightful and useful
Review: The book contains ideas that (to me, at least) were each "well kept secrets." If you want success in dealing with people for whatever reason and find yourself angry or frustrated with your dealings, this book will help you.

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Summary: This book was so bad I could not finish it....
Review: There is a phrase that I like to use "Culturally induced tourettes" This is where something in mother culture happens and makes you swear. This book induced this behavior. After reading the first few chapters I wanted to shoot myself in the head and shoot the idiot protagonist Ms. Baker. Here is a woman that this author has taught to be Pollyanna. Her estranged husband is pissing away their life savings and destroying their life together. Ms. Baker will likely find herself homeless because of his actions; however, while the Titanic is sinking Mr. Hauck has convinced her to smile and be pleasant about it, firmly living a reality called denial. I don't often condone censorship but in this case I may, however on the other hand, those who find this book helpful will be better served by the inevitably of natural selection. On a bright note, I think I have a good use for this book; I'll line my pet's cage with it.

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Summary: Best book i came across on anger
Review: This is wonderful book from paul hauck.Many authors focus on controlling anger but paul does that job as well as suggesting tips how not to be doormant.There is difference between frustration and Anger.Many people when abused or taken advantage by others keep their frustrations inside without addressing them by talking over or do something about it.This causes built up feelings which may give rise to anger though it is ourselves creating anger.Paul Hauck suggests ways to shows your frustration as well (assertion) as as how to avoid anger in first place.This is what makes book a masterpiece.If we have options to stand up for ourselves,we don't have to put up with nonsense of others.But we can do this without anger.That is what the book is all about.
Once the principles in the book are followed with discipline,we get enormous peace inside and outside and infact it is secret of attracting others.